The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   🖤  Attachment LIBRARY: FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)  https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤  1:1 Support + Courses: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   I once threw a remote across the room. 😮‍💨 I’m not proud of it..BUT I also don’t shame t...

If you’re anxiously attached and feel like you’re RUINING every good relationship... this episode might just be your wake-up call  🖤 Do you chase closeness when your partner pulls away? 🖤 Do you try to FIX the disconnection… by doing MORE? 🖤 Do you spiral in your head wondering “Did I say something wrong?” 🖤 Are you exhausted from overgiving, overthinking, and over performing… and STILL feelin...

Attachment Style QUIZ  – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ  – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist  – Signs you're becoming securely attached   Are you with someone GOOD…but you can’t stop overthinking, spiraling, or self-sabotaging? You’re not broken. You’...

Here are Dopamine Menu Ideas That ACTUALLY Work For Anxious Attachment ✨💛 Your dopamine menu is EVERYTHING if you have an anxious attachment style  Why? Because it helps you stop chasing those quick emotional hits from your partner. You’ll stop needing constant texting, reassurance, or obsessing over every little thing 💭📱 Even that urge to stalk your ex online? 👀✨ It starts to fade. In this...

Are you stuck on the anxious‑avoidant relationship rollercoaster? Feeling like every conversation ends in confusion, distance, or chasing? In this episode of the Anxious to Secure podcast, you'll learn how to fix an Anxious‑Avoidant Relationship in 15 Steps. I’m breaking down a powerful 15‑step pyramid framework from the five BIGGEST mistakes that keep you stuck, all the way up to the ONE core cha...

You don’t actually want a relationship. Not really. Not in the way you think. You don’t want someone just to text you good morning… or cuddle you at night… or talk about the future 🛏📱💍 You think that’s the dream. But underneath all of it? You’re chasing a very different outcome - one you don’t always realize.   You want to finally feel SAFE. You want to finally feel CHOSEN - like you’re ENOUGH....

🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   "Why can't I find a secure partner?" Let me share with you 5 reasons why...   Ever wondered why the “safe” ones feel boring... or why you keep falling for hot/cold dynamics that leave you spiralling? You're not broken. You're just wired to seek love that feels familiar - not safe. Hi, I'm Jula — The A...

Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells at work — even when no one’s mad at you? 😰 Constantly reading between the lines of Slack messages? Replaying convos in your head for hours? Avoiding conflict, hiding your voice, and lowkey doubting yourself even though you're SMART as hell? 🖤 You might be experiencing anxious attachment at work. In this juicy episode, we're diving deep into something no...

You’ve been told: “Just give them space”... But that’s NOT the whole story ✶ And if you’re anxiously attached... You’ve probably felt like giving space only makes it worse 😮‍💨 Hi, I’m Jula — anxious attachment coach + podcast host 🖤 I’ve been where you are... spiraling after “I need time” texts And what I’ve learned? It’s not about giving more space... It’s about giving something else entirely...

MYTH: Manifestation is about your vision board, your scripting journal, or how many times you say your affirmation... 👉 But here's the REAL tea: It’s not about the method - it’s about the moment. It’s about the state your body and brain are in when you're calling in what you want 🧠💭 It’s about your frequency aka your energy. Your nervous system is either saying “I’m safe to receive this” or “Th...

Why You Keep Attracting the SAME Type of Guy (It's Not What You Think) I used to roll my eyes at manifestation until I discovered the neuroscience behind it. Turns out, you're already manifesting every single day - even when you don't believe in it. And if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who pull away the second you get close, there's a scientific reason why. That's when I lea...

Defensiveness KILLS relationships, not overnight but slowly. Painfully. Like emotional water damage, you don’t notice until the floor caves in.    In this episode, relationship coach Jula (hi! that’s me) breaks down: ✶ Why your avoidant partner gets defensive-especially when all you want is closeness ✶ How anxious attachment can unknowingly trigger the "Four Horsemen" ✶ Gottman’s game-changing res...

🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🎧 Listen now BEFORE you turn 30:   (Or honestly… even if you’re already past it ✨ this still hits.) If you're in your 20s, anxiously attached, and OVER second-guessing yourself in relationships, friendships, or your life path ...this episode is a wake-up call 📱🖤   I’m breaking down 10 brutally honest lessons I...

STEAL MY FREE 3o+ ChatGPT Prompt PDF (for this episode)  NOW: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/chatgptprompts   Ready to STOP Being Controlled by Your Anxious Attachment? 🧠✨ How to Use ChatGPT as Your 24/7 AI Therapist (and finally heal those attachment wounds!) In this episode of The Anxious to Secure Podcast, I'm revealing my SECRET WEAPON that's helping my clients transform their anxious at...

How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps) Feeling stuck in overthinking, overgiving, or over-controlling in your relationships? You’re not alone. This episode is for the women who feel EXHAUSTED from constantly doing, fixing, proving, and chasing... but deep down, just want to feel safe enough to soften, trust, and receive love without fear of abandon...

🖤 WHEN HE DOESN’T TEXT BACK... (it's NOT about him. You DON'T need his reassurance.)🖤   🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" — https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety (It's packed with tools to calm your anxious brain & Finally stop spiralling after every “seen” or emoji reply)   If your stomach drops every time he leaves you on read… If your brain screams “he’...

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🎙️ 10 Ways to Start Decentering Men in 2025 (To Stop Chasing Male Validation + Choose YOU) | Anxious to Secure Podcast ✨ Tired of obsessing over HIS texts, HIS moods, HIS validation? ✨ Ready to stop letting your anxious attachment call the shots? ✨ Want to feel like the main character in YOUR life again? Let’s go 💃✨ I...

Ready to EXIT Your Insecure Era? 🖤✨ 10