The Confident Swinger Podcast

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Chad and Jo talk about talking to the partner of someone you are interested in playing with. They talk about whether or not it is important or expected, what you should and maybe should not say, and when. They talk about the importance of respect.4 Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ers...

Send us Fan Mail Everyone gets into a slump sometimes and feels less than confident. Today, Jo talks about ways to pull yourself out of the slump. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Jo talks about being too picky. And she talks about being in your head and overthinking things.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Playtionships, or the relationship between play partners, often end. Sometimes they end organically, and sometimes one person or one couple ends it. It's easy to say that it's ok to end things, but the reality is that sometimes it's challenging. It can be hard for everyone involved. Today, Chad and Jo talk about that. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Visio...

Send us Fan Mail Break-ups are a part of life, and when it happens in the LS it's even harder for everyone to navigate. Today, Chad and Jo talk about navigating through the break-ups, whether you are on the inside or outside. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and...

Send us Fan Mail Just a quickie episode, and intro to summer/call out for Jo's birthday. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that people struggle with the most in the lifestyle is closing the deal... actually getting to the play. Jo and Chad talk about their struggles with closing the deal and give some perspective and tips to hopefully make it a little bit easier for you. So, listen up! And then go close that deal! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Jo rereleases episode 4 from June of 2022, making the first move. It's a fan favorite, full of great ideas.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Jo and Chad talk about going into LS situations with no expectations. It's easy to say that, but it's a lot harder to do it in real life. Our brains like to create expectations of how the night or the event is going to go, and that can lead to disappointment. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov...

Send us Fan Mail People often try to meet LS people online, whether on websites, apps, or social media. And it can be challenging to go from talking to someone online, where it's "safe" to the real world where you don't have a keyboard to hide behind. Chad and Jo talk about the challenges of that.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 8...

Send us Fan Mail Not all LS experiences are unicorns and rainbows. Often, they can be uncomfortable, or even what some people label as bad.  In today's episode, Jo talks about reasons why you shouldn't label your LS experiences as bad, because it could just make a "bad" situation even worse.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): T...

Send us Fan Mail Jo and Chad talk about the challenges of hosting a meet and greet. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail The Confident Swinger is BACK! The show has gone through some changes, but we are back to the original and ready to be better than ever. Thanks for sticking with us and giving it another shot! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by He...

Send us Fan Mail The LS can be a lot of fun and can enhance your life and your relationship. But, it can also bring a lot of drama if your own relationship is not rock solid. Don't bring other people into your drama... know when NOT to play. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryce...

Send us Fan Mail Wendy is taking a much-needed break to focus on her own mental health and healing. It's a see you a later, not a good-bye. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Wendy Jo talks about her journey to go from needing to be needed, to wanting to be chosen. And she talks a tiny bit about her struggle with mental health. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Warning: this episode is dark and heavy. And real. So, be prepared. I'll do a light episode next week. Maybe lol. Wendy Jo experiences shame, true shame, and feels it fully for the first time. So, if you want, and if you're ready, step inside. No need to knock, everyone is welcome. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The H...

Send us Fan Mail Hey guys, I recently figured something out for myself, and I thought maybe it would resonate with some of you. For me, the secret to great sex is desire. I HAVE to feel real desire for that other person, AND I have to feel desired BY that other person. ME. Not my body, not my lady parts, but ME. The problem with that is sometimes for guys it can be hard for you to differentiate be...

Send us Fan Mail Truth is, I'm wrong a lot. Let me share some of those truths with you today. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes, the most OBVIOUS concepts are wasted on me. This time, I'm referring to the face that I JUST recognized that the words confronting and confrontational are the SAME word with different suffixes. Not sure how I missed it, but I did. So, take a listen and bask in my idiocy. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat b...

Send us Fan Mail For YEARS, I struggled with asking for help. I know I'm not alone in that particular struggle. But I've come to realize that, when you understand yourself a little better, and you understand what made it hard for you to ask for help in the first place, you can start to make peace with it. And hopefully, one day, you can begin to see asking for help as a gift. Support the...

Send us Fan Mail It's always good to start off a new(ish) show with an introduction, so here you go!  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Your Bitchy Little Brain Podcast! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail I LOVE this episode! It's raw. It's honest. It's real. I had the pleasure of interviewing Roger, a bisexual guy in the LS, and his lovely wife Robyn. You get to hear his journey from NOT being bi, to curiosity, to accepting, and finally, to fully embracing it. AND, you get to hear her side and how she managed this unexpected turn of events. Now, they are both passio...

Send us Fan Mail If you're gonna have play, then you're going to have to figure out what to do AFTER play. You don't want it to be awkward, so what do you do? Jo talks a bit about this. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto f...