The Davenport

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss how and why our kids "fail to launch" into adulthood.  Over the years as a therapist, Jamie has seen a delayed "emerging into adulthood". This can look like a delay in entering the workforce, going off to college, or living independently.   She explains that adolescence is "lasting longer". They compare this phenomeno...

Counting sheep has nothing on this week’s guest, Chrissy Lawler, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, lover of sleep, and baby sleep consultant. Chrissy explains when she began practicing therapy she started to realize that sleep issues were a common thread among all of her clients. Because of this, she decided to pursue additional training in advanced sleep medicine. She says her goal is to “t...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy deep dive into another saboteur as part of their Positive Intelligence Saboteur Series: the Avoider. The "Avoider"" is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, a...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome Jason Clawson, therapist, widower, father and founder of Sunshine Boxes. During this episode, Jason shares the devastating story of losing his wife to colon cancer and how he tackled what felt like an impossible journey to find joy again.  He explains that nine months after her passing, he staged his own "intervention" and created a &quot...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss fear. From the fear of flying, to first dates, to spiders - they explain the discuss the importance of fear and how to manage it.  Fear is a primal response that alerts us to danger. It can stem from real or imagined threats. For our ancient ancestors that might have been a bear outside their cave - but nowadays our fears might look more like takin...

On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome a very special guest remotely from Kharkov, Ukraine - André Polonski. They first discovered André on IG when he began sharing his efforts to deliver food and supplies to his neighbors shortly after the war broke out in Ukraine.  André shares how his humble efforts to help a few people has grown to over 3500 food deliveries and counting.  What began with...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss another saboteur or inner critic: the Pleaser. Jamie explains how she is all too familiar with this saboteur because it is her "#1".  Being a "pleaser" is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that...

On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome local guest Kara Ryska - mother of four including one special needs child, Levi.  Kara is also a life coach and host of The Special Needs Mom Podcast: A place for moms to connect and grow .  Kara tells her story about when her son Levi was diagnosed with brain cancer at age two and how life has looked different since then. She explains how a couple of y...

On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss change - particularly making and maintaining changes in our lives.  They agree that often times when people think of change - they are referring to the “action” stage of change - but they discuss how there is  a lot more to change than that. Jamie explains that there are six stages of change and explains why they are each important. Take a listen to und...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss accountability.  From RSVP'ing to parties, to holding yourself accountable to training for a marathon, to taking ownership in relationships when you "step in it" - accountability is important and shows up in all facets of our lives.  They discuss how there are no "buts" or blaming when you are being accountable for your act...

This week's episode was inspired by Terry Real's discussion about self-esteem in his most recent book Fierce Intimacy . Self-esteem is a topic Jamie and Guy have focused on before but after reading this book wanted to take a deeper dive into the 3 types of self-esteem discussed in this book: (1) Performance-based esteem: I have worth based on what I do. (2) Attribute-based esteem: I have...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss control and being a controller.  Being a "controller" is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappin...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss how to disagree without being disagreeable.  They reminisce about both being part of their debate teams in high school and compared the art of debate to this topic. They give advice on how to discuss differing opinions or points of view with others without being contentious.  Jamie explains it is easy to get defensive when you're feeling criti...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss different parenting styles and how to work together with your partner when your parenting styles differ.  They discuss the whole spectrum of styles from Authoritarian to Uninvolved Parenting and what each one looks like.  Jamie explains it's not uncommon to have different parenting styles than your partner and that is ok. She also explains it...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome back another one of their favorite guests, Dr. Aaron Cannon. Drawing on his years of experience working with inmates in the California Department of Corrections (prison), Dr. Cannon shares his insights on addiction.  He defines addiction as continued use of a substance (or an activity) despite adverse consequences. They discuss how almost anything...

In this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss toxic productivity.  Toxic productivity is the  unhealthy desire to be productive at all times and at all costs. It often comes with a big serving of guilt that no matter how productive we are, we feel like we should be doing more. Jamie and Guy explain that productivity in and of itself isn’t a bad thing.  But toxic productivity is when we take it...

We’re back from our winter break and looking forward to sharing lots of great topics this year.  On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss Mindfulness - which has been a bit of a buzz word the last few years.  Mindfulness is the state of active, open attention to the present, a.k.a. being in the moment.  It’s a very intentional activity that helps you to focus on your thoughts and feelings.  Ja...

We're starting off the new year by reposting an episode from the past!  We are re-sharing Episode #3 in which we discussed Values.  Your personal core values define who you are and what matters to you as an individual.  Listen as Jamie and Guy discuss their values and how it guides and influences how they live their lives. We hope you enjoyed today's episode - if you did please take a mi...

On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss repair versus resolution when conflicts arise in relationships. Jamie explains that “repair attempts” are actions you take to get your relationship back on track and back in connection with your partner.  She explains that 75% of the conflict with our partner is perpetual - conflicts that pop up again and again.  She also explains that that is totally n...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss FOMO - the Fear Of Missing Out.  FOMO has probably always existed but technology and social media have certainly made it worse.  It is easy to start scrolling through Instagram or Facebook and compare our lives to others.  Jamie explains that FOMO is a real feeling - but it’s not necessarily real in that it’s indicative of our reality. They go on t...

At the age of 12 months, Kim Nay was adopted by an American couple stationed at a military base in Japan. After struggling with infertility,  this couple adopted Kim and brought her home. Weighing only 13 lbs. at one year of age, they nursed her little body back to health. Forty-five years later, through mutual friends, Kim learned of a nonprofit organization that helps Korean adoptees take their...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy welcome back another one of their favorite guests (and fan favorite), friend and Game Chef founder, Brent Peterson. They discuss something they all are in the thick of: midlife. This discussion came up recently between Brent and Jamie after Brent attended his 30th high school reunion.  They discuss why midlife can cause you to get reflective and pensive a...

This week on the Davenport, Jamie and Guy discuss Emotional Resilience. What is emotional resilience? Emotional resilience refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. It's the ability to "bounce back" or "roll with the punches" and adapt to challenges in life without having lasting difficulties. Less resilient people have a harder time with stress a...

Ever wonder how to go about writing your life story or that of a loved one? To most, the task would feel too overwhelming - even though preserving the stories would be priceless.  That’s where our guest Mindi Bullick, writer and founder of Pennylane Biographies, comes in.  She is a ghost writer that helps people write their biographies.  She spends hours interviewing and recording their stories, a...

On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome Jamie’s longtime friend and former college classmate, Jim R. Jacobs, LCSW, CDWF, author, father and avid fencer.  They discuss shame - and in particular - the shame that is triggered by the unobtainable quest of trying "to do our best”. Jim explains that we live in a world that tells us to do our best but then tells us our best is never good enough...