The Dildorks

This week Billy is interviewed by his boyfriend Dee Darkholme about “free use” kink, a type of consensual non-consent… while planning a free use scene they’re gonna do after the recording!   Definition | What’s Hot About It? | Hedonism | Negotiation | Activities Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly b...

Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re talking about our ever-evolving relationships to masturbation and how it all relates to self-love, self-compassion, and living a good life.   Our Solo-Sex History | Truly Solo Masturbation | Neurochemical Effects | Goal-Oriented | A “Waste of Time”? | Flirty Sexy Energy | Time Off to Recharge | Doing Stuff for Content | “Assisted” Masturbation Credits: Mus...

This week we’re (belatedly) celebrating Mother’s Day by talking about mommy kink – plus a decent amount of daddy kink thrown in for good measure.   Succession Fanfiction | Humiliation & Meanness | Nurturing & Caretaking | Pro Dom(me)s | Mommy Issues | Popularization & Destigmatization | Incest Roleplay & Dark Ageplay (19:47–24:28) | Feelings & Vibes | Decisiveness | 24/7 vs. Not | Genderlessness |...

We’re so excited this week to be chatting with Mollena Lee Williams-Haas , a kink educator, podcaster , author, and performer. We got into a fascinating discussion about how kink can help you reconnect with your body, deepen your intimacy, push your boundaries and heal from your trauma.   Kink Doula | Reconnecting with the Body | Group Sex | Sustaining 24/7 Dynamics | Being the Bad Guy | Aftercare...

This week Kate has a nerdy chat with Sleepingirl , an author, podcaster, and long-time hypnokinkster who has created numerous erotic hypnosis resources , including LearnHypnokink.com .   Early Days of Hypno Fetishism | LearnHypnokink.com | Subject Skills | Milton Erickson & Utilization | Pacing & Leading | Consent in Trance | HypnoStory & Panda’s 101 Class | Meeting Other Fetishists | Long-Distanc...

It’s that time again: this week we’re celebrating 4/20 by getting blazed and answering “highpothetical” questions about sex and kink! Tune in for a jam-packed, silly discussion of questions like “Would you want to be able to read your partner’s mind during sex?” and “What one kink implement would you take on a desert island?”   Last Prisoner Project | Cannabis Amnesty | Destigmatizing a Kink | One...

This week we’re answering random sex advice questions, like: Is it hotter to wear a suit, or sweatpants? How can you enjoy sex when you’re trying not to come? And does jerking off to Lola Bunny make you a furry?   Facials | Fingering | Trying Not to Come | Dressed Up vs. Dressed Down | Lesbian Dating Men | Furries Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the...

This week Billy is joined by his partner, Dee Darkholme , for a nerdy discussion of kinky roleplay: how characters get developed, which characters and tropes come up most often in their relationship, and how to make roles feel natural and authentic.   Nerdery | Roleplayer Radar | Cringe & Campiness | Kink vs. Sex | Taboo | ADHD Benefits | Aliens | Age Play | Robots | How Roles Evolve | Fantasizing...

We’ve both reviewed a LOT of sex toys, so this week we’re talking about the intricacies of sex toy reviewing: what makes a good review, how we test toys, and how readers can find reviewers whose opinions they trust.   How We Got Into It | Sexy Video Reviews | Testing Process | Hey Epiphora | Bad Toys | Choosing Toys | Annoying Misconceptions | “Soft Skills” | Review Format | SEO-ification | Good v...

Edging and denial go together very well, and this week we’re talking about both: why they can be fun, why they can be annoying and difficult, and how to do them well as a top and as a bottom.   Eroticizing Celibacy | Bottoming vs. Topping | Punishments & “Failure” | Ruined Orgasms | Velvet Veronica | Self-Control vs. Collaboration | Edging vs. Gooning | Altered States | Disinhibition & Vulnerabili...

Depression can put a strain on relationships, but it doesn’t have to! This week we’re talking to our friend JoEllen Notte , an author and mental health advocate, about her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends & Family .   “Are You Mad At Me?!” | How It Came to Be | Interview Process | Pandemic Changes | Check On Your Friends | Choosing Kindness | “Not My Place” | “...

Sometimes. paradoxically, it’s fun to suffer! This week we’re talking about suffering in a kink context: why we (sometimes) like it, how to do it safely, and how it differs from plain ol’ sadomasochism.   Drug Shortages | Pain as Pleasure | Is Suffering Sexual? | Sex as Aftercare | Pain vs. Suffering | Emotional Suffering | Justifiably Having a Bad Time | Sensory Nightmares | Gender Conditioning |...

It can be embarrassing (or hot! or both!) to come at the “wrong” time. This week we’re talking about inopportunely-timed orgasms, why they can be sexy as hell, and how to navigate any shame or awkwardness they might trigger.   Orgasm Control | Ruined Orgasms | Hormone Changes | Tampon in Science Class | Bathroom Sex | Premature Ejaculation Kink | “Try Not to Come” | Coming Untouched | Post-Orgasm...

