The Dildorks

Happy Masturbation Month! To celebrate, we’re answering some of your most pressing questions about what some people euphemistically call self-lovin’.   Professional Masturbators | Masturbation Month | COVID Libido | More Satisfying | “Genital Sneeze” | Edging | Different Ways of Orgasming | Interdependency | Excess & “Addiction” | Vibrator Overuse | Toys with Partners | Using Hands | Partner Walks...

This week, we’re chatting with journalist, author, and theologian Tara Isabella Burton . Her forthcoming book Strange Rites is about how the “religiously unaffiliated” seek meaning and fulfilment through non-religious means – like sex, kink, and polyamory, to name but a few!   Strange Rites | Chosen Family | Lifestyle Kink vs. Just For Fun | Perfectionism | Idealism | Intuitionalism | Embodiment |...

This week we’re joined by erotic letter writer, tarot reader , and oral historian Jamie Beckenstein to discuss the joys of sexy snail mail!   Rail Mail | Personas | Why Snail Mail? | Touch | Exploring Fantasies | Space & Time | Tools | Handwriting | Language | Aftercare | Lessons Learned | Cis Men | Pricing | Trauma Survivors | Repeating Words | Dissociating | Sign-Offs Credits: Music by PROTODOME...

Happy 4/20! This week's episode is our annual Highpotheticals special, where we get high off our asses and answer sex questions sent in by listeners. Enjoy!   Wonders of Weed | Kinkiest Vegetable | “Useful” Kinks | Personality Traits | Smoke a Dick | Additional Limbs | Sound Effects | Period Products | One-Offs Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the sho...

We’re back answering more of your COVID questions! Tune in to hear our thoughts on maintaining relationship momentum during the crisis, balancing different libido levels, and Skype date etiquette, among other things.   Keeping Them Interested | Deeper Conversation | Video Date Etiquette | Partner in the Room | Classes & Events | Quiet Kink | FWBs | Sex Drive Discrepancies | Size Training | Upside-...

Want to liven up your self-isolation with some sex and/or kink? We’ve got more suggestions this week than you can shake a dick at!   Protocol & Ritual | Clone-a-Willy | Dress-Up Doll | Roleplay | Yes/No/Maybe List | Medical Play | Edging & Orgasm Control | Self-Tying | Leather Care | Recordings & Videos | Cam Shows | Custom Content | Phone Sex | Hypnosis | Curated Smut | Weird Music | History | Se...

This week we’re joined by kink educator Carter Brûlée to discuss one thing the three of us have in common: being silly, playful, and giggly during sex and kink!   Fire & Dessert | Srs Bsns | Ruining the Mood | Kink As Play | Sneezing | Giggle Check | Suffering | Tickling | Topping | Roleplay | Advice For Partners | Negotiation & Check-Ins | Giggling | Implements | Beginner Tips | Humiliation | Dis...

Wow, what a week. This episode we’re answering questions about the thing that’s on everyone’s mind – COVID-19 – and how it intersects with sex and dating. Hope you find this helpful and comforting, friends!   NYC Health Brief | Sex Hygiene | Cancelling Dates | #PolyProblems | Metamour Boundaries | Touch-Starved | Hopelessness & Jealousy | “Clean Sex” | Breakups | Casual Love | Friends | Online Gam...

How do you do kinky stuff if you don’t have (or don’t want) someone to do them with? This week we’re talking about solo kink: why it’s fun, how to do it safely, and (of course) how it’s relevant to the current global pandemic.   #StayTheFuckHome | What Is Solo Kink? | AFemmeCock Post | Reasons | Masturbation Comparison | Pain & Self-Harm | Dangers | Negotiation | Headspace | Fantasizing | Toys & P...

Don’t listen to this episode while driving! This week Kate busted out her fledgling hypnosis skills and hypnotized Bex, after an extended scene negotiation. You’ll learn about communication, recreational hypnosis, and what Kate’s hypno top voice sounds like…!   Erotic? | Desires | Kinesthetic | Inductions & Deepeners | Fractionation | Sex & Touch | Intensity | Meta-Communication | Motivations | En...

This week, we’re chatting with writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte about her incredibly helpful soon-to-launch book on sex and depression, The Monster Under the Bed !   Crying | Double Taboo | Introverts at Conferences | Sex Educator BFFs | Research | The Book You Need | Us vs. the Problem | Unqualified | Horny Depression | Kink | Self-Harm? | Caretaking Guilt | Desirability | Waning L...

We’re talking about play parties again this week, and this time we’re focusing on what happens once you get to the party. Hear our best advice on approaching people, negotiating pickup play, saying “no” nicely, and more!   Nerves | Different Types of Party | Approaching People | Negotiation | SIMMER | Watching | Feeling Awkward | Expectations | Saying No | Self-Consciousness Credits: Music by PROT...

