The Confidence Project

Everything you create in your life - including your love life - begins with a thought, and when you know how to change your thoughts; shift from those who don't serve you and choose new thoughts on purpose, you get the power to create anything in your life (almost). You can change how you feel and act and thereby create new results in life. In this episode I share with you the Self Coaching M...

What is it about vulnerability – why is it so important, and why do you want to embrace it dating and relationships? How do you know if you are trying to suppress your vulnerability, and can you be too vulnerable? In this episode I give you a basic understanding of vulnerability and why it's important in any human connection, and I offer you some tips on how you can become more authentic and...

How do you get over a situationship and move on, so you can continue your dating journey? What if you really like your life and sometimes doubt if you even want to go through the troubles of dating to meet a partner? And how do you adjust your swiping criteria to get more matches in the dating app - without compromising your values and criteria for what you are looking for? This week is a listener...

If you keep attracting unavailable men, not feeling interested in men that are available or starting relationships with men you know are not a good long term fit for you and that you know you will leave again at some point, you might be having fear of intimacy. In this episode I share with you how it shows up in many disguises, why you might have it and some tips on how to overcome it, so you can...

Do you believe that the reason you are single is that you live in the wrong city? Then you are not alone – this comes up for a lot of women, and its particularly easy to believe if you are an expat. In this episode I will give you some tips to challenge that belief and to see that even if you feel it’s true, you don’t have to let your thoughts about men in your city get in your way of finding love...

The one thing that most people find more painful than being rejected face to face is ghosting. Why is it so painful, why do some people do it, and how can you support yourself and move on, if you have been ghosted? In this episode I share my reflections on that and offer you tips on how to make yourself less vulnerable to ghosting. Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/45...

I share with you my journey from becoming single at 49, dating in a foreign country, feeling discouraged and taking a long break to do the inner work and get clarity, which then allowed me to meet my current partner in a love adventure that was not like any other I have experienced. And I let you in on the most important insights I had during my break and that was exactly what I needed to move for...

Dating is a set of skills, that anyone can learn. However, its like riding a bike; you cant learn it from listening to a podcast, you have to get yourself out there and practice before you master it. And you need to get over the hurdle of taking the first few steps, before you get comfortable with dating. The key is to decide that a number of dates are only for practice and approach them with no e...

What does it look like when you are over-invested early on? Why is it a problem? What can you do to avoid it? And when IS IT ok to invest emotionally in a man? In this episode I give you 3 tips to avoid getting overly invested too early, when the man you re dating having had enough time to figure out his own emotions, and I tell you why its important that you slow down and take your time to develo...

Do you believe that finding love is a question of luck? And that you know within the first date if you will ever be attracted to a man? And how do you feel about dating a man who is shorter than you? In this episode I take a closer look at some of the beliefs I hear most frequent about finding love – beliefs that can keep you single for years! And I tell you why they are just your brain gaslightin...

What if you could learn how to ENJOY dating - and not just want to skip it and go to the end result, the relationship? How would that change your journey?   Most women don't actually enjoy dating and that makes them either quit dating, take long breaks or decide to settle with someone they know is not right for them.    Choosing to adopt a Discovery mindset however, will help you completely s...

In this episode I walk you through 5 principles of feminine energy communication and give you some examples of what that could look like in dating and why it is both empowering and fun to operate from your feminine energy when you communicate.  We can't avoid the fact that you have to be online when looking for love, and for many women the online aspect feels particularly challenging, because...

What does it mean to be emotionally available to yourself? How do you know if you are emotionally available to yourself, and why is it important in dating?  In this episode I explain all this and give you the keys to start connecting in a new way with your emotions. This will eventually make you immune to men who are not offering you what you want on an emotional level, men who emotionally unavail...

If you have a history of falling for emotionally unavailable men, who will go hot and cold on you, offer you only breadcrumbs and just want to "take it easy and see where this goes" - then you will want to listen to this episode. Because here I am going to give you the most important reasons for why you keep falling for this kind of man and how to break the pattern - so you can avoid was...

Do you know how to recognize, if a man is emotionally unavailable and not open for a commitment,  or if he is someone who could be good partner potential? What are the signs to look out for in emotional unavailability, and that we often ignore? And how does it look when he really IS emotionally available and ready for a commitment?  In this episode, I want to help you develop the skill of evaluati...

Did you know you can use visualisation to shortcut your journey to love, feel more motivated and have a clearer direction? And that you can also use it to grow your confidence in dating or find your hidden triggers and intimacy fears.  Visualization – I like to call it daydreaming on purpose – will help you become an energetic match to the partner you are looking for.  Its an incredibly powerful t...

Do you have the experience that you never get approached by a man when you go out? That you always have to take the first initiative or nothing happens? Then you will want to learn how to get a mans attention and inspire HIM to walk up to you and start the conversation! It’s a skill and something anyone can learn. In this episode I give you some tips on how to do this and I suggest a small challen...

I am having a conversation with my client, Beth, who - would you believe it - after 10+ years of unsuccessful dating decided to get support from a dating coach, signed up with me, and then less than 3 months later met the man of her dreams.  In this episode we talk about her journey, the shifts she made that allowed her to attract her perfect match and how she experienced the journey. And in the e...

How do you feel about letting a man pay on a date or give you a compliment? Do you believe you owe him something in return? Do you feel the need to give him back asap, so he wont think that you are cheap? Do you tend to downplay a compliment?  Most strong, independent women find it difficult to receive without immediately wanting  to give back the same or more. In this episode I share with you why...

If you feel triggered by Valentines day and the fuzz about celebrating romantic love – then this episode is for you, because this is about changing the way you think about being single and how creating a fun and exciting single life is the best you can do for your future relationship. And also – I share a few fun facts about Valentines day and other traditions around romance.    Remember to sign u...

Do you see the amazing and attractive men everywhere? Or do you believe all the good ones are gone? Maybe its time to do a check on your Man Mindset and reprogram your brain, so you can become good at spotting the good men and feel optimistic in you dating life! In this episode I show you how to hack your negative beliefs by using science based methods.    SINGLE LADIES VALENTINES PARTY - 14th Feb...

Are you a people pleaser in dating? Then you might be surprised to find out how that impacts your energy long term – and you might also be surprised to find out, that saying the little word NO actually can make you more attractive as a woman and be a quality stamp for the right man. In this episode I talk about the importance of saying no, how it builds your self-trust and self worth and I give yo...

Use the past as data to create a better future. Regardless of how many years you’ve been dating without finding your ideal partner, its never a waste of time, when you decide to learn from the past. But how do you learn from your bad dates? In this episode I explain why its important to look at your past to get the learnings, how to do that, and also how to make peace with your past love life, so...

In this episode I give you 10 things that I find important in feminine energy, and dive in more details into the one shift you can make, that will change your dating life quickly. I also tell you about my own initial resistance to feminine energy and address some of the misunderstanding I hear about what it all means.    Free Consultation call: https://calendly.com/laerke/45min Free booklet on Fem...

In this episode I explain why its so important to show up authentically in dating when you want to attract not just any man, but your perfect match. I share some ways I see high-achieving women prevent themselves from being authentic and give you some tips on how you can practice letting go of the thoughts and beliefs that stop you from being fully true to yourself in dating.     Free Consultation...