The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

This week on the show, we have a woman who has been crowned The Fairy Godmother of Divorce by the New York Post ! Nicole Noon, Esq. is a nationally recognized divorce expert and pioneer of divorce funding.   And she's super cool.   So what is divorce funding? It's very much like getting an advance so that you can afford to go through your divorce. If you've decided it is time to leave your marriag...

When the Black Lives Matter movement rose up more powerfully than ever in the wake of the murder of George Floyd, I checked in with the Black women in my Facebook group to see how they were doing.  Obviously, they weren't doing too well. But one thing they were struggling with surprised me: the guilt they felt around leaving Black men in the midst of this rise in racial tension. Because the Black...

Kundalini Yoga provides you the chance to be more introverted, relate more to your subtle nature, heal your inner wounds, and navigate your intuition system. When you check-in with your intuition, as Kundalini helps you to do, you inherently get answers to some of your deepest, most difficult questions, including, "Should I stay or should I go?" As we enter the final week of sex and intimacy month...

Are you ready to take your sexy back? As we enter another week of sex and intimacy month on the podcast, I am bringing you one of my favorite people to talk to about sex and relationships, Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Dr. Solomon is the author of the books Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Rel...

When we're talking about marriage, sex is an important topic. So in the month of July,  we are talking ALL about sex and intimacy. I'm kicking off the month with Dr. Joe Kort. Dr. Joe is a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist who is trained in Sex Therapy and Imago Relationship Therapy (you know I love my Imago peeps!). Dr. Kort specializes in working with sexual dysfunction, relationship conce...

This week, Dr. Elizabeth Cohen and I discuss how to cope when your partner has an active addiction. Underneath everything you are going through, there is so much fear and a lack of belief in yourself.  Everything about a divorce is uncomfortable. Dr. Elizabeth Cohen helps people get a little more comfortable with something so painful. When you're living with or divorcing a partner who has an activ...

I am excited to bring you my interview with my dear friend, Wendy Sterling. Wendy and I are talking about healing and reclaiming ownership of your voice and identity after divorce. Wendy is a Divorce Recovery Specialist, a certified life coach, writer, author, and speaker who founded The Divorce Rehab™.  Wendy and I are book-ends when it comes to divorce and coaching. I work with women before thei...

Today, Kimberly Nelson, Financial Advisor, CFA®, and CDFA comes back to the podcast to discuss financial resources and strategies to help you maneuver through divorce and debt during COVID-19. The global pandemic has created an uncertain financial time for many. Instability in employment and, directly related, instability in spousal or child support you may be receiving, are just two of the financ...

This week I am sharing the story of Miry Whitehill, a divorcee who founded the non-profit organization Miry's List. During a painful time in her marriage, Miry found herself in a spot where she could help a refugee family who just arrived in the United States. Today, she shares how volunteering and starting Miry's List filled her life with gratitude and love, which she had lost so long ago.  MIry'...

"If you think what's going on all across the U.S. doesn't have anything to do with what's going on inside your marriage, you're dead wrong." That's a line from one of my recent Instagram posts about this week's podcast topic.   So what do racism and systemic racism (AKA white supremacy) have to do with your marriage, exactly?  The same systems that are oppressing and killing black men right now, t...

Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo still share a happy life with their son Asher and their spouses and children.  As we continue Parenting Month on The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, Ben and Nikki join me to discuss their happy divorce story. Yes, happy . There is no villain in their story. As you'll hear in this episode, they came to a spot...

This week Christina McGhee, a divorce parenting expert whose practical advice has been highlighted both online and in print, is on the show. She is also the author of Parenting Apart , a book for divorced or separated parents. Christina is helping me kick off Parenting Month and I couldn't think of anybody better to do so! She is an advocate for keeping the focus on kids even during the most emoti...

This week I'm bringing you a solo episode, and I'm talking all about negative intimacy and forgiveness. First, let's talk about negative intimacy. In a nutshell, negative intimacy is the continuation of unhealthy dynamics of your marriage long into your divorce — something I engaged in for about five years post-divorce! In this episode, I offer some questions to ask if you think you're in a negati...

This week Erin Levine, entrepreneur, legal innovator, and Certified Family Law Specialist, joins me on the podcast. She's here to help close out Legal Month. (Don't worry, I'll surely be revisiting legal topics in the future!) Erin is the founder of Hello Divorce, a modern breakup service, offering affordable, convenient, and online divorce options. I'm thrilled to have Erin on the show. Most of t...

Last week we talked about mediation with Susan Guthrie . This week, as we continue Legal Month on the pod, we're exploring the concept of Collaborative Divorce with Andrea Vacca.  Andrea Vacca is the owner of Vacca Family Law Group, a law firm in Manhattan that focuses exclusively on non-adversarial divorce and family law matters.    Andrea describes Collaborative Divorce as a team approach to div...

April is legal month on The Divorce Survival Guide podcast.  Today, one of my favorite people on the planet returns to the show. Susan Guthrie joins me to talk about mediation and divorce. Susan is a nationally recognized Top Family Law and Mediation Attorney, and has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for 30 years.  When it comes to your impending divorce, if yo...

Trauma may not be what you think. We all have it and we all suffer from it to varying degrees — especially those who are in abusive relationships. There's so much trauma that comes along with abuse and also so much trauma that led us there in the first place.   In this week's episode, we're talking about complex trauma with Gwynn Raimondi. Gwynn defines complex trauma as anything that happened whe...

This week I'm sharing my recommendations for co-parenting during the COVID-19 pandemic. If you're a member of my Facebook group or follow me on Instagram, you may have heard me talking about how there are no shelter-in-place or quarantine guidelines for divorced families, especially those with blended families. We are told to stay home or to shelter-in-place, but what is a quarantine when you have...

It's therapy month on the Divorce Survival Guide podcast! ICYMI: I've decided to organize podcast episodes into monthly themes, and right now, we're in the middle of Therapy Month !  Joining me to discuss all things Imago Therapy for couples is Dr. Sarah Schewitz. Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love and relationships and is the founder of the successful online psycho...

This week I'm talking about how to deal with the other woman in your ex or soon-to-be ex's life. The woman he cheated on you with, or the one he met after you... you know, the one he's introducing to your kids…? You have a lot of feelings about this, most of which are perfectly valid, but are you acting on those feelings in the right way? What are the boundaries here? What's a reasonable request f...

Not all therapists are good. Not all therapists have the advanced training necessary to help you as an individual or as a couple. Not all therapists have your best interests in mind.  If you are contemplating divorce, want to work on past trauma, or work on your relationship, you need a good therapist to guide you. So, how do you find a good therapist? That's the topic of this week's episode.  If...

This week I wanted to expand on a topic I discussed in my Facebook group and on an Instagram IGTV video. It's around the topic of forgiveness entitlement. In this episode, I also talk about addiction or abuse, and why you can't force someone to get help.  So, your spouse says they're doing the work and they seem to be doing all the right things. But you still can't trust them and they don't unders...

This week we are talking all about sexuality and intimacy after divorce. My guest is Leslie Morgan Steiner, a New York Times best-selling author, columnist for The Washington Post, speaker on work/family balance, successful corporate executive – and domestic violence survivor.  Two truths can co-exist. You can be relieved your soon-to-be ex is moving out and grief-stricken at the same time. You ca...

I asked a friend who is going through a divorce what I should talk about on this week's episode. He said I should talk about cravings.  And he offered what he meant by saying this, "Given the shit happening in the world, we turn to safety, fantasy, and imagination to numb our true selves and we give up the authentic fight." How beautiful is that? There is so much happening in the world right now. ...