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, negotiating one, and wearing one!   What is a Collar? | Kate’s First Collar | Gifting Collars | L’Amour-Propre | Old Guard | Bringing It Up | Play Collars | Negotiating Rules | Flagging | Touching | Doms | Double Duty Cuff | Reactions in Public | Neck...

This week we’re joined by Ashe , the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how photography interacts with gender expression, kink, personal branding, and more.   Butt Selfies | Marginalized Folks | Gender on Purpose | Perfection | Comfort vs. Awkwardness | Preparation | Shoot with Matt | Kinky Photographers | Giving Direction | Intox...

Play parties are so fun, but also confusing and scary at times! This week we’re demystifying the processes of finding play parties to attend, mentally preparing yourself to play, and putting together your party outfit.   Sex or No Sex? | Finding Parties | Vetting | Not Kinky? | Alone vs. With People | Mental Prep | Logistics | Dress Codes Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become...

This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do when a top safewords!   Pervy Purview | D/s FWB | Slut Protocols | Hobbies | IRL Fanfiction | Aftercare | Sub Drop | Giving Feedback | Tops Safewording Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get acces...

Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play! Weather | Sensation Play | Easy vs. Advanced | Ice | Topping | Risks | Wax | Toys | Enemas | Lube & Oil | Emotions | Safewording Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show. &nb...

What skills do bottoms develop that allow them to take more sensation, feel good about doing so, and make their tops happy? This week’s episode is all about bottoming skills, which are sometimes underacknowledged in the kink world.   iTunes Reviews | Switching | Subbing vs. Bottoming | Bottoming Skills Workshop | Underrecognized | Masochism | Subspace | What You Want | Negotiation | Providing Data...

Vulvas and vaginas are great! This week we’re discussing our feelings about these widely venerated and vilified parts – both our own and other people’s.   Vulva Collector | Our Own Bits | Vag vs. Dick | Queer Impostor Syndrome | Transferrable Skills | Sucking Clits | “Switching” Genders | More Complicated | Visual Representation | Vag Smells | Tightness | Aesthetics | Semantics | Sex Ed | Stigma &...

Happy New Year! This week we’re reviewing how our sex lives progressed in 2019, and looking forward to discuss our 2020 sex goals. You’re Wrong About | Overall Trends | Sex Ed | Decentering Sex | Bad Sex | Keeping Track | Number of Partners | Locations | Best Sex | Roleplay | Phone Sex | Topping | Hypno-Topping | Sex Toys | Sex Media | Last Year’s Goals | Passion Projects | Apologies | Submitting...

We’re back to chat more about taboo kinks! Hear us unpack incest porn, edgy ethnoreligious roleplays, forced feminization, and more.   Relativity | Legislation | Incest Porn | Context | Trauma | Fantasy vs. Reality | Spicing Things Up | Uncool | Beducated Female Orgasm Course | Race Play | Hate Crimes | Motivations | Forced Feminization | Limits | Bringing It Up Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork...

This week we’re talkin’ taboos! Hear us discuss some of our favorite taboo kinks, like intoxication, consensual non-consent, and sleepy sex. More to come next week!   Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo | What Is Taboo? | Vanilla Taboos | Fantasy vs. Reality | Gateway Kinks | Blood | Jillian Keenan | Consensual Non-Consent | Aftercare Buddy | “Slave” | Triggers | Check-Ins | Intoxication | Beducate...

Almost everyone’s curious about hypnosis, so we’re back this week doing Hypno 101! Learn about how trance works, what it feels like, and what kinky stuff you can do with it.   Mind Play | Scripts | Pre-Talk | Negotiation | Speaking in Trance | Children | Surprises | Vetting Tops | Inductions | Relaxation | Fixation | Resisting | Confusion | Covert Hypnosis | Rapid Inductions | Coercion | Derren Br...

We attended a hypnokink event together recently so this week we decided to chat about erotic hypnosis! Hear about our fantasies surrounding this kink, some scenes Kate has done, and some hypnosis misconceptions we love to debunk.   TES Hypnokink Group | Distractions | Validity | Tricks | Orgasm Countdown | Lazy Tops | Mindlessness | Perception vs. Reality | Metaphor | Relaxing | Risks | Two Hyp Ch...

This week Bex sits down with Rachael Rose , a chronically ill and disabled sex educator, to talk about their shared diagnosis: ADHD! Find out how this condition intersects with sex, dating, creativity, and more. Diagnosis | ADHD Brain | Getting Things Done | Homework | Brain Engagement | Watching Movies | Gender Bias | Restlessness | Gamification | Time Blindness | Reaching Out | Notifications | R...