The Confident Swinger Podcast

Send us Fan Mail You have a good relationship. And now, you want to enhance your relationship by getting into the LS. You want to bring that added excitement, that extra spark. But NOT at the expense of your relationship. Basically, you're worried about f-ing up your relationship.  That's what today's episode is all about. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk N...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about slowing down in your flirting game. Or, what she likes to call drive by flirting. It's when you don't focus your attention on someone for a long period of time, but you keep coming back to flirting with them throughout the evening. It can be a super helpful tool for people who struggle with being put on displace. Support the show Old music...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Jo is talking about slowing things down. It's pretty likely that one, or both, of you will want or need to slow things down at some point in your LS journey. And that's ok. It's an important part of building trust in your relationship so that eventually, you both WANT to move forward again. It's important to remember to honor the feelings of both peo...

Send us Fan Mail Chad and Jo went to Michigan to check out a party, and they share their thoughts and experiences with you today. Plus, during that trip, Jo talks to three lovely ladies, who share their thoughts with you about the lifestyle. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for...

Send us Fan Mail Jo may be a coach, but that doesn't make her immune to some a-hole thoughts, and the fears that she's not good enough. Today, Jo gets vulnerable and shares her journey for processing and managing those a-hole thoughts. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces...

Send us Fan Mail Disclaimer...Jo is high, and she rambles like a MOFO when she's high. You've been warned!  Today, Jo is celebrating 100 episodes. And in celebratory fashion, she got stoned and recorded this episode. Probably not the best idea, but what's a celebration without some bad decisions! So, I present to you, Episode 100, Jo is Celebrating! Support the show Old music (<8...

Send us Fan Mail Apparently when you get stoned, you forget stuff. Who knew?? Just a little bonus of a few things I forgot because I was in celebration mode, aka rambling high mode. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail We all know the Golden Rule, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Or, treat others the way you would want to be treated. It's a great concept. I took it a slightly different route with the Golden Pineapple Rule. Treat others the way THEY want to be treated. This celebrates and honors people's differences.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision b...

Send us Fan Mail When you're feeling wonky, it's helpful to have some tools for managing those feelings. This is a tool you can use. It's called Give 5, and it's designed for you to ask yourself what you need in that moment, and to give it to yourself. To focus on that giving energy, out of love for yourself.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music...

Send us Fan Mail I recently started a new job, and I couldn't help but notice the similarities between being uncomfortable in starting a new job and being uncomfortable in new LS events. So many people REALLY try to avoid feeling uncomfortable, because it's hard. But, LIFE is uncomfortable! Today, I give you some tips for dealing with uncomfortable situations when you are in them, when y...

Send us Fan Mail Recently, I read a post from a man who had spent a lot of time building up his confidence, only to have it beaten down when someone labeled him as creepy and harassy (my word, not his, or hers). He has since built himself back up, but is still in what he considers the Stalemate of Confidence, where he feels good about himself, but is still unable to approach new people. I thought...

Send us Fan Mail Chad joins me this week, and even takes the lead as we talk about sexual performance anxiety. It's something that most people struggle with at least occasionally, and it can really get into your head. On this episode, we talk about some ways to deal with the dreaded sexual performance anxiety and give you some tips for getting out of your head. Support the show Old music (&lt...

Send us Fan Mail Yeah, so, I was wrong. A couple of weeks ago, I did an episode about why being selfish was a good thing. It was titled, Want to be Confident? Be selfish. And in theory, yes, my premise was that it is important for you to focus on yourself, and your own needs. And THAT is why being selfish is a good thing. but I was wrong. I was wrong about being selfish being a good thing. Because...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about goal setting and why it's important. And she talks about some goals that she had set, and how some of those have been met.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that a lot of people seem to want, and seem to struggle with, is making friends in the LS. Today, Jo talks about ways to build those deep friendships. And the biggest takeaway is that you need to be a friend to yourself, first. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3)...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about how being selfish is REALLY not the bad thing that everybody thinks it is. And further, she talks about how being selfish is really the key to being truly confident. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins...

Send us Fan Mail Jo shares more about an incident that she a few weeks ago with a woman and her coffee and the NO OUTSIDE FOOD AND DRINK rule. And she shares why this triggered her so much. Spoiler alert... it's not really about the drink, it's about respect and consent.  Consent is kind of like trying to bring outside food and drink into a place that doesn't allow it. Some people a...

Send us Fan Mail For a lot of people, especially people who struggle with confidence and insecurities, it's really important that people like them. It's something they spend a lot of time worrying about; what if people won't like me. In this episode, Jo talks about why you DON'T want everyone to like you. This is a great episode if you are a people pleaser, because it just migh...

Send us Fan Mail Happy Tuesday! In today's episode, Jo talks about why she thinks it's important to be a selfish lover. Sure, you may think she's crazy for believing that. And maybe she is, but maybe she's not.  She breaks down why she believes it's important for you to focus on YOUR wants and needs, FIRST. It's really the only way to truly BECOME a great lover. So, y...

Send us Fan Mail Chad's sick, so I'm doing a super quick episode today, so that I can focus on taking care of him. So I present, Jo's Cardinal Rules of Relationships. Enjoy! Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo gets deep into why it's important to listen to your body. And she talks about what makes that challenging, and of course, she gives some tips to help. It really can make all the difference between getting the results you want, like, you know, connecting with other people,  and getting left behind, swimming in disappointment. Get on the waitlist for the upc...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that a lot of couples struggle with in the LS is finding that elusive 4-way connection. The one where both couples are attracted to each other, and the dynamics line up, and everyone has a good time.  I have some thoughts, some things to consider, to hopefully make finding that 4-way connection a little easier for you.  Check out the Yes No Maybe list for Swinger...

Send us Fan Mail Jo's a little drunk, but today, she's talking about the dangers of setting an expectation. And why setting an intention is a much better idea. You'll get better results in the lifestyle if you set an intention, because YOU are in control, and you are not dependent on other people. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): T...

Send us Fan Mail Communication is important, we all know that. AND, we all know it's difficult, for various reasons. BUT, I think the real reason that communication is hard is because the real breakdown in communication is between you... and you. Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by...

Send us Fan Mail Jo shares a late-night story with you... well, more like early morning story, as she ponders possibilities.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intro, and Take the Reins by Hey Pluto for outro