The Divorce Support Podcast

Everyone keeps telling you the same thing: give it time. Be patient. It gets easier. So you wait. But what if waiting is the very thing keeping you stuck — and quietly costing you more every year? This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap , one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years. In t...

Welcome to the first episode. This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap , one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years. In this opening episode, Kevin Van Liere shares the story that started it all: the day his wife moved out, the months he spent barely functioning, and the moment he found...

When your ex starts dating someone new, it can feel devastating — even if the relationship ended months ago. Your chest tightens. Your thoughts spiral. You start asking questions you can't stop replaying: Did I matter? Was I enough? Was I replaced? In this episode, we unpack what's actually happening when your ex moves on — and why the pain isn't really about them dating. You'll learn: • Why their...

Life after divorce can feel confusing and heavy—not just because the relationship ended, but because your nervous system and your mind can get stuck in a repeating loop: overwhelm → numbness → rumination → panic → reactivity. In this episode, we break down what's actually happening in that "Divorce Doom Loop," why it's so common in the weeks and months after a breakup or divorce, and how it quietl...

When a relationship ends, people are told a lot of things: "Just give it time," "stay busy," "be strong," "you'll get over it." But if you've been through divorce—or supported someone who has—you know that advice often falls flat. In this episode, we take a clear, grounded look at how people actually experience divorce, where they tend to look for help, and why so many well-meaning solutions miss...

When someone you care about is going through divorce or separation, you might feel stuck. You want to help—but you're afraid of saying the wrong thing, taking the wrong side, or making it worse. In this episode, Kevin from Rebuilders International shares what actually helps, based on what people in our programs say they need most from friends and family. You'll learn why divorce is like an emotion...

Anger after divorce can feel justified—and still destroy your sleep, health, focus, and relationships. In this episode, we break down what anger really is, what it's protecting, and how to release it so it doesn't harden into resentment. You'll learn: Why anger is "like drinking poison hoping the other person will die" Why releasing anger is not the same thing as forgiveness How anger often protec...

In this episoe we cover the most common symptom of an unhealthy relationship - codependency.  Many people assume that this is the way we SHOULD do it. It can be subtle, it can creep in and overtake our relationship. In fact, many relationships start out healthy and become more and more codependent as time goes on. When they do, we don't know how to get out of them. In this episode we discuss what...

Are you struggling to move forward after your divorce? Whether you're drowning in therapy bills or searching for a new start, this episode is a beacon of hope. Join us as we dive into the pivotal discussion of therapy versus coaching in the journey of post-divorce recovery. Today, we explore the nuances between these two pathways with insights from both professionals and those who've walked this p...

In this episode of our deeply engaging podcast, we delve into the heart of post-divorce healing, addressing the profound yet often "Unanswerable Questions" that haunt those navigating the turbulent waters of separation. With an empathetic and expert touch, we explore the common queries that persist in the minds of those seeking closure and understanding - questions about personal responsibility, t...

Divorce IS conflict. It is based on fundamental disagreements and disconnection. In this episode, Kevin talks about the 6 levels of a disagreement and how to repair it. He also discusses the difference between being reactive and being responsive. Finally he shares one way to actually repair a wound in the relationship. The ramifications of being able to better communicate and come to an agreement...

There are a LOT of Divorce Support Groups out there. It is where a lot of people go when they are feeling isolated and struggling to process what is happening to them.  I know. I run one. And yet I see that Divorce Support Groups are NOT what people really need, usually.  In this episode I explain the characteristics of a Support Group and why you should avoid them. Or if you do want one, then set...

The Power Within: Unleashing Your Mindset Superhero This is one of THE most important concepts that we teach. When people really get it and integrate it into their lives they are never the same. They walk among the wise. They see themselves and others differently. They are responsive and not reactive. Acceptance of themsleves and others is a part of their daily lives. There is peace within.  I kid...

This episode is from a video that was created for a presentation. You can see the visuals at our Rebuilders site at https://go2.rebuilders.net/drama-triangle-part-1 In this episode Kevin explores Relationship Dynamics, the Karpman Triangle (the Drama Triangle) and how this leads to Victim Consciousness. Understanding what it is often allows people to see how their underlying beliefs have created a...

In this episode, we shift gears a little - we hear from Kathy a person that tried a lot of different things to recover from her divorce. She shares some things that worked and some things that didn't. Since then she has become a certified Facilitator for the Fisher Rebuilding Seminar™ in Cincinnati Ohio. 

In this episode Kevin talks specifically about the "The Release" - the point in time in which someone is able to "Let Go". It happens for people in different ways based on different actions they take. It is a powerful transition and for many people the goal.  After "The Release" your second life begins. Rebuilders.net

In this episode, you get an inside peek of a class in which Nick is coaching some people in a special class we did on Rumination.  Nick is helping people to understand regret. 

This episode is in part based on a live class that Kevin delivered talking about anger. A number of topics are covered: 2 kinds of "models" for anger. The 5 ways we express anger Anger of the past and of the present Why we are angry How to express it

If you are dealing with a divorce, currently or in the past, there is a way to really know if you are "okay". In this quick video you can learn a simple way that is completely free to understand the effect divorce has had on you. PLUS, you can use it many times to see your growth and recovery. All free.   This tool has been around for over 40 years and used by thousands of people. In fact, it has...

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck and ashamed when dealing with divorce?  You're not alone! Join me as I dive into the secret to freeing yourself from divorce shame. Learn how to recognize and address the underlying causes of your suffering to experience true freedom and start healing your heart. This podcast is filled with actionable tips that will help you move forward on your journey of self-d...

This episode is from a presentation that was put together to help people understand why some people recover faster than others. Everyone is different and people have different needs. But we also see that people typically have a "go to" about what they need. Often this is what they know, it is their preferred strategy for feeling better. And sometimes the thinking that got them to where they are is...

Divorce is hard. So many problems, so intensely. No wonder it is overwhelming and people feel lost.  So what can you do about it? Learn some ideas on how to reframe the problem of having so many problems.  Find out more at: https://go2.rebuilders.net/ws-info  

Music is so powerful. In divorce it can be helpful AND hurtful.  Here is the Spotify Playlist: https://spoti.fi/3zEas8c Here is the Amazon Music Playlist: https://amzn.to/3DCC7Yf And here is the link for the free training: https://bit.ly/3t2L0VT  

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/?utm_source=podcast2Dealing with the effects of divorce is so hard. Sometimes it seems overwhelming. People are often unsure where to start or what to do. It's understandable. There are few times in life that are more traumatic. It can feel like you are trying to ride a unicycle and juggle at the same time.  But this is what people learn to...