The Davenport

If only I had taken that class, or waited a little longer, or remembered to do that thing…we all experience guilt, regret and remorse throughout our lives. In a previous episode, Jamie and Guy discussed shame - which comes from a place of “I am bad”. In today’s episode they continued this discussion focusing more on guilt which is “I did something bad” and how to keep that guilt from becoming sham...

If you've listened to even a few of our podcasts over the last six months, you've probably heard  the topic of "boundaries" pop up more than a few times. On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy invite back Mara Vernon CPCC, PCC, CDTLF to dedicate a full episode on this important topic. Mara explains that boundaries, simply defined, is being clear about "what’s ok and what is...

We may be months away from Thanksgiving but it's always a good time to talk about gratitude - and in particular - the benefits of gratitude.  We get so much more than just warm, fuzzy feelings from having gratitude - it actually improves our physical and psychological health.  We encourage you to take a listen to this episode as a "refresher lesson" on the importance of focusing on...

In this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy continue discussing  “The Four Horsemen” by Dr. John Gottman. The Four Horsemen are four negative communication styles that can arise during times of conflict with our partner. They are research proven behaviors that if left unchecked are the best predictors of a relationship failing.  They include Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling.  In today...

In this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy discuss “The Four Horsemen” by Dr. John Gottman. The Four Horsemen are four negative communication styles that can arise during times of conflict with our partner.  They include Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling.  In today’s episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the first two, Criticism and Defensiveness and how they can manifest when arguing with o...

Shame is a very powerful emotion.  It is a feeling of being flawed, of not feeling worthy, a feeling of contempt.  In this episode Jamie and Guy welcome guest Mara Vernon, CPCC, PCC, CDTLF, to the Davenport to discuss shame and why it is so, so powerful.  They discuss shame's relationship to guilt, embarrassment and humiliation.  They discuss how we use "Shame Shields" (as taught by...

Anxiety is a natural response to ambiguity or uncertainty. It shows up in many ways: the first day of school, having to do a presentation at work, playoff games, asking someone on a date, pandemics, political elections, social unrest, natural disasters...it's not hard to find something (or everything 😩) to be anxious about. In this episode, Jamie and Guy break it all down. They explain what...

On this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy revisit the theory of Positive Intelligence and inner critics or "Saboteurs" to talk about the greatest Saboteur of them all - the Judge .  Saboteurs are the voices in our head that generate negative emotions to the way we handle life’s challenges. They sabotage both our happiness and performance.  There are a total of ten types of Saboteurs includin...

Most parents can agree that their number one goal is to care for and raise good kids.  Today on the podcast, Jamie and Guy talk with Dr. Aaron Cannon, Ph. D. in Psychology, about when parenting 'goes bad' and how to avoid common parenting mistakes. Drawing on his years of experience working with inmates in the California Department of Corrections (prison), to raising his own two children...

Last week Jamie and Guy discussed the 5 Losing Communication Strategies in relationships and today they're talking about the 5 Winning Communication Strategies.  These strategies are taught and referenced from Terry Real's book, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work .  Jamie and Guy explain how the 5 Winning Strategies work to facilitate communication instead...

"Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships", Terry Real, internationally recognized Family Therapist, teaches in his Relational Life Therapy courses. In today’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss his 5 Losing Communication Strategies that we are all probably guilty of using at some point in our lives. Control, retaliation, and withdrawal oh my! Join us as Jamie walks us th...

On this week's episode of the Davenport Podcast we welcomed Amy Adams, MSW, PPSC, to discuss teens and smartphones. Amy and Jamie first met in college while studying  social work.   Amy went on to get her masters from UCLA and then accepted a job with the Department of Child and Family Services in Los Angeles County.  Not only is Amy a seasoned social worker, she is also a mother of 4, an aut...

Many emotions have been felt over the course of the last year - uncertainty, fear, frustration, boredom - but the one Jamie and Guy tackle on today's podcast is loneliness.  People need people and are wired for connection.  In this episode, they discuss different times in their life they have experienced loneliness. From going to college, to running their own businesses, to homeschooling and...

