The Confident Swinger Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Self-images are like assholes... everybody's got one! It's how you self identify, how you see yourself, the roles that you play. But unlike your asshole, you're not just "stuck" with the one you've got. You get to decide! It's easy to get really attached to our self-image, and that can be dangerous. Because it can hold us back from exploring diff...

Send us Fan Mail Jo, and Chad, talk about new beginnings. It's New Year's day, and it's a great time to reset and talk about new beginnings. We all get complacent and stuck in a routine from time to time, so we took this opportunity to talk about how WE both want to start the new year, and how we want to embrace the Lifestyle in 2024. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Visio...

Send us Fan Mail Bonus episode My son's dog, Maya, is a pain in the ass. She also happens to be my spirit animal, and in this bonus episode, I tell you why. Happy Holidays! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about guests she had on, and other shows she's been a guest on. She talks about her personal growth, and resources that have been super helpful for her. My coach, Kelly Inglis https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Finstagram.com%2Fhealthywthkelly%3Figshid%3DYzAwZjE1ZTI0Zg%253D%253D%26fbclid%3DIwAR2QbbyTfVuvVTgzn1aVsSgWJngUo0XQiC6uII8FWXVdnnX_cx...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about what coaching means to her, and she uses an example of a phrase that she uses is her own life, STFU a little bit. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes, it's hard to figure out when to speak up and when to stay quiet. It happens in the lifestyle, and it happens in life. Last week, I talked about speaking up. This week, I'm talking about when to stay quiet. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces f...

Send us Fan Mail I've always known how important it was to speak up. I mean, come on, it's only logical. And I've spent most of my life being logical. But I'm also really driven to help you build your confidence and embrace your badassery. And part of the journey to help you comes from me speaking up and sharing MY journey with you. I think it will help you along the way, becau...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about the importance of setting and holding your boundaries. And she goes over the 4 steps for setting and holding boundaries. This is a hot topic in the lifestyle, but I don't think that people always really understand what boundaries are, and how to set and hold them. Boundaries are the standards that you set for yourself, to keep yourself safe and...

Send us Fan Mail Happy Halloween! In honor of her favorite holiday, Jo is talking about fear. Specifically, fear in the lifestyle. She talks about the most common fears that people face, and how to manage them. She focuses on the relationship between fear and control. Most fear comes from a desire to have control, or the fear of feeling like you don't have control. So, you spend a lot of time...

Send us Fan Mail Last week, we talked about single ladies in the lifestyle. This week, we're talking about single guys. Anybody that's been in the lifestyle for more than 5 seconds has a pretty strong opinion about single guys. Either that it's challenging for a single guy, or that single guys are thirty and aggressive, or that a good single guy is hard to find. And all of those may...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about single women in the lifestyle. She talks about the challenges, and the benefits. And she talks about the reasons why women may want to participate in the lifestyle as a single, and also some tips. And in the Patreon bonus content, she talks about tips for people that are seeking a single woman. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Sl...

Send us Fan Mail We all know that communication is a super important part of the Lifestyle. And that's easy to say, but still, when we have to have hard conversations with our partner, sometimes we struggle. Especially when we feel like that conversation is going to hurt our partner. In today's episode, Jo talks about her experience having a hard conversation recently with Chad. She talk...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about getting a stealth no from your partner. Let me explain; a stealth no is when your partner says yes to something originally, but then when the time comes to do it, or to make a plan to do it, they make an excuse, or put it off. Again, and again. Their words say yes, but their actions say no. It's frustrating, and it's not a healthy way to c...

Send us Fan Mail It's episode 69! Ladies, this one is for you. Lots of ladies LOVE oral sex, because they need clitoral stimulation to get off. And a great way to achieve that is by riding his face. But let's be honest, that's something that a LOT of ladies struggle with. They think there is NO way they can climb up there and do that. They worry about their size, and about smotherin...

Send us Fan Mail You're interested in the lifestyle. You want to talk to your partner about it, but you don't think that conversation is going to go well, or you just don't know HOW to have that conversation. You don't want to hurt your partner, or piss them off, and you're not sure they will understand. So, you THINK about it, but you never DO it.  In this episode, Jo tal...

Send us Fan Mail When you get started in the lifestyle, you usually set up boundaries and have a specific dynamic in mind. The dynamic is the way you choose to play. That could be soft swap same room, or threesomes with one sex or the other, or maybe both, or full swap. But as you grow, as a person and as a couple and in the lifestyle, often that dynamic changes. But what happens when one person w...

Send us Fan Mail Most people in the lifestyle want to meet and connect with other people. I mean, isn't that the goal? There are lots of ways to do that: online, at meet n greets, parties, clubs, lifestyle campouts, resorts, and hotel takeovers, to name a few. In this episode, Jo talks about what you can expect at a hotel takeover, and she talks to 6 people who are experiencing their first ho...

Send us Fan Mail What a shitty feeling... when you feel like you're letting your partner down. In this episode, Jo talks about 4 common reasons in the lifestyle why people feel like they are letting their partner down: 1. Your partner is more attractive than you, so people don't want to play with both of you 2. You are way pickier than your partner 3. You just don't want to go to ev...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about a common fear that many swingers experience... what if their partner enjoys sex with someone else more than with them? The underlying fear is that if someone else comes along that rocks your partner's world, they are either going to leave you for them, or they are going to be disappointed coming back to sex with you. Honestly, it's a commo...

Send us Fan Mail Jo records this week's episode from a lifestyle campout. She gives her opinion on pros and cons of attending one, and she gives you an idea of what to expect. But she also talks to some people AT the campout, and they share their experiences, too. Pros: laid back, more time to get to get to know people, don't have to worry about driving, friendly people Cons: dealing wit...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo interviews Chris, a former client that went through her one-on-one signature coaching program, Get Out of Your Head & Into Their Bed. He talks about his experiences with Jo, what prompted him to invest in the program, and the results he has seen as a result. If you're interested in talking to Jo about this program, book a discovery call with her at the...

Send us Fan Mail Jealousy happens. It's a normal human emotion. Some people like to say that if you feel jealous you don't belong in the lifestyle. And that's bullshit. Jealousy itself isn't a problem. Just like sadness or anger isn't a problem. But, it can become a problem if you don't know how to deal with it. In this episode, Jo talks about how some of the things t...

Send us Fan Mail We all have insecurities. And some people are insecure about their naughty bits; they don't like the way they look, or they are insecure about the size. As swingers, we also like to get naked with new people. So, if you have insecurities about your naughty bits, it's going to affect you getting naked with new people. We get all up in our own heads, and it gets in the way...

Send us Fan Mail Last week, we talked about when one partner wants to be in the Lifestyle more than the other, and Chad came on the show to share his perspective (thanks Chad!). And it's an important topic. People can say that you need to be on the same page, and while yes, I agree, it's also unrealistic to expect both people to want the same thing, the same amount, for the entirety of y...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about when one partner wants to be in the lifestyle more than the other. And who better to have on the show, talking about his topic, than her hubby Chad. We kind of ARE that couple... I am the one who wants to be in the lifestyle and play more than he does. So Chad (finally) comes on the show and talks about his thoughts and experience. The truth is, it&...