The Divorce Support Podcast

How to Let Go with less suffering and faster using an analogy from yoga.

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/?utm_source=podcast2In this episode I compare and contrast grieving a friend's death and the grief of my divorce. They are similar but different. Each carries its weight and difficulties. 

We just want to be happy, but it isn't that easy. Especially during divorce. Unfortunately, many people pursue the wrong things in the wrong order and end up feeling worse. In this episode we discuss the method that actually works. 

What is your relationship Style? There are 4 different types and in this episode we explore each one, talk about how you can move into a more secure style, and additional sources if you want to learn more.  Here's a link to the presentation download: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ltfDkzQodbLF9xfKEE4ZI9rYcmd1nLmo/view?usp=sharing

Divorce is often cause by a lack of trust. But what exactly is it? In this episode we talk about the 7 elements of trust and use infidelity as an example of how it affects trust.

We make decisions about our who we are when we are young. They affect the rest of our life. Those ideas we create about ourselves become our reality. It shapes what we think, our relationships, our jobs, our behaviors.   Understanding these core beliefs about ourselves gives us access to understanding how we can change our future, and our daily situation - very, very quickly. This is part 1 of a 2...

Boundaries get crossed all the time in relationships. They are particularly difficult during divorce and after. Sometimes people have very little control over what our Ex (or Soon To Be Ex) says or does.  In this episode we discuss some key ideas to understand how to set, keep and understand them better.  Boundaries are discussed in more detail in our courses and individual coaching - available at...

Anger is a secondary emotion - What does that mean? The flip side of anger is hurt - Huh? 5 Different ways we express anger - Really? There's the spectrum of anger - What is that? WHY should we deal with our anger? All of these and more are addressed in this episode.

Regret, Guilt and Shame. We all have these but understanding the difference is important. This is a short introduction to these important concepts to help you begin to peel apart what you are thinking and feeling. 

Certain days throughout the year are particularly difficult. The holidays are common to everyone and times when people that are newly divorced struggle the most. In this episode we talk about how get through them. It is an excerpt from a longer class that we did. If you would like access to the full course send a message to support@rebuilders.net for more information.

Grief is the number one issue for people going through divorce. Recognizing what it is, and isn't is helpful. Unfortunately many people think that the 5 stages of grief apply to divorce. For many reasons this model is wrong and shouldn't be used. Grief has a lot of elements to it. There are other models that are better, if you need a model to help you understand. However, there are ways to move th...

Understanding and process infidelity during a long term relationship is hard. In this episode we explore what it is, 8 motivations for why it happened, the causes of infidelity, and how to move forward. Often people need help to work through the infidelity - whether that is with their partner or with someone else. This is what Rebuilders does. We help people work through, Let Go, and Move ON from...

Moving forward on your own is difficult. There are so many things to deal with and process. In this episode Nick talks about some of these stumbling blocks and some ways to get through them. For example, grief, anger, loss of identity, blame, shame, trust and more. 

Many people still love their Ex (or STBX) but they know that the relationship is over. For some this is difficult to understand. In this episode you will learn which of the 3 most common reasons. By understanding you can start to understand WHAT it is you need to let go of, and what you don't need to let go of.

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/?utm_source=podcast2So many people struggle to understand WHY they got divorced. The person who initiated the divorce often has a lot of incidents where something happened that caused the divorce. But what is underneath that? For the person that resisted the divorced, they are confused as to what caused the other person to want to divorce. I...

Trying to understand why your Ex (or STBX) has moved on so fast? This episode focuses on how the paths for the two people in a divorce is different. Which one are you and what are you feeling? What is your Ex and why is he/she behaving that way? Maybe because he or she is the initiator? For more information visit our Facebook Group: From Survive to Thrive: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rebuilder...

Working with so many people has taught Kevin what are some of the keys for people to recover emotionally after divorce. In this episode Kevin talks about 5 Obstacles to Letting Go that you should focus on to make the biggest difference in the short term. 

Many people are very confused as they go through the divorce and they don't know where to begin. In this episode we cover the 4 step Rebuilder's process that has been used for over 30 years to help thousands of people Rebuild their lives after one of the most challenging events of their life - the ending of their marriage.  So we teach you how to Let Go and Move on after heartbreak. 

Kevin divorced in January 2018. It wrecked him. He was married 14 years, together for 17. In this episode he talks about what he went through, what he learned, and why he does this podcast.