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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss  phubbing ( phone snubbing). Jamie referenced a recent article in Psychology Today on this topic and felt it was worthy to bring to the Davenport.  They discuss what it is, why we do it and the effects it has on connection and communication.  To read the full article, click here  https://bit.ly/3g6gXtH We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do,...

On this week's episode, in response to a listener's request Jamie and Guy discuss in-laws and boundaries.  With the holidays approaching, they knew several of their other listeners might also be curious about this subject.  Sometimes our relationships with our in-laws or extended family can be difficult but there is a way to navigate your differences and stay generous towards each other....

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss entitlement and how it can creep into our lives at time.  From teenagers who feel entitled to have certain things to adults who feel they've worked hard and deserve certain results or rewards - we've all felt it.  Jamie discusses how entitlement can stem from expectations and an attitude of indifference vs. gratitude. They discuss how to...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the hyperrational saboteur  - which happens to be Guy's  2nd strongest saboteur behind his controller.  The 'hyperrational' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of listening.  There's more to it than you think and they break it down into 3 different levels by explaining what each looks like. Jamie explains that listening is a skill that can be learned and takes practice. They both reflected on how their careers as a therapist and coach have helped them improve this skill. We hope you h...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the power of friendship.    There are so many benefits to having good friendships in our lives: it makes life more enjoyable, it gives you a safe place to be yourself and it enriches your everyday experiences because you are sharing it with someone. A friend is someone that you can reach out to in times of need. It is someone who you can be totall...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss keeping score in relationships. From romantic relationships, to parenting, to driving in traffic - they discuss how keeping score isn't a winning strategy for improving connection. Jamie explains that when we are keeping score someone is always on offense and the other is on defense.   By keeping score we often discount the good because we are...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy talk about differentiation. This topic came up after reading an article in Psychology Today titled Feeling Fed Up, Resentful? Maybe You’re Differentiating by Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. In this article, differentiation is defined as the active, ongoing process of defining self.  It involves separating from those close to us and focusing more on our needs. It c...

On this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy welcome a very special guest, Dr. Leonard Sax MD PhD.  Dr. Sax graduated Phi Beta Kappa from MIT at the age of 19.  He then went on to the University of Pennsylvania, where he earned both a PhD in psychology and an MD.  He has been continuously certified by the American Board of Family Medicine since 1989. He is also a New York Times Bestselling author and has...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the hyperachiever saboteur .  The 'hyperachiever' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and un...

In this week's episode, Jamie and Guy welcome another special guest, Jamie's dad, Jim Stubblefield.  Jamie has shared bits and pieces of his story in previous episodes but in today's episode, we learn all the details of the path his life has taken - from getting a bachelor's degree in Spanish, to spontaneously joining the Marines (without first consulting his wife), to going ba...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the restless saboteur .  The 'restless' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness)...

This week's episode was recorded right before school let out for the summer and right after the tragic events of the school shooting in Uvalde, Texas. Our team was discussing how to talk to our kids about events like this, the war in Ukraine, and other bad news or tragic events that can occur.  Listen as Jamie and Guy discuss how to talk about these with kids of different ages to help lessen...

On this episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the decline of Emotional Intelligence (EI) and how to get it back.  Emotional Intelligence is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you.  Jamie references an article in Psychology Today about this topic and they discuss how the last couple of years has impacted themselves individually as well as their client...

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Recently Jamie attended a funeral for a dear friend who had a powerful influence for good in her life - and it made her think about the difference between being a positive influence versus being an "Influencer".  In this episode, Jamie and Guy compare the two and how they differ. Being an "Influencer" is more of a modern phenomenon in today's society of social media and ca...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the Hypervigilant saboteur.  The 'Hypervigilant' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unh...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss how to give 'Pep Talks' to our kids.  Often times our kids come to us with challenges or insecurities - from taking tests, to trying out for a sport, to navigating friendships and relationships. As parents, we often want to jump in, offer our opinions or intervene - but this isn't what they always need.  Jamie and Guy discuss the com...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of self-compassion and forgiving ourselves.  They compare forgiving others versus forgiving ourselves and why the latter can be so difficult. We are often quick to forgive others but when it comes to ourselves we can have a hard time letting go. Jamie explains that when we replay our mistakes over and over in our head it leads to sha...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome a good friend and fan of the podcast, Whitney Clarke to have a discussion about disconnection. They discuss how the pandemic has affected their relationships over the last couple of years and how to get back to connection.  From teens to adults, introverts to extroverts - disconnection has affected everyone to some extent.  Listen as they discuss h...

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy continue with their saboteur series - this time focusing on the 'Victim' saboteur. The 'Victim' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiet...

In this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the two lies we can tell ourselves about our value and individual importance. These lies can make us feel worthless and, in extreme cases,  can make us feel like life is not worth living.  These lies can affect us at any age, but teens in particular can be particularly susceptible to them.  Listen to this episode to learn about these two lies and...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome Jamie's niece, Skyler Stubblefield, to discuss the Hope Squad: a peer-to-peer mental health support system in elementary, middle and high schools nationwide.  Jamie explains how the Hope Squad was begun by a high school principal who was compelled to act due to the high suicide rate at his school.  Joining forces with health care professionals...

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss 5 tips to improve communication, conversation and connection.  Recently Guy shared these tips when presenting to a group of teens and thought they are good reminders to share no matter what your age.  Listen to  hear these 5 simple tips and choose one to focus on this week.  We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subs...

In today's episode, Jamie and Guy welcome guest Russell T. Osguthorpe, an instructional psychologist, former college professor at BYU and author of several books, to discuss attachment theory in adults. Dr. Osguthorpe explains that attachment theory originally focused on infants and children but in more recent years has expanded to include adults.  He explains the 4 types of attachment we can...