The Confidence Project

This week I am talking to a listener who is struggling with not getting overly invested early on. Especially the texting part - not sending more than one message for each message he sends and managing the doubt and anxiety that can come up, if we don't hear back from him soon. Being early invested is also a question of time boundaries on phone or video calls - as well as in person dates. And...

This episode is a conversation with a listener who want some advice on how to connect with men organically, and how go meet more interesting men online. We talk about non-verbally showing a man that you are interested, the importance of not taking charge of a dating connection, and allowing attraction to be something that can grow in time, while you keep an eye on the green flags and signs that a...

This weeks episode is a conversation I had with a client, who managed to create some quite amazing results in dating. She went from never going past date nr 3-4, to have 3-4 dates pr week, several connections that went beyond date nr 5, a man funnel that brings her quality dates every week and meeting a person who right now seems to be a really good potential match for a long term relationship and...

In this episode, I speak to a listener who has called in with some questions on how to get more dates from the dating apps, when she doesn't see anyone interesting in the apps and conversations seem to not flow easily. We also talk about dating app mindset and meeting people in real life and how to show a man that you are approachable.  Want to work with me?  Book a free consult call here:  ...

The one thing that healthy and happy long-term couples have figured out, and that allow them to keep the spark and attraction between them alive, is that they both have a Secret Garden. But what is a Secret Garden and why does it work? And what is even the relevance of knowing about this in dating? This is the topic of this episode.   To book a free 45 min consult call click here: https://calendly...

In this episode I share my take on self-trust and why it's important in dating and in life in general. You also will hear what it is, that gets in our way of building self-trust, being able to fully rely on ourselves, and that it's never too late to become someone who trusts herself to do what she say she will do.  To book a 45 min free consult call click here:  https://calendly.com/laer...

For many single women in their late 30's wanting to have a child can be very stressful and require some big decisions to be made. Because what if you don't meet anyone that matches your standards for a partner and co-parent before it might be too late? Are you going to give up on your dream of having a child or are you going to consider having one on your own? In this episode I have a co...

Losing yourself or abandoning yourself in a dating connection or long term relationship is very normal. We do this for several reasons and often we only discover when it's too late. In this episode I share with you some of the reasons we do it, what it looks like when you lose yourself and how to prevent it from happening or get back on the track, if it did already happen. And I also tell you...

How do you react if you feel jealous? Do you even allow want to admit to yourself that you feel it, or do you try to suppress it and move on? Most people look at jealousy as something you are not supposed to feel if you have a healthy sense of self-worth.  But sometimes we do actually feel it, and its completely normal to feel it on rare occasions. In this episode I offer you a strategy for how to...

Nobody enjoys being rejected. Not even from a man that they don't see a future with... But in dating rejection is the norm. Its what happens most of the time. Either you deselect the guy or he deselects himself - and it happens either sooner or later - until you meet someone that you want to stay with and who wants to stay with you.  In this episode I give you some new ways of thinking of rej...

If you are dating someone for a longer time or starting a relationship with them, even if you know he isn't the one for you, because for one or the other reason, you don't really respect him because you feel he is inferior to you - that is what I call dating down. In this episode I will explain what happens when you do that, and give you an insight into the real reason you feel safe with...

What does it mean to be your own best partner? And why is it important in dating, relationship and life in general? In this episode I share with you my take on being your own best partner, and I walk you through the 7 elements that I believe are important to master. We attract what we are a match to, so working on yourself is always a good investment of your time and energy.  Book a free call here...

In this episode I have a conversation with my client, A, who met a new partner in record time (!) and then experienced a wave of dating/relationship anxiety - fear of losing her newly found love. This kind of anxiety is not at all rare, and many women go through it, when they all of a sudden meet a man who is very different than the ones they knew in the past and who seems to be almost "to go...

In this episode I give you five reasons that can explain why you are still single - even if you are amazing! Listen and see if you recognize some of this, because the good news is that you can change it, as soon as you have the awareness.  To book a free call with me click here: https://calendly.com/laerke/45min Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my f...

If you experience only hearing negative stories about the dating app's and people being tricked, ghosted or scammed, this episode is for you. I offer you some mindset tips and my perspective on what it takes to succeed in the apps, and I share with you some interesting data on the real success of the dating apps. If you need to feel inspired and motivated to use the app's, this is an epi...

People pleasing, man pleasing, never saying no, always taking care of others needs first and not speaking a word about what YOU need and want - does that ring a bell? If so, it's time to ditch the Nice Girl inside you and start speaking up! Its better for you, your emotional well-being and your future relationship - and it also makes you stand out as a sophisticated woman! In this episode I s...

Are you holding yourself back from dating because of fear of being heartbroken (again)? Or are you getting over a breakup and not sure, if you are ready to go back into dating? Then this episode will help you find the answers. I am sharing here how to heal your heart and get over a breakup, not only to survive, but to thrive. I teach you the concept of clean pain vs suffering and how to manage you...

Strong and independent, highly competent, capable and resourceful - you most likely appreciate that in yourself. And you should.  Being super independent as a woman is not a problem. But being in the habit of taking care of everything ourselves can lead us to be less open to receiving from a man. And that's the kind of independence that can become a block for love and romance. In this episode...

Do you feel confused about concepts like feminine energy, polarity and attachment styles, and wonder how to figure it all out, and whether you should be knowledgeable in all of it? Then this episode of will help you get more clarity! Here I explain the different attachment styles and share with you why the shifts in mindset and behaviours that you do, when you operate from a Feminine Energy, can h...

Circular dating, rotational dating, having a man funnel, a pipeline or dating in parallel -what comes up for you when you think about dating more than one man at a time…? Do you feel overwhelmed? Or empowered? Do you think of it as a fun way to date or do you think its like cheating...? In this episode I explain what a Man Funnel is and give you six reasons why I believe that all single women look...

In this episode I share with you the difference between wounded and empowered feminine energy, what it looks like to be acting from one or the other in dating, and how you recognise if you are more in one than the other.  You will also learn why it matters, this is not only a question of how you feel about yourself - it makes a huge difference in who you naturally attract, if you are acting from a...

Do you catch yourself regularly checking if the guy, that you are dating has texted you back? And if you don’t hear from him for a couple of hours, you start worrying that he has lost interest? Do you analyse the way he texts you, and his choice of words and whether he uses smileys or not,  to an extent where it starts to feel almost obsessive? And do you worry what he thinks of you - much more th...

This is the ONE year anniversary of the podcast! I am so grateful for all of you listeners and today I am sharing a few fun facts about the most popular episodes, the listeners locations and how many downloads the podcast had.  I am also sharing my free workbook that will help you celebrate your growth in 2023 and set new intentions for your love life in 2024! And I will tell you why I am not a bi...

In this episode I share with you 12 of the 24 pieces of advice that I created for the Advent Calendar, that I shared on instagram and with my email-subscribers. Its a mix of very tangible, concrete advice that you can use when you are on a date, and powerful mindset tools and shifts that allow you to feel better and more balanced in your dating journey.  I also offer all of you a Christmas/New Yea...

Going home for Christmas? Dreading the questions and comments about you still being single - or single again? Or maybe its not even the questions, but more your idea of what they might think about you... In this episode I help you get rid of the mind drama about being asked "Are you seeing someone?" and not feeling comfortable saying "No" or "Kind off". I show you how...