The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up. 🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom We're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping consent to using fear instead of leadership. You'll learn how to spot red flags and what real D/s dynamic should look like. Doms (and subs), listen up! ➡️ Fake Dom quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fa...

#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what no one tells you. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/095

#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong? ✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccess We're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punishment-first training to ignoring a Dom's emotional needs. If you've ever felt like you're doing BDSM “wrong,” this is the truth you’ve been waiting for. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubl...

#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?” If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even without a partner. Tune in now to start owning your role with confidence. ➡️ Join the free bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more...

#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp! ➡️ Free Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/092

#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.” 📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contract Is Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened the door for millions? In this deep dive, we're breaking down what it got wrong (and very wrong), what it got right, and why it still matters. Hit play and get ready to move beyond fiction. ➡️ Free BDSM contract templa...

#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands? 👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominant We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control. ➡️ Access the fre...

#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.” 🔥 Grab your own TPE blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprint In this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriving. ➡️ Total Power Exchange Blueprint: https://d...

#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention? ✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community We're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/088 ❤...

#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous? 👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist We're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong. ➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: https://domsu...

#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes. ➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': https://kinkyourway.com ➡️ Explore our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/course...

#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again. 🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at https://domsubliving.com/free We're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink!  ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/f...

#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle? 🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dominant Turns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriti...

#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way? 👉 Grab free resources at https://domsubliving.com/free . In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that c...

#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? 🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to put these ideas into action? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep require...

#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think. ❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guide We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and...

#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub? 🎯 Want to build real D/s dynamics instead of relying on AI? Grab my free BDSM Scene Template at domsubliving.com/scene ! It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI...

#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives? 🔥 Ready to level up your Dom/sub game? Check out https://domsubtraining.com We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whet...

#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either. 🚀 Get your free How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide at https://domsubliving.com/dom Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way t...

#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes! Want to go deeper with me on BDSM and D/s dynamics? Check out my free resources to enhance your journey: https://domsubliving.com/free Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play...

#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new. 👉 Snag a free ticket to the next summit at https://domsubdynamics.com/ Alesandra and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological side of things like power play. Whether...

#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think! ✅ Download your free checklist of over 50 different kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist today! We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also...

#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques! 🔥 Read a real-life sensation play scene in action: https://domsubliving.com/scene Ever wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experiences! Explore contrasting sensations, the mag...

#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone! 💪 Master the Dom/sub lifesyle: https://domsubliving.com/free We're revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic with confidence! ➡️ Access the free Re...

#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship? 🔥 Grab our free BDSM resources at https://domsubliving.com/free In this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink, navigating D/s dynamics with kids, and why comm...