The Confidence Project

A sweet and short episode about what having your own back actually means, some examples of it, and a 2-step method to start having your own back.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page for Freebies   How To Meet Men Outside The Dating App's How To Be Interesting 7 Steps To A Joyful Life - With or Without a Man (Sign up with...

The Dare of The Day is the one most efficient way to build unshakeable confidence and at the same time expand your self belief and shift your identity. The exercise is very simple, but it requires you to feel any uncomfortable feeling you might have and to be consistently challenging yourself every day for a month. But then you get results almost 100% guaranteed!   Book a free 45 min call with me...

Imagine life without feelings. What would it be worth? Humans are wired to feel, and everything we want in life is because of the way we think it will make us feel to achieve it. Its also the fear of a feeling that keeps us away from making dreams reality or having the difficult conversations that are necessary. And if you are not willing to feel a range of negative feelings and not let it stop yo...

This episode is for you if you are a woman who feels comfortable being alone, although you still want a man in your life, but this time around you are reluctant to make an effort to meet someone, because you already feel that you did too much and compromised too much for men in your past relationships. I share with you some observations that I have made, and give you some tough love advice to move...

Are you struggling with speaking up when you want to? You overthink it, wait too long and then the moment has passed. Or you know what you want to say, but something is holding you back. At some point in your life, you learnt that it was more safe to be quiet than to speak up. So even if you want to share your thoughts and ideas, it's just not coming out. In this episode I share with you how...

There are the challenges we choose and those we don't choose. It's easy to fall into victimhood and feel powerless, when we run into a challenge or difficulty that we didn't choose ourselves. But there is another, and much more empowering way, and that is to decide on purpose who you want to be going through this challenge. Choosing the mindset that serves you and go all in on suppo...

Your language and ways of expressing your thoughts and opinons can unintentionally demonstrate self-doubt to others. In this episode I share with you 4 different common ways in which you might show self-doubt and undermine your authority. I give you some mindset shifts that you can use to change these habits and behaviours, and I teach you a tool that can be quite eye opening.    Book a free 45 mi...

Everything that you want to achieve in life and that really matters, is on the other side of discomfort. It is impossible to achieve big goals without having to go through discomfort. Feelings like fear, anxiety, awkwardness, shame, resistance, boredom, failure - all these uncomfortable feelings stop so many people from making their dream reality. But you don't have to jump into the deep wate...

If you are stuck in overthinking and often postpone making decisions or taking action, this episode will is exactly what you need! You will understand why we overthink, what our brain is trying to protect us from, and what is really going on beneath the analysis paralysis. I will also give you a 3 step process to break the cycle, and coach yourself out of the overthinking and into action! This pro...

Confidence is not just feeling great when you walk into a room full of strangers. If you do that, you are already doing good, but how do you feel about takings risks, making decisions without overthinking, or following through on your goals? In this episode I share with you 5 signs that your confidence is not in a good shape - so if you recognise some of this, it's good news; it means that yo...

In this very personal episode I am sharing some thoughts and reflections I had in 2025 and moving into 2026. I am also sharing some of the changes that are coming in the podcast and in my business.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page for Freebies   How To Meet Men Outside The Dating App's How To Be Interesting 7 Steps To...

The Podcast is going to take a short break and come back later in a new format and with new, exciting content. In this episode I share a few personal updates with you and leave you with a heartwarming story that shows that there is hope for all of us, and you are never too old to find love!  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page...

Feeling safe is the number one feeling most women want with a man. Not the only one of course, but it's the feeling they focus on, when I ask them what they imagine feeling once they have met their future partner. In this episode I share some reflections on why safety is important - and why it's so much more important for women than it is for men.    Book a free 45 min call with me here:...

More and more women are tempted to just quit dating and give up on the idea of ever finding a man who can commit to a stable relationship. They prefer the peace of single life over an emotional roller coaster with a man who isn't capable of or interested in a serious commitment. If this is you, listen to the episode. I want you to remember why you wanted the relationship to begin with - and i...

There are some very basic traits and qualities that caracterise someone who is securely attached in a relationship. These qualities are worth looking for and also worth cultivating in yourself. In this episode I share what they are and also the opposite - how the typical insecure (anxious) mindset can look like.    Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all m...

In this episode I share some reasons why anxiously attached people often struggle with clear and honest communication. I give examples on what that could look like so you can see if this is you. And then I guide you to become better at speaking up and share how this can actually strengthen a relationship and make you feel more secure.   Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/la...

What does it mean to love yourself? And how does it show up in your choices and behavours? In this episode I share 7 ways you can choose to show up from self-love in dating.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page for Freebies   How To Meet Men Outside The Dating App's How To Be Interesting 7 Steps To A Joyful Life - With or...

If you want to simplify your dating life, here is just ONE simple tool that you can use to assess whether a man could be a good choice for you, and you can use this tool from the very first date. This will help you to not miss out on the good guys and let go of the ones who might have it all on paper, but with who you will never be happy.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com...

This is about how you can flip everything around and step out of your conditioning and into being in power of your life and how you see your self. It's about intentionality. How to shift from feeling out of control and in a repetitive cycle of negative self-talk, to being in charge of your life's direction and choosing empowering thoughts about yourself. Because nobody can tell you to no...

Having that thing that you feel passionate about and that gives your life meaning and purpose is crucial for your own well being, resilience and self confidence. But it's also something that makes you more attractive in dating, turns you into a better and more balanced partner and helps you feel valuable and connected to yourself after a breakup. In this episode I give you some inspiration on...

Low effort energy is contageous - once you experience low effort from guys in the dating app, you eventually stop wanting to make an effort yourself. But then the problem is that you attract only low-effort people. In this episode I share wth you a mindset shift you can make to break the cycle of low effort and show up in the energy that you want to attract from a man.  Book a free 45 min call wit...

If  you find yourself repeatedly attracting men, that are not ready for or interested in a commitment, then the real reason might be that on a subconscious level you are not ready for the commitment yourself. In this episode I give you 3 different reasons why you might be unconsciously attracting non-commital men and what to do about it.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/...

What does it really mean to forgive, and what are some reasons we struggle to let go of anger and resentment? In this episode I share with you, what forgiving means and what it doesn't mean, and why forgiving is an act of self love, and I give you 3 different ways that you can use to release your anger to someone from your past, to finally let go and free yourself.      Book a free 45 min cal...

If you are not happy in your single life, you will most likely not be happy in a relationship. Knowing how to cultivate a fun and fulfilling single life is key to attracting a healthy relationship, but also to stay balanced inside a relationship. In this episode I give you 6 steps to create a happy single life.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my f...

Can you make yourself fall for someone? Or rather - can you increase chances that it will happen, if you are a good match? This is what this episode is about. Taking charge of your emotional life and facilitating attraction when its possible, and when you know the guy would be a good match.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page...