The Davenport

In today’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss how life isn’t always fair.  We learn this principle when we are young so why does it keep tripping us up as we get older? Even when we try our best and do everything right, life isn't always fair because we can’t always control everything.  From portioning out the “treat” cereal with siblings, to not being able to take a trip to somewhere fun like a f...

On today's episode Jamie and Guy welcome back another one of their favorite guests, Dr. Katie Erreca, Psy. D. to discuss Attachment Theory and its importance in all of our relationships.  They discuss the four different categories of Attachment Theory and explain that we should always be working toward one in particular - secure attachment.  From Jerry McQuire, to Star Trek, to discussing the...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy respond to a question from a teen podcast listener.  This listener asked, "How do I start to like myself?" This led to a discussion about self-worth, knowing who you are and developing confidence.  Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of having self-worth, and knowing, no matter what you do , no matter what choices you make - your worth stays the...

On this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy welcome special guests, Keane Webre-Hayes and his mom, Ellie Hayes, to share their remarkable story of courage, acceptance, and recovery.  When Keane was 13 years old he was bit by a great white shark while lobster diving off the coast of Encinitas, CA. That day would change both of their lives forever. Please join Keane and Ellie on The Davenport where they s...

In this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss managing expectations when life isn't going our way.  Keeping perspective on what's really important helps us keep realistic expectations and avoid disappointment when things turn out different than what we expected or hoped.  From work, to parenting, to our managing our relationship with our partner - setting realistic expectations can m...

This week's episode continues last week's topic of dating and expands it into dating in marriage or long-term relationships.  Jamie also introduces the concept of "Love Maps" as taught by Dr. John Gottman. A "Love Map"  is the part of your brain where you store all the relevant information about your partner's life - their goals in life, worries, dreams, etc.  Ja...

For their 50th episode Jamie and Guy welcome guest Andrea Dunlap to discuss dating during the different seasons of life. In this fun conversation, they discuss dating in your teens compared to dating in midlife and how priorities and perspectives change.  Hold onto your benchseat, and grab your Binaca  as Jamie, Guy and Andrea drive down memory lane sharing what they have learned about themselves...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss the 4 types of people we need in our inner circle.  This discussion was inspired by an article by Suneel Guptay titled  The 4 Types of Personalities Leaders Need In Their Inner Circle. A link to the article can be found here: https://www.fastcompany.com/90607514/the-4-types-of-personalities-leaders-need-in-their-inner-circle The 4 types of personal...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of taking time-outs when emotions are escalating and arguments are getting out of hand.  The purpose of a time-out is to abruptly stop unconstructive interaction between you and your partner.  They are a way to stay in control, to de-escalate and to avoid arguments. Jamie refers to Terry Real's book The New Rules of Marriage to...

On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome back another one of their favorite guests, Mara Vernon CPCC, PCC, CDTLF to continue last week’s discussion on being triggered.  Mara shares an analogy or framework of what happens emotionally and physiologically when we are triggered. She calls this situation “being in the ring” and describes it as an emotional boxing ring.  She explains that when we ar...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy talk about being triggered. They share what triggers them the most, from the after-school pick-up lines to shoes that aren't put away. Jamie explains that a trigger is a stimulus (which can be a situation, person, place, or thing) that contributes to an unwanted emotional or behavioral response. They discuss the importance of being able to identify w...

On today's episode, Jamie and Guy welcome Michele Clifford, their #1 fan and self-appointed President of the newly formed Davenport Fan Club 🙌🏼 Michele talks about why she listens to the podcast and what she has learned from it. She discusses how it has helped her identify her core values, strengths, and inner/critics or saboteurs. She also talks about how she enjoys all the Rom-Com referen...

In this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss four different communication styles: Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive and Assertive. They begin by explaining the differences between being Assertive and being Aggressive because they can sometimes be mistaken for each other. When someone is using Assertive communication, they clearly state their opinions and feelings and firmly advocate for thei...

Ego… the word is often associated with a negative connotation, but in this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy discuss why it is so important to have a strong, healthy ego. They explain that a strong ego helps us respond to life’s challenges versus just reacting to them.  A strong ego means you have a strong sense of identity - you know who you are. A strong ego helps you develop solutions to life’s cha...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome back Dr. Katie Erreca Psy. D. to discuss teens and an important part of their development: finding their identity.  Finding their identity - or who they are - is critical to  growing up.  It can be a bumpy ride for everyone involved - teens and parents - but Dr. Erreca explains how to make the ride a little smoother:) We hope you enjoyed today&apos...

In celebration of Independence Day, Guy and Jamie are taking a break this week from their regular podcasting schedule to share some exciting news: The Davenport Podcast is partnering with Patreon to bring you more! What is Patreon? Patreon is a membership platform that connects content creators with fans and supporters. It's a way for fans of the podcast to help support the show and in return...

On this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy welcome Dr. Katie Erreca, Psy. D. to discuss the development of the teenage brain and how it relates to their sometimes unpredictable or impulsive behavior. Dr. Erreca explains that the brain of a teenager is complex and still maturing. She describes that their brain is like a brain with "spotty wifi" that sometimes leads to inconsistent or unpredict...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss a question received from a listener. The question the listener asked was: "I know you both have young kids but would you consider an episode on adult children and navigating toxic relationships with parents? My age group,  older millennials,  are doing the work - therapy, self-help books, podcasts, etc. I feel like the more I know the harder...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy feel all the feelings to discuss Emotional Intelligence (EQ).  Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at school an...

On today’s episode, Jamie and Guy welcome back one of their favorite guests, Brent Peterson, founder of GameChef Board Games, former track star (almost), and one-time skydiver who is never going again - to discuss what they’ve learned about making life decisions and the power of choice. From having too many choices in the cereal aisle, to choosing what color car to buy - to choosing a life partner...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the concept of "bidding" for emotional connection as taught by Dr. John Gottman. A "bid" is any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection or any other positive connection. Bids show up in simple ways - a smile, a wink, and in more complex ways like a request for advice or help. They can be positi...

'I should do my homework'... or 'I should do some laundry'... or  'I really need to fix the sprinkler in the backyard'…why are some things so hard to get motivated for? And, why are some people more motivated than others? On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss how to light a fire under your motivation.   Guy shares a "Motivation Checklist" of 6 questio...

On this week's episode of the Davenport Podcast, Jamie and Guy welcome Marsha Berkson, a Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach , to discuss their strengths discovered by taking the Gallup Clifton Strength Assessment.  The Clifton Strength Assessment was developed to help people discover what they naturally do best. Marsha explains that our strengths describe us, influence our choices, direct our a...

How do you feel loved? Do you know your "Love Language"? On this week's episode Jamie and Guy respond to a question from a listener about the difference between Validation and Reassurance.  This listener explained their love language is "words of affirmation". They wanted to know how to distinguish between Validation and Reassurance and how to ask for one while limiting th...

A few months ago, Guy came across a show discussing kids and technology titled Connect: Real Help for Parenting Kids in a Social Media World.   One message that really resonated with him was taught by Dr. Kathy Koch PhD in Reading and Educational Psychology, Founder and President of Celebrate Kids, Inc. , and author. In this show, Dr. Kathy discussed the 5 lies that technology teaches our kids: 1)...