The Confident Swinger Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Chad and Jo talk about when the LS loses its excitement. It's bound to happen, the newness wears off, and with it, some of the excitement. We ramble and get off topic today, but we also talk about some of the reasons the LS may lose it's excitement, and some tips to bring it back. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The He...

Send us Fan Mail It's a fear of many a lifestyle man... being seen as or being labeled as a creepy guy. It's what holds a lot of guys back from making a move or shooting their shot. But, alas, Jo is here to help! Today's episode has easy to understand tips to ensure that YOU don't act like the creepy guy.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (ep...

Send us Fan Mail Respect is a big thing, especially in the LS when you are dealing with sensitive and vulnerable topics like sex. So today, Jo is asking, and answering, the question, can you be TOO respectful? What do you think? Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and T...

Send us Fan Mail  A lot of people struggle with the concept of reconciling the LS with their religious or spiritual beliefs. So today, Jo shares her thoughts about religion in the LS. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about how to reject someone with kindness. We all know that rejection IS a part of the LS, and a lot of people struggle with that. They struggle with rejecting others, and also with being rejected themselves. The key to rejecting with kindness is to be clear and concise, and to do it with the intention of freeing them to find a better fit. Support the sho...

Send us Fan Mail Last week, we talked about uncut penes. Everybody has preferences and turn offs, that's totally normal. And, sometimes people cross over into body shaming territory. That's what we're talking about today. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intr...

Send us Fan Mail There was a post recently about someone being turned off by uncircumcised penises (penes!), and since a friend had literally JUST talked to me about the topic a day before, I thought it was a sign that I should do an episode about it. So today, I talk about the reasons people may avoid, or seek out, an uncut penis. And I share my own personal preferences.  Support the show Old mus...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Chad goes solo for the first time, and shares his jealousy struggles. He shares what helped him get through it, and shares some tips for others. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Today, Jo talks about being successful in the LS. And really, your definition of success is really going to depend on your why, on your reason for being in the LS, and on what you want to get out of it. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the R...

Send us Fan Mail Jo is publishing an episode she had previously published only on Patreon. In it, she goes through a Making the First Move workshop she had been working on. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Today, Jo talks about her struggles with dealing with Chad's negative emotions, and how her trying to "fix" it, trying to "manage" it, actually made things way worse. You can be loving and supportive AND let your partner deal with their own negative, uncomfortable emotions. In fact, they aren't going to be able to move past them if they aren't al...

Send us Fan Mail Jo is joined today by her best friend Steph. They went to Westport, Washington to check out the Westport Hotel Takeover hosted by Club Sapphire out of Seattle. We wanted to share our thoughts and experiences while we were there. Enjoy! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by...

Send us Fan Mail Jo is joined by Chad this week (yay!), and they talk about the times when you OVER communicate. Or you talk things to death, instead of actually taking action and moving forward. Communication is important, or course. And sometimes, there comes a time when talking more isn't effective, and it isn't moving you forward. There are times you get stuck in a holding pattern be...

Send us Fan Mail Chad and Jo recently visited Paradise Lakes, a nudist/lifestyle resort in Florida, and they share their experiences with you. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail You see a lot of cockiness in the LS... people bragging about their sexual skills or prowess. Today, Jo talks about some possible reasons why that happens, and how it's actually NOT about confidence at all. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and T...

Send us Fan Mail Chad recently sort of hosted an impromptu party at our friend's house while they were out of town, and apparently, it was a great time! Today, we talk about why, and we talk about planning things versus letting them just play out. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by...

Send us Fan Mail Disappointment is bound to happen, even in the LS. It happens when things don't work out the way you want them to, and you're left dealing with those emotions. In today's episode, Jo talks about disappointment, some causes and situations, and then she talks about tips for managing disappointment, and some ways to avoid it in the future. Support the show Old music (&...

Send us Fan Mail Last week, Jo talked about people finding themselves in "natural" D/s dynamics. Staying on the D/s thought train, this week, Jo talks about how thoughts and emotions are ALSO in a D/s dynamic. Thoughts are the Dom (usually); they are in control, or they think they are, and emotions are the sub, the more submissive ones that do as they are told. Or, that's how we WAN...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about basic Dom/sub relationship dynamics, and how they can and often do show up in everyday vanilla relationships. She talks about the benefits that could come from embracing a more structured D/s dynamic. The video referenced in this episode: What Submissives REALLY Want from their Dominant (youtube.com) Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision...

Send us Fan Mail If you are already an overthinker, the LS can kick your bitchy little brain into overdrive. In today's episode, Jo talks about overthinking and gives some tips to help you manage it. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Plu...

Send us Fan Mail This is a short mini episode about self-love, and the things that get lost, the things that hide and keep you from the happiness and healing you are seeking. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail Today, Jo interviews Lisa, who has a different Lifestyle why. Lisa has some medical issues that affect her sexually, so she and her husband use the lifestyle to not just enhance their relationship, but to ensure that sexual needs are met. There is no one right way, or one right reason. This episode highlights the many dynamics that are possible, and is a reminder that sometimes, t...

Send us Fan Mail Let's talk about sex (baby, let's talk about you and me....). Today, Jo is talking about getting better at sex, about being more CONFIDENT about sex. Sex obviously plays a big part in the Lifestyle, and we ALL want to believe that we are good at sex. So today, Jo talks about what she believes make someone good at sex and offers tips for getting better. Support the show O...

Send us Fan Mail Hey everybody! Chad had his YouTube debut! Chad was asked to be a guest on the Open Bedroom Podcast with Jennifer Kaylo. She interviewed Chad and her partner, Scott, in her episode, "Husbands of Podcasters." So today, Chad talks a little bit about that experience, and then we share the episode. Check it out! https://youtu.be/vy2y7qwolIw?si=mCikaTBVs9hVIafQ Support the sh...

Send us Fan Mail Aging is something that a lot of people struggle with.  Especially in the LS, where so much emphasis is placed on sex appeal and physical appearance. But you CAN be confident as you age. That's what this episode is all about. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryc...