The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Today I am happy to bring you my conversation with Laura Wasser, a family law attorney, author of It Doesn't Have to Be That Way , entrepreneur, and family law expert. She is also the founder of the online divorce platform, it's over easy. Through her platform she provides an online divorce solution that guides men and women through every aspect of divorce, saving them tons of time and money. Duri...

The topic of boundaries often comes up in my Facebook groups and with my clients.  If you're in an unhappy marriage, getting divorced, or already divorced, boundaries are constantly shifting and changing. As you maneuver through divorce or get acclimated to life after divorce, you might be having to hold your boundaries more firmly than ever before. Or maybe you're reading this and thinking, "I re...

This week my colleague, Lindsey Ellison is joining me to talk all about how to co-parent with a narcissist.  She is the author of the book, MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist . If you have an ex who's a narcissist, you've probably read every book out there about communicating with one. And the advice always given is, go no contact . But for those of us who have to actually co-...

This week I'm thrilled to introduce you to Tracey Coates. Tracey has been practicing family law for over 15 years. She is also the host of the podcast, The Divorce Chronicles, a practical resource for those thinking about or in the midst of a divorce.  That last part, it sounds familiar, doesn't it? Yes, Tracey and I have a lot of similar ideas about the divorce process, which is just one of the m...

Today I have a very special guest on the podcast. Well, I feel like all of my guests are very special. I rarely have anyone on my podcast that I don't know well, either personally or professionally. It's important to me to bring to you people I know, trust and believe in their message - today is no exception. It is my pleasure to introduce you to Annie Grace, creator and founder of This Naked Mind...

This week's guest is Silvy Khoucasian. She is a Relationship Coach who specializes in attachment styles as well as creating healthy boundaries. I invited her onto my podcast with the hope of having a rich conversation about attachment styles. Oh and we absolutely did have a rich and amazing conversation! If you are thinking, "Alright, Kate, what's up with attachment styles and why are they importa...

This week I am so excited to introduce you to Cynthia Loy Darst. Cynthia is a Co-Active Coach, relationship worker and keynote speaker. She is also the author of the book, Meet Your Inside Team: How to Turn Internal Conflict into Clarity and Move Forward with Your Life. Cynthia holds a very special place in my heart. She was my first coach and mentor when I began my own coaching journey. The entir...

I am so excited to share with you my guest interview with Isabel Foxen Duke. I have to admit to being a little bit of a fangirl of Isabel and her work. I have struggled through a lot of the stuff that Isabel is so brilliant with working with women on like weight-cycling, food issues, and emotional eating. She helps women stop feeling crazy around food. So, are you always on the diet wagon or waaaa...

This week I welcome back returning guest and friend, Quentin Hafner. You may have first heard Quentin in the episode, Should I Stay or Should I Go , which is my most downloaded episode to date! So, since he is such a likeable guy (and a serious rockstar therapist), I thought it would be great to have him back. I often get emails from men who don't know where to turn after being told by their wife...

I always love talking to professionals who have been through the process of divorce. So I'm really happy today to have Christina Lynn, of Lynn Financial, join me on the podcast. Christina was a stay-at-home mom until she got divorced. After her divorce, she re-invented herself and went from having nothing to creating a thriving financial practice. She and I have a really great conversation today a...

I am really happy to welcome Robert Kandell as today's guest. Rob has authored a book, called unHIDDEN - A Book for Men and Those Who Are Confused By Them , that will be available very soon. In the meantime, you can download a sample chapter on his website. I did, and something that really struck me about it was the idea of 'coming out'. On the show today Rob explains how you can bridge the commun...

I'm super excited to bring you my latest podcast episode with my dear friend Andrea Owen of Your Kick-Ass Life.  I've been a guest on Andrea's podcast quite a number of times now, so I feel honored to finally have her on mine! Andrea and I have spoken many times privately over the years about the grief that goes along with divorce, most importantly the unexpected grief of losing precious extended...

The hits just keep on going, don't they? I'm recording this show a few days after the shooting in the synagogue in Pittsburgh. I'm realizing that by the time this show airs, we will have probably been hit by even more atrocities. This is relevant to today's show because I will be discussing trusting your intuition; trusting your gut, and knowing where to find that. I've never specifically identifi...