“There’s not one thing you can do to prepare for it,” our guest this week, Jill Beer (sister of Jamie) explains after suddenly losing her husband a few years ago.  Jill shares her story of how her life, and lives of her four kids, were turned upside down and how they moved forward through the grief to find happiness again.  Her inspiring story will help bring hope and comfort to those suffering wi...

In this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss vulnerability in human behavior and emotions and how it differs from disclosure. Jamie describes how vulnerability involves being uncertain, at risk and emotionally exposed.  They discuss common misconceptions or myths about vulnerability (Myth #1: Vulnerability is weakness) and why they are not true.  They reference the work done by Brené Brown, PhD, L...

"Sometimes we are our own worst critic" is a well-known phrase and, unfortunately, often true.  In this first episode of the new year, Jamie and Guy discuss how our inner critics or "saboteurs" often get in the way of us reaching our goals. Saboteurs are "invisible agents of self-sabotage" and represent our brain's automatic beliefs and assumptions about how to h...

It's been quite a year! 2020 will be remembered for a lot of things but one of the bright spots for us has been starting this podcast.  Sitting on the Davenport and chatting about different topics we've wanted to share as well as responding to questions asked by our listens is the highlight of every week.  We have many more topics and great guests scheduled for 2021 and are interested to...

Think of this episode as Communication 101 .  Good communication is fundamental to strong relationships between spouses, parents and children, friends, etc. In this episode Jamie and Guy lay down the basics of good communication: listening, having empathy, and getting curious about the other person's thoughts or point of view.  Oftentimes we focus on what we should say when we are talking wit...

Toxic Positivity may sound like an oxymoron - how can positivity be toxic? In this episode Jamie and Guy discuss how at times the overuse of positivity can actually be harmful or cause more pain in an already trying circumstance.  Challenges and hardships in life can not simply be "covered up" with positive phrases that dismiss the difficulty or pain that comes with them. The only way th...

Do you ever feel like you are not enough? Not doing enough, not working hard enough, not thin enough, not being the world's most amazing parent? In this episode Jamie and Guy tackle those feelings head on.  Guy explains that to him when he settles for  "good enough" it feels like he is "giving up" or being mediocre - and he feels guilty or bad that he didn't do better...

Have you ever had a great idea for a game and thought, "I wonder how hard it would be to make it into an actual board game?" Our guest today, Brent Peterson, can answer that. He has nine games under his belt with more ideas brewing all the time.  He has sold thousands of games in retailers across the country and on  Amazon. He describes himself as the kid who was always starting up games...

Feeling anxious about the upcoming holidays? You're not alone. This episode is in response to questions we received from listeners about how to navigate holiday gatherings when members of your family have different political views, opinions about Covid, or want to bring up sensitive issues like Aunt Jean's divorce. Jamie and Guy talk about how you have to "unpack" the anxiety,...

Planning to have house guests for the holidays?  2020 is creating some challenges   but if you are gathering with family or friends, Jamie and Guy offer their thoughts about how to make the most of your time together.  Having guests stay with you  adds a little more chaos and clutter to your house - but having that time to connect with loved ones is worth it.  From  stocking the  fridge, to stayin...

In this week's episode Jamie and Guy sit down on the Davenport and chat with Tubby Todd  head mama, Andrea Faulkner Williams.  Andrea shares her story about starting  Tubby Todd Bath Co., an all-natural bath products company, with her husband Brian  and  looks back on how far they've come.  She talks about her love of work and of  being a mother to her four kids - and how grateful she is...

Enjoying ice cream, playing a game of golf, getting a mani-pedi, taking a nap... are these  types of self-care or selfishness? What is the difference? Why is self-care so important? Jamie and Guy  break it down in this episode   and discuss what has  both worked and not worked for them.    Thanks for listening! Please subscribe and share with friends... and leave a review on iTunes! Join us on  Fa...