The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Wouldn't you just love the superpower of letting go? If so, you're in luck! Jill Sherer Murray is a T EDx speaker and influencer, author, blogger, coach, and founder of Let Go For It®, a lifestyle brand dedicated to helping individuals let go for a better life. Jill is my guest on the podcast this week and she's going to share all about harnessing the power of letting go. Yes, letting go can feel...

Recently in my Facebook Group for women deciding if they should stay or go in their marriage, I asked the members to share their most burning questions about divorce. And I received an overwhelming response. The topics ranged from, "How can I leave my marriage if I have no emotional support and can't support myself financially?" to "What do I do if I don't have the courage to leave him?"  And, eve...

This week I welcome Jennifer Butler to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. Jennifer Butler, MSW, is a certified Calling in "The One" coach, certified health coach, writer, and podcast host dedicated to helping people fall deeply in love with themselves and awaken to their own internal power to create joy, love, and freedom in their lives. In fact, Jennifer recently interviewed me for the podcast s...

A few weeks ago, I posted in my Facebook group that I was going to write a flip book called, Not Your Fucking Job . And it was going to be a very simple book about all the things that are not your fucking job to do for your spouse or partner. You know, things like: Helping him heal his childhood wounds? NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB. Teaching him how to be a good parent? NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB. Proving your...

They say that January is "Divorce Month." As the new year rolls in, you may be ready to finally make some changes. And if you are, you're far from alone. This is because of the number of women who hit the ropes following the holiday is enormous. In fact, that was me, on Christmas Eve, eleven years ago. If you believe your impending divorce is going to involve a high-conflict co-parenting situation...

As you know I'm a huge fan of the co-parenting app, FAYR. Today I have FAYR's founder and CEO, Michael Daniels, as my guest. (ICYMI, FAYR is a collaboration app for co-parents, available for both iPhone and Android.) I adore Michael and his app because he's not just a tech-dude trying to ride the app wave. He's a divorced dad who has personally shared the experiences of FAYR's users — including th...

This week I am taking some time off to celebrate the Christmas holiday. If you celebrate Christmas, well then, Merry Christmas to you!  A break this week means no new podcast episode. But, I still got you covered.  Instead, I am re-airing my interview with Lindsey Ellison.  Lindsey is the author of the book,  MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist .  Navigating co-parenting any ti...

Today I am bringing you an interview with Adèle Théron . Adèle is an author, trauma and divorce specialist, founder of Naked Recovery and runs an award-winning 21-day divorce recovery program called The Naked Divorce. We have an amazing conversation about anger and how powerful of an emotion it can be for women to embrace.  So, let's talk about anger for a moment. It is such a misunderstood emotio...

This week's episode is about trauma bonding. I've been doing a lot of research on trauma bonding recently because it comes up with so many of my clients and members of my groups. In doing the research I realized that I had a trauma bond in a relationship that ended only five and a half years ago. What this means is that a good five years into my coaching career, fifteen years into my codependency...

This week, Jonathon Aslay, America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach, joins me to discuss the importance of learning how to love yourself. In this episode, Jonathon shares his divorce story and his journey to self-love, and how that journey prepared him for the biggest hardship yet to come. His story is a powerful testament to personal development and self-work. As you've heard me say before, there...

Today I am talking about what to do when your husband or spouse tells you, "NOW, I want go to therapy…." And boy, this is a big one. In fact, it is very common too. And I have thoughts, I have so many thoughts.  Here's the scenario: You've been unhappy for a while. Maybe a long-ass while. You've told your husband you're unhappy. You've asked him to go to therapy with you. Often multiple times. May...

This week on the podcast I am joined by CDC Certified Divorce Coach®, Debra Doak. Debra specializes in helping women make hard decisions about marriage, divorce, money, and life. She is also an author, speaker, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® who loves giving women the confidence they need to speak up in their relationships or at the negotiating table. Her new book, High Conflict Divorce...

