The Confidence Project

Ever tried the annoying thing of having a song stuck to your brain? Did you know you can actually decide to put another song in there to get rid of the first one - and that the same is the case with thoughts? Negative self-talk, worry and rumination - you don't have to feel like a victim to your thoughts, they are not an expression of who you are, you can change them, just as you change the m...

In this episode I explain the art of being joyfully unattached - as a woman who is determined to live her best life and get the most out of any situation, while also wanting to find a partner. This energy not only makes you more attractive to a potential partner, it also feels better for yourself as it leans on having a purpose in life, something that brings meaning to your life outside of a relat...

This is a special celebration of episode nr 100. I am offering you 100 dating tips - not all of them are deeply serious, so take it with a glimpse in the eye!  I am also launching my new Love Confidence Quiz. This is a test you can use to get an idea of your confidence level in dating and relationships, and you can find it here: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz Book a free 45 m...

I talk to the Stop People Pleasing Coach, Sara Fisk, about why we people please, why women in particular tend to set aside their own needs to take care of others, how to break the pattern and start feeling our boundaries again, and how to be clear and kind in communicating a "no". Sara shares her wisdom and insight from both a mindset and somatic approach. And you will get a fun exercise...

What IS self confidence really about? Is it just showing up with a lot of self assuredness or is there more to it? Hint... There is of course. In this episode I share with you the 3 main components of self confidence and why growing self confidence will improve your love life. In other words - why it matters and in what ways it matters.  Sign up for to list and get access to the Self Confidence of...

Confidence is the most attractive outfit you can carry on a date. And it's also the best feeling for yourself. Being confident means trusting yourself, speking kindly to yourself, having your own back, supporting yourself and being willing to try things and take risks, without shaming yourself, if things don't go as you want.  When you are confident in your love life, you feel like a cat...

Tired of doing the app's? Then mix it up with some offline dating - in other words; meet people out there in real life! In this episode I share with you why it's a good idea to do both, and give you some tips on how to approach the organic, offline dating.    Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page for Freebies   How To...

Your social life is an important ancher in your emotional well-being and especially while dating, but also when you are in a relationship, its crucial to have a good friend circle. In this episode I explain why that is and give you some tips to how to approach finding new friends that will complete your circle of people, with who you can do all the things you want and need to do, so that your part...

Is it ok to date a man who is seperated, but not legally divorced? And what am I to look out for in that case? How do I react when someone thinks I'm "over the hill" by the age of 50, and I still want to find love? And what can I do, if I don't have any recent photos for my dating profile, how can I get more comfortable taking selfies or having photos of myself taken? In this e...

In this episode I give you some inspiration to what questions to ask on the first 3 dates, and I share with you why it's important to ask those questions to find out if a man is aligned with your values and life goals.  Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my page for Freebies   How To Meet Men Outside The Dating App's How To...

This is the last episode in a mini series of 3 on emotional (un)availability - republished from March 2023. This time we take a look at your emotional availability to yourself, as this is what determines how easily you fall into the trap of dating emotionally unavailable men. It's also really crucial for your general emotional well-being and will allow you to overcome challenges and obstacles...

If you have a history of dating emotionally unavailable guys, aka players, commitment phobias, casual relationships or situationships kind of men, then you will want to listen to this episode to get the insight you need to break the pattern. I give you 6 different reasons you attract these men into your life and for each I give you advice on how to change that.   Book a free 45 min call with me he...

What are the signs to look for i early and mid term dating, that can show you if a man is emotionally available? It's not always that obvious, especially if you don't think you have experienced being in a relationship with an emotionally available and mature person. In this episode I give you the signs on both sides, so you can see the difference and know what are the good signs and what...

You don't have to be 100% healed, and you don't have to dig deep in childhood wounds to feel more secure and confident in your dating life. In this episode I share with you what it looks like to be secure or not secure in dating and different approaches to become more secure - both with mindset work and practical shifts in behaviour. I also tell you why you should pay attention to the fa...

There are sneaky ways, in which we could unintentionally turn a man off, and that we are not even aware of, as strong, independent women. In this episode I share with you 5 different no-go's that would make most healthy masculine men feel less attracted to you - if you do it on the regular. Listen in to learn what they are so you can pay attention to if you are doing it yourself.   Book a fre...

You most likely know this situation where a man is sending you mixed signals - when you are together things are fine, but then when you are in between dates, you either hear nothing or very little, and he doesnt follow through on promises and cancels dates etc. But then when you see him again, he wants to plan a weekend together and acts like you are the love of his life. In this episode I give yo...

Listen to this episode to hear why you absolutely must get yourself onto the interest list for my group course on Feminine Energy. I will tell you WHY you want to learn feminine energy, WHAT you will learn in the course, and give you more detail about the timing. I also share with you the BIG bonusses you will get in this course.  I do not know if I will ever offer this course again, so if you are...

In this episode I talk about signs that a man is emotionally available and has a good level of self-awareness AND how you can be a match to that. I give you 11 concrete signs, where some of them will show up later in a connection and some of them you can discover early on.  As you know - its all about becoming a woman who is a match to the man, you are looking for. And when I say that self-awarene...

In this episode I share with you 3 things you can start working on, if you want to both improve your relationship to yourself and change your relationship with a partner, whether you are dating or in a relationship:  Shifting from external to internal focus is going to help you become more intentional and take your power back, if you feel you don't have much influence over your love life.   S...

In this episode I talk to Lifecoach, Jo Renshaw, who helps women women navigate midlife in a way that sets an example for their daughters and the younger generation of women in general - on what is possible for a woman going through midlife. And this can include finding a new partner or changing career in your late 40's - or doing both, as Jo did! We talk about socialisation of women in midli...

In this episode I share with you why it's a problem to let instant attraction and chemistry be your guiding light in dating. I also share that I have created a free masterclass that teaches you how to facilitate the development of chemistry and deepen the connection already in early dating. The point is to try this out to explore if there is a potential in a connection with a man that you are...

Friendships are SO important to balance you out emotionally and help you avoid hyper focusing when you are dating. And when inside a relationship it is key to staying true to who you are and not lose or abandon yourself. In this episode I talk to Friendship Coach Zayne Khan about intentionality in meeting new friends, mindset behind meeting friends after a certain age, deepening an existing friend...

This episode is about the misunderstanding that leaning back means that you can just expect a man to take lead without doing anything. This is not how feminine energy works. You might be leaning back when it comes to taking action, taking initiative and taking lead with a man. But you are not supposed to do nothing. Listen to hear how you can shift into a soft feminine energy and make a man want t...

In this episode I share with you some of the important red and green flags - signs that a man might or might NOT be a good choice for a committed relationship. There is a lot of confusion around that, and I often hear someone mention a "red flag", that has nothing to do with whether a man could be ready or interested in a commitment, but rather is a  preference. So here i Present to you...

In this episode I share a few reflections and observations with you. Going through a big surgery recently made me think of the challenge of embracing an individual journey, without judging ourselves for not being further ahead. I often hear women talk about how they feel they are behind in their "life agenda" and that they believe they should have found the relationship of their life by...