Roleplay is a big part of both our sex/kink lives, but what does it actually mean to play a role? This week we’re diving into the intricacies of playing a character in scenes.   Full-Time Daddy-Domming | Trivialization of Roleplay | Performance & Acting | Archetypes & Stock Characters | “What Would They Do?” | Character Creation | Humiliation & Bullying | Robots & Aliens | Lore | Character Exercis...

Happy Valentine’s Day to all who celebrate! This week we’re discussing the pros and cons of this “Hallmark holiday” and answering listener questions about Valentine’s celebrations.   Sex Toy Retail | How We Celebrate | Romance Aesthetic | What’s the Point? | Why the Hate? | Celebrating Solo | Judgment | Misogyny | Gendered Narratives | Anniversaries | Obligation | Mismatched Enthusiasm | Friendshi...

Even though we both make sex media, we’ve both felt pressured to “sanitize” what we do from time to time. This week we discuss professionalism, personas, posting nudes on main, and other aspects of this balancing act.   “Professionalism” | Different Places & Voices | Getting Exxxplicit | Sexy vs. Educational | Developing a Voice | Hurts So Good | Boundary-Crossing | Exhibitionistic Thrill | Postin...

Why are dating apps so bad?! This week, we discuss some of our issues with dating apps and (maybe) some ways to work around these problems.   Fake Profiles | Dopamine Hit | Gamification & Capitalism | Everyone Seems Boring | Specific vs. General | Flirty vs. Explicit | Twitter | Jerkmate.com | Holding a Conversation | Munches | Grindr Dick Pics | Consent Paradigms | Pushing Boundaries Credits: Mus...

Billy’s partner Dee Darkholme just got top surgery, so this week, the two of them discuss the process of deciding to get it, what the actual procedure was like, and how recovery has been.   The Basics | Pre-Surgical Process | How to Decide / Being Non-Binary | Porn & Monetization | No Nipples | Doctors’ Assumptions | Binder vs. No Binder | Recovery Difficulties | Drains | Looking Forward | Clothes...

We both want to do more butt stuff this year, so in this episode we discuss our experiences with anal play, our reasons for wanting more of it, and our tips for doing it well.   Pure Plugs | Our Butts’ Histories | Rimming | Why? | Enjoyable Experiences | Roleplays | CNC (27:08–30:14) | Hygiene Anxieties | Enemas | How It “Should” Feel | Anal Training Regimen | The Brainwashing Book Credits: Music...

What did we accomplish sexually in 2022, and what are our sex & kink goals for 2023? This week we’re discussing all that, plus our best sex sessions of the year.   “Amateur” Porn | Best Sex | A Good Dick | Strap-On Sex | Coming from Oral | Ambulance Sex | Last Year’s Goals | New Goals | Anal Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to...

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex/kink/dating lives in 2022: new things we tried, new toys we enjoyed, new fantasies we couldn’t stop thinking about, etc.   Biggest Differences | New Things | Cum | Phased Out | Sex Toys | Fantasies | American Horror Story | Dee’s Top Surgery Fundraiser Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and...

This week we had a wide-ranging discussion about “picking people up,” pickup artists, social skills, the ethics of seduction, building confidence, and more.   Solo Bar Dates | “If Books Could Kill” Episode | Social Rules | Control & Manipulation | Motivations | Dr. Nerdlove | Negging | Picking Up vs. Cruising | Meeting People in Bars | Lower the Stakes | The Offline Dating Method | Initiating Conv...

How do you find kink implements that are both practical and pretty? This week we’re sharing our best tips for kink toy shopping, as well as sex toy storage.   Impulsive Purchases | Mass-Produced vs. Indie | Fetishist Media | Sex Shops vs. Kink Shops | Vetting | Online vs. In-Person | Deciding on a Toy | Aesthetics vs. Function | Pervertibles | Sex Toy Storage | Charging Cables | Epiphora’s Toy Clo...

This week we offer our best advice on shopping for sex toys, interspersed with some anecdotes about our wacky days working in sex toy retail.   In-Person vs. Online | JoEllen Notte’s Superhero Sex Shop Tour | Suspiciously Low Prices | What to Know First | Deciding Whether to Buy | Versatility | Couples’ Toys | We-Vibe | Beginners’ Toys | Tenga Eggs | Turbo Glider | Orchid G | Dildos | Vibration Qu...

Is it safe to use a banana, an electric toothbrush, or a wooden spoon as a sex toy? This week, we’re discussing makeshift and homemade “sex toys”!   Why? | Defining Dildos | Our Experiences | Risk Factors | Funkit Toys NoFrilldo | Turbo Glider | Body Massagers | Fruits & Veggies | Risk Assessment | Electric Toothbrush | Clothespins | Hairbrushes | Spanking University Hairbrushes Video | Ice Insert...