This week I am bringing you a solo episode! As I continue to roll out weekly episodes, you'll hear more solo episodes, like this one, from me.  And of course, I'll continue to produce interview episodes as well. Weekly episodes means more support and resources for you; and more fun for me. Win-win! This week I'm bringing you a training I did as a webinar last year about whether or not you should s...

This week I am joined by the fabulous, Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. Gabrielle is a leading divorce attorney and is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate . Gabrielle founded the positive divorce movement and is known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom.  With her book, Better Apart , she has created a complete Bible on how to get th...

Divorce coach Karen McMahon joins me on the show this week. In 2010, after discovering that the pain of dissolving her marriage had been the very stimulus for her personal transformation, she started Journey Beyond Divorce. Her practice allows her to  help men and women navigate the emotional difficulties of relationships, breakups, and divorce. You must know, I am down with that story. In fact, o...

Dr. Natalie Jones is a licensed professional clinical counselor specializing in helping women overcome abusive relationships with narcissists. I really hate that this is so prevalent in my work, but it is. I also dislike that narcissism and narcissistic abuse take up so much time in my practice. However, they do and I am a true believer that understanding narcissism and how to navigate divorce and...

This week's episode is a companion episode to my last episode with Rebecca Zung (which you can find here) . This week Rebecca's partner, Susan Guthrie, is my guest. Susan is the Chair of the American Bar Association's Mediation Committee and founded, along with Rebecca Zung, Breaking Free Mediation which provides mediation services across the country through an online platform. If you've listened...

This week Rebecca Zung, one of the top 1% divorce attorneys in the nation, joins me to talk all about the subtleties of negotiating a divorce. I first met Rebecca, in-person, when recording an interview for Laura Wasser's podcast , Divorce Sucks . It's always such a welcomed opportunity whenever I get to meet guests I have on this podcast, in real life.  Ah, divorce negotiations. They can truly su...

Divorce is a transactional process. You are making decisions about property, money, and time. It's not a referendum on the emotional state—who did what, who's right or who's wrong. "If that's what you're litigating, you're setting yourself for financial and legal disaster," this week's guest, Kimberly Nelson, says. Kimberly has been working with high net worth divorcees in the LA area for more tha...

The prospect of divorce is daunting. And with it comes some very harsh realities: deciding whether you should stay or go, fears surrounding your child's well-being, and even what life will look like after divorce. Wouldn't it be great if science could help us with life's hardest decisions? Well, this week's episode is allll about the science behind love and divorce.  Duana Welch, author of Love Fa...

Hey everyone, I am away this week, taking a short summer break. While I am away, I am re-airing one of my most downloaded and popular episodes. And don't worry, I will be back with a brand new episode in a couple of weeks. ======== This episode features guest Quentin Hafner.  Quentin is a Marriage and Family Therapist who works with couples and men in his private practice in Orange County, CA. In...

This week's episode is centered around relationships - surprise ! Okay, while it's not really a surprise that we are talking about relationships on a podcast about divorce, we do talk about a phrase that is a hot button topic and one I haven't explored in the show much yet: toxic masculinity.   I searched far and wide for the perfect person to have a conversation about this topic and I found him....

This week I am excited to bring you a conversation with Emma Johnson. Emma is a business journalist, gender equality activist and a bestselling author of, The Kick-Ass Single Mom. She's also the founder of WealthySingleMommy.com, the world's largest platform for single moms and  Moms for Shared Parenting, an activist organization aimed at making shared parenting the norm. And today, shared parenti...

This week I welcome Debra Rogers to the podcast. Debra is a writer, blogger, break-up coach and speaker. She is the author of, He Did You A Favor . And she is also one of my real-life friends!  Fun-fact about today's episode, this is the first face-to-face interview I've done. And it was so.much.fun!   In this episode, Debra and I talk about divorce (obviously), more specifically how she handled t...

Today I have a great interview with Dr. Natalie Jones, who is a licensed professional clinical counselor specializing in helping women overcome abusive relationships with narcissists. I really hate that this is so prevalent in my work, but it is. I also dislike that narcissism and narcissistic abuse take up so much time in my practice. However, they do and I am a true believer that understanding n...