The Confident Swinger Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Chad and Jo are taking a little break to recharge. And, we encourage you to do the same. Have a safe and happy holiday season, and we'll see you sometime in the 2026. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Changing and evolving is an important part of life, and an important part of the lifestyle. The times change, and if you aren't willing to change with them, you're going to get left behind. Chad and Jo talk about what makes it hard, and what makes it important to them. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladim...

Send us Fan Mail Jill and Jamie from Omaha, Nebraska are on The Confident Swinger! We talk about how the LS has changed, and about the challenges, and about different dynamics. Be sure to listen to this fun conversation! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the...

Send us Fan Mail Chad is back! And we're talking about what makes him successful, and a good lover, in the Lifestyle. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Today is a bad day. Jo is in the middle of an emotion storm and feeling super broken. This episode is real, raw emotion. Listen at your own risk. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Today, Jo talks about assertive women in the LS.  Jo talks about some of the reasons why guys like an assertive woman, but even more importantly, Jo talks about why SHE loves to be assertive herself. And, if you're looking to be more assertive, she gives some tips to help. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimi...

Send us Fan Mail Chad is in the hot seat! Today, Jo interviews Chad; they talk about their LS journey, how it has changed over the years, and how Chad has grown and changed over the years. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Confidence can be a fickle bitch... sometimes you are riding high, and sometimes you bottom out. Chad and Jo talk about the ins and outs of confidence. Reach out to Jo on FB at  Facebook or email her at theconfidentswinger@gmail.com Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pr...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling unwanted is something that probably everyone has felt at some point. It's not a popular feeling, but it's common enough, even in the LS. Jo shares her latest experience in feeling unwanted, and how she managed it. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pry...

Send us Fan Mail We are often our own worst enemy, and sometimes, that means that we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. Sometimes, that means we put TOO much pressure on ourselves. And that takes all the fun out of life, and out of the LS. Today, Chad and Jo talk about putting too much pressure on yourself and offer some tips and advice for managing that. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ra...

Send us Fan Mail We hit 100,000 downloads! And as a special thank you to all of our listeners, Chad and Jo recorded this special bonus episode. Chad puts Jo in the hot seat and gets her thoughts on the journey of the first 100,000 downloads of The Confident Swinger Podcast. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New musi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Chad and Jo talk about which person initiates in a play situation. He often leaves it up to Jo, so he knows that she is comfortable and wants to play. And while that is a good strategy, it often puts the pressure on her. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level...

Send us Fan Mail Last time, or last time we were together, we talked about what the LS means to us each, individually. In today's episode, Jo and Chad talk about what the LS has brought to their relationship. Spoiler alert, it's brought a lot, good and bad. Extra spoiler alert, even the bad has brought good. Extra spoiler alert, I shouldn't be trusted to write the show notes high......

Send us Fan Mail Ideally, the Lifestyle is meant to enhance your life and your relationship. But there are times when that doesn't happen... there are times when it breaks people down and tears them apart. The key is to know when to participate, and when to take a step back and NOT play. Jo talks about some things to look for, some warning signs, so you know when it's time to take a brea...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Jo and Chad each share 5 ways that the LS has changed or improved their lives.  Couples are made up of individuals, and it's important to understand your own personal why, as well as your why as a couple. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by...

Send us Fan Mail Jo and Chad just got back from a vanilla cruise, and they talk about their experiences with vanilla travel versus lifestyle travel. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Jo and Chad are headed on vacation, but we wanted to give you a quickie episode with some of our favorite pieces of advice. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Today, Chad and Jo talk about sex. Or, more precisely, they talk about PEOPLE talking about sex. People are going to talk, it's human nature. They are going to talk about their experiences, good or bad. And in the LS, that often includes sexual experiences, which can cause some unintentional problems. Chad and Jo warn against the natural desire to kiss and tell, and against t...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Jo talks about one of the things that a lot of people struggle with in the LS... flirting. Flirting is important, especially in the LS. And it can really make or break your success. The most important thing about flirting is the way you feel about it, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. There is no right or wrong way to flirt, there is just yo...

Send us Fan Mail Chad and Jo talk about sex in the LS... the good and the bad. They talk about what makes sex so good, and some of the things that make it challenging. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes, it can feel like you are holding your partner back in the LS. Like, maybe, they would have more fun or have more opportunities if you weren't there. In today's episode, Chad and Jo talk about holding your partner back. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Leve...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Jo gets a little vulnerable and talks about her healing journey through the lifestyle. And she talks about her annual girl's trip, and how healing that is for her, too.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Rein...

Send us Fan Mail Do you find yourself playing with the same people? If so, have you ever wondered why? Is it because you have good chemistry with them? Is it because you are comfortable with them, and that makes it easy? Or is it somewhere in between?  Today, Jo and Chad talk about chemistry and comfortability in repeat play partners. And, if you keep going back to the same play partner, are you s...

Send us Fan Mail It can be awkward to initiate the play in a group setting. It seems like everyone wants it to happen, but nobody makes the first move.  Jo and Chad talk about what makes it awkward or hard, and offers some ideas and suggestions for getting things started. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Chad and Jo talk about navigating the LS as overweight people. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro