The Confidence Project

If you are singe and in your late 30's, and you know you want to have a child with your future partner, you might feel a huge pressure to find him before its too late. This can be very stressful and impact your dating life in ways that are not serving you. But how do you manage your thoughts around it so you can get out of this urgency and feel more calm and at ease with the situation? This i...

In this episode I answer three important questions from women in my community:  How to prepare on a mindset level for a first date, deciding when physical intimacy is appropriate, and handling feelings of inadequacy after rejection. I also share with you a special Christmas offer, that you can get until 24th December 2023.  To sign up for the Christmas mini package click here: https://calendly.com...

In this episode I share with you the importance of self-worth and how it influences our dating behaviors and the kind of partner we attract. I explain what self-worth is and how its different from for instance self-confidence. And I give some examples on what it looks like when you lack self-worth and what it looks like when you have a good and strong sense of worthiness. I also give you some tips...

In this episode I share with you some ways to decode the non-verbal signals that can show you, if a man is interested in you. I give you 21 cues that can point to the direction that he is in to you, and also offer you ways to play with non-verbal language yourself, if you want to signal back to him. Finally I share a few non-verbal signs to show confidence.  You can use the content here to study o...

In this episode I share with you some common mistakes that I see women make in dating, how you can know if you are doing them, why they create problems for you, and how to fix them.  Are you only attracting men that want casual connections and situationships? Do you find yourself going on a ton of dates that lead nowhere or maybe struggling even going on one single date? And do you often struggle...

The number one reason why a lot of people never achieve their biggest dreams in life is fear of failure. And the worst part about that is that it is 100% optional: The only reason people fear failure is because of their thoughts about what failure means. In this episode I will offer you a different perspective on  failure and help you see why failure is a necessary and natural part of the process...

You get to choose if you want to see your wants as a need or a desire, and in this episode I will share with you why its not a good choice to tell yourself and the man you are dating that you have needs that you want him to fulfill.  Instead you want to take back your power and see how you don't need anything from a man, but that you want or desire something from him. Coming from a self-susta...

You open a profile and everything goes well in the beginning, but then things just seem to fizzle out. You get no new matches, or the men who wants to connect with you, don't interest you and seem out of your criteria. And when you finally see someone interesting, they don't match you back... What are you to do, when the dating apps don't seem to work for you? In this episode I give...

How do you initiate a conversation in a dating app when you have never met the person before, and you don't have much information to go from? What if the man you are writing with just gives you a one word answer back? And how do you best go from the initial texting to an actual real life date - or a video date if you want that?  This episode is full of tips to communicate in the very early st...

In this episode I share with you what to pay attention to, when you create a dating profile - both when it comes to choosing the right photos - the must haves and the no-go's - and when it comes to writing a text, that makes you stand out. I also give you some tips on what to look for in a man's dating profile.  This is the first episode in a mini series of 3 about Online Dating.  Book a...

In this episode I am going to offer you a new perspective on trusting a man, and that is to trust yourself WITH a man. Knowing how to be reliable, consistent and trustworthy with yourself - to make decisions ahead of time and commit to following through on them - this will help you create a safe space for yourself in dating. I will share with you the benefits of building self trust and give you so...

In this episode I share with you my advice on what to do and not to do in the scenario where a man pulls away in early dating. I give you this advice from two different point of views – the attachment style pov and the feminine energy pov. Is it a good idea to communicate your need for him to reassure you?  Or should you text him more to get him to respond back?  And if not – what is a solution th...

Do you have many and high expectations in dating and relationships? And does it often lead to disappointment? Or you feeling that the man you are dating does not really care about you... ?  This episode is about expectations in dating and relationships.  What you can really expect from a partner, and why its freeing for both of you to practice completely letting go of the attachment to expectation...

Do you feel that choosing on purpose how to show up in feminine energy when you are dating - as opposed to just doing what you feel a "natural" pull towards - would be "playing games"?  In this episode I address a concern that I sometimes hear about feminine energy - that it would be "playing games" to let the man take lead or to not be overly available on the phone f...

Have you ever noticed how you sometimes have felt ahead of time that you were going to attract love? You felt like all the channels were open and you were ready to meet someone? This is the feeling of being "fall-in-loveable" as I call it, and in this episode I try to decompose it and describe how you can access that feeling, which not only feels amazing to yourself, but also is magnetic...

How do I avoid seeming cold or uninterested, when I am leaning back in my feminine energy?  Who pays on a date and how do I manage this situation?    And what does it mean to be in flow and let go of attachment?  This episode is dedicated on answering some of the questions I get from listeners and clients, about feminine energy. I am giving you a few tips on how to signal to a man that you are not...

Have you dated a man that send you mixed signals and noticed how difficult it is to let go and move on? Then this episode is for you. I am sharing here what I have noticed most of us do as a response to the confusing signals, why its not working for us, and I offer you 3 shifts you can make to take back your power and come back to yourself.    Book a free Consultation call: https://calendly.com/la...

What is it like to work with a coach – what does it require from you and what can you expect from a coach? And what are the transformations a dating coach can help you get? In this episode I give you a snapshot of what coaching can do and offer you some examples of transformations and shifts that my past clients have experienced. I also share with you the questions you want to ask yourself if you...

Do you think its more challenging for you to date because you are introvert? Or because you are extrovert? In this episode I share my thoughts about advantages and challenges of respectively being intro- and extroverted – and give you a few tips to how to overcome the challenges.  Book a free Consultation call: https://calendly.com/laerke/45min Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendl...

Why is it so important to create a happy life as a single woman, and what are some ways to do that without getting promoted, winning the lottery or buying a new house? In this episode I share with you the most important reasons to cultivate happiness, and give you 6 steps to boost your happiness, that are all within your reach and some even scientifically proven to work. Spoiler alert: its an insi...

Can you create a feeling of closeness and deep connection with a stranger in less than an hour? This was a question that a psychologist decide to investigate in an experimental setting where participants asked each other 36 questions designed to elicit feelings about their hopes, regrets, dreams and core values. The idea was to gradually increase the level of back and forth self disclosure. And it...

You know this guy who does and says all the right things, and who is ALL in on you, and where there is only one small problem... You are not attracted to him! In this episode I share with you some ways that you can make attraction more possible and that you are totally in control of. Even if you can't pressure yourself to feel attraction, there are different ways you can facilitate it - and w...

What attracts you in a man and do you know if its good or bad? Do you think you can change who you are attracted to? In this episode I am sharing with you some of the important factors of what makes us attracted to someone, and why early attraction isn’t necessarily a good guide. And I give you the tools to take control over your attraction, so you don’t have to repeat patterns of being attracted...

Do you fantasize about feeling love at first sight? Like you just know that he is the one and you guys are meant for eachother? And do you believe that this is the ideal way of meeting a partner? Then you might be fooling yourself and missing out on Mr. Right! In this episode I share with you why love at first sight is a myth and what the problem is in wanting that – and hat you should look for in...

In this episode I share with you 5 ways in which that you might be turning a man off – without even knowing it. I explain why it’s a turn off for a healthy, masculine man and I of course share with you what to do instead. You will also be able to see why its true, that when you shift into feminine energy, you not only show up in a way that serves you better, when attracting a masculine man, you al...