On the show today, I am thrilled to be joined by my great friend and colleague, Rhian Lockard. Rhian Lockard is a multi-certified life coach, an empath, an ordained interfaith minister, a certified life coach, and an expert on emotional abuse. She currently runs a program called Divine Communication , in which I am enrolled, and it helps you connect with your spirit guide, your intuition, and so m...

In this episode I interview psychologist, author, and speaker, Dr. Valerie Baker who pioneers healing Patriarchy Stress Disorder™ (PSD)--the trauma of 1000s of years of oppression imprinted in women's DNA. Dr. Valerie calls PSD the invisible inner prison that keeps women from experiencing their ultimate success and happiness. In over 20,000 hours of her work as a therapist and coach to successful...

This week I bring on a Divorce Coach who specializes in the legal aspects of divorce. Jason Levoy is a former divorce attorney turned divorce coach who helps people navigate the divorce process from an attorney's point of view. He works with both people who have attorneys and those who don't. He is the creator of the most comprehensive online divorce coaching resource on the internet, DivorceU. Yo...

In this episode, I discuss the top reasons marriage end, and break down what I believe are deal-breakers in each category:  Infidelity Addiction Lack of support Communication issues Money problems Lack of individual identity Unrealistic expectations I also tell you about my wine-tasting vacation with my mom, and how my ex-husband helped me get a brand new $3,000 mattress FOR FREE!!! **************...

In this solo episode, I talk about coming out of a pretty dark depression, and then move on to how taking personal responsibility can be the most empowering thing you can do for yourself, your marriage, and your divorce. I tell the story of when I was in nursery school and was told to apologize and literally couldn't, do a pretty amazing impression of my mom, and tell a really personal story about...

My guest this week is Quentin Hafner. Quentin is a Marriage and Family Therapist who works with couples and men in his private practice in Orange County, CA. In this episode Quentin and I dissect the biggest question of all:  Should I Stay or Should I Go In the course of this conversation we cover:  Quentin's 6 non-negotiables in a relationship and what they should really mean for you. Quentin's v...

This week on the podcast, I interview Jessa Zimmerman, a  licensed sex therapist and couples' counselor.  Jessa specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured.  We had a great chat about whether or not an unfulfilling sex life is reason enough to end a marriage, and how to jumpstart it withou...

I brought my friend Deb Cooperman on to talk about what she calls her blended, extended upended family. When Deb met her ex husband, he had a one-year-old son, and in this episode she talks about the experience of co-parenting as a step-mom, and how her relationship with her ex, her step-son and his mom evolved over the course of their marriage, through their divorce, and beyond... Deb's story is...

In this episode, I interview Lyena Strelkoff. Lyena is a transformation coach, storyteller, and speaker passionately dedicated to advancing the way humans respond to change, challenge, and adversity. A lifelong dancer paralyzed in a hiking accident, Lyena's entire life was elevated, not in spite of paralysis but because of it. Lyena is the creator of The Shero's Way™, a modern, feminized approach...

This episode is about holding strong boundaries when telling your spouse that you want a divorce. I lay out how I work with clients to prepare for this really difficult conversation, how not to allow your spouse to hijack and control the narrative, and how to not take responsibility for things you know aren't yours, even when your ex insists they are. In the intro, I talk about Mother's Day. How t...

This episode is all about permission. It's about how women seem to evolve in middle-age and how we seem to be outgrowing our marriages at alarming rates, and how to know if that's ok or not. In the last few weeks as I've been speaking with clients there's a recurring theme that keeps coming up. I keep hearing women say that their husband is a really nice guy, he's a great dad, a great provider, th...

Someone submitted this anonymous question to my website: My son often asks for his daddy. I don't know what to say to him. It breaks my heart because I've done everything I can to bridge the gap and encourage his father to be a part of his life. But he's totally absent. Only visits maybe 20hrs a month sometimes less. Can you give me any advice on what to say to my son about where his father is? Wh...