The Confidence Project

In this episode you'll learn what attraction really is and how you can influence who you are attracted to so you can recognize when you are about to fall for the emotionally unavailable guy, that isn't a good match for you, and stop yourself before you react on this attraction.       Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides on my pa...

Do you believe that true love starts at first sight? And that for a connection to turn into the ideal relationship, sparks and attraction must be there on the very first date? Then you have to listen to this episode where I poke a whole in the myth and share the data on love at first sight, and tell you what my alternative take on this is: Curiosity at first sight!  Book a free 45 min call with me...

If you are struggling to let go of someone - after a breakup, or even a situationship, you want to listen to this episode, where I give you the simple shift you need to start moving forward. Letting go is a decision, and you get to make that decision when you want, instead of waiting for it to happen.     Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free gui...

Once you have passed the initial stages of grief after a breakup and you still don't feel at your best, but you know something needs to happen to move yourself forward, then you need this episode. Here I give you ideas to 3 action steps you can take, concrete things to do, that will help you get a new perspective on things, see yourself in a different light and create something new in your li...

We talk a lot of talk about emotionally unavailable men, and how to recognise the signs and avoid getting involved in someone who isn't emotionally available. But what really happens inside that person? What are the psychological reasons for this emotional unavailability? This is what I dive into in this episode plus give you some tips to navigate dating or relationships with emotionally unav...

Fear of commitment is typically something we associate with emotionally unavailable men, right? Well, think again, because a lot of women have commitments fear, but it just shows up in a different way and can be more subtle. In this episode I share the signs of commitment fear in women, the deeper reasons behind this fear and how you can work on overcoming it.   Check also The Secret Garden, episo...

If you feel that dating is an emotional rollercoaster—and you find yourself overthinking, constantly checking your phone, and feeling a sense of panic when someone takes too long to reply - or if you are consumed with fear that the person you're interested in will suddenly lose interest or abandon you - then you might have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, I'm diving into wha...

Did you know that your thoughts are shaping your reality—whether you realize it or not? Every day, you're creating self-fulfilling prophecies. The question is: Are they working for you or against you? Most of us unconsciously reinforce negative beliefs, proving to ourselves again and again that we're not interesting enough, not good enough, or that success, love, or happiness just aren&a...

We all have perceived flaws and imperfections, and some of them might feel like reasons we are "undateable" or reasons a man would lose interest if he found out. Thoughts about your perceived flaws can block you in dating and make you show up less confidently. In this episode I teach you a simple tool to reframe your thoughts about your flaws and imperfections - whether its deep, dark se...

Just "be yourself" - you've heard it a million times and you know its true, but it's easier said than done. Especially when you meet someone you really like, and it's all very new - you might find yourself trying to impress him or adapt to his opinions to not risk pushing him away. In this episode I give you some examples of ways you might not be authentic and some questio...

Do you fear not being interesting enough to the man that you are dating? Do you worry that he will find someone "more interesting"? Then you have to listen to this episode where I share with you how to 1) work on your mindset around being "interesting" and 2) the one trick that will ALWAYS make you more interesting in the eyes of other people, and that also helps you relax more...

This week I have a conversation with Dawn Ledet, the Self-Trust Coach. If you've ever second-guessed your decisions, hesitated to take action, or blamed yourself after not following through on a decision —this one's for you! Dawn shares the 3 steps to develop unshakeable self-trust, and explains what it means to "have your own back".  Find more about Dawns coaching on her websi...

What are the secrets to a healthy long-lasting relationship? What does it mean to take personal responsibility inside a relationship? Where does true fulfillment in love come from?  And what if you've “missed the boat” to love? This week I have a fun and heart-centered conversation with my friend and colleague, Lifecoach Ronda Loveridge about relationships, personal responsibility, long-lasti...

If you find it hard to get started with the dating apps and write a profile that stands out or come up with catchy opening lines, then you want to listen to this episode. Here I share some cool ways you can get inspiration and help from ChatGPT. I do a few tests and show you the result - and to be honest it's not bad at all! I also share with you the fun little Valentines conversation I had w...

What is in a good life? And why does it matter for dating how you live the rest of your life, you might ask? In this episode I share with you why it's important to live your best life - and that this includes having a healthy relationship to yourself first and all. I give you the steps to take to review your own life and see if you are in fact living YOUR best life!      Book a free 45 min ca...

If you have been dating for ages and only gone on first dates because there was no one you found really interesting or you didn't feel the chemistry, then this episode is for you. I share with you the surprising reason why you might be overly critical towards men and give you 3 key points to use to change your dating journey and have better dates.    Book a free 45 min call with me here: http...

This episode is a must for anyone who wants to create new results in their life - whether that is in dating or in relationships - or in something completely different. I share with you here the 3 common mindsets that I have found, that woman who are successful in finding love, have. And this is available to ANYONE who wants to do the work. Want to create new results in your life? Want to attract l...

Understand the science behind why you keep falling into the trap of getting invested in emotionally unavailable partners, that only give just enough to keep you hanging, and how to break the pattern and start attracting healthy, masculine energy men, that show up consistently and don't treat you as an option. I guide you through the 3 steps you need to take, to rewire the pattern for good.  B...

In this episode I give you some reasons to why dating after 40-ish is more fun and easy, than when you were 25. I also debunk some of the myths or negative stories we tell ourselves about how difficult it is to find a good man, and how horrible the dating aps are. If you think dating in midlife is depressing and hopeless, then you will want to listen to this episode!   Book a free 45 min call with...

The first Sunday of the year is what all the big online dating platform calls "Dating Sunday" or "Swipe Sunday" - because apparently this is the day where there is most activity in the app's. And if you are already thinking that 2025 will be your love life year - then why not start it now?  In this episode I give you 5 simple keys to finding love in 2025. It doesn't h...

This episode is a guided self coaching session! Get your pen and paper, get ready to pause the podcast and reflect on the questions, and you will be in a different place afterwards. This episode has all the questions you need to go through, to see how much you've achieved in 2024, learn from your "failures" and leave the year with peace and gratitude - as well as jumping into 2025 f...

What is unconditional love and what does it mean, that love never hurts? Can you have unconditional love and still have conditions for your relationship? And what does unconditional self-love look like? In this episode I dive into the most peaceful and unselfish forms of love; the unconditional love.   Book a free 45 min call with me here: https://calendly.com/laerke/consult Get all my free guides...

Have you tried being on a date with a man who just talks non-stop without checking in with you if it's even interesting to listen to, and without asking you any questions or showing interest in you? As an introvert, I have many times been on dates with men who couldn't stop talking about themselves, their job, their car or something else. And it was such a turn off... This week I give yo...

Are you afraid of being too needy? Not sure if what you want from your partner is "normal"? The fear of being too needy can lead us to completely ignore our needs and pretend that everything is fine, even when we are suffering. Or it can prompt you to seek permission with others to find out what you are "allowed" to need and want. Learn in this episode how to be responsible for...

If you struggle wth doubting yourself after setting a boundary and you feel like you need someone to approve the boundary and reassure you that it's a "normal" boundary, then you want to listen to this episode. I share with you why we as women can tend to think that we need permission for a boundary and how to shift our thinking around and start giving ourselves that permission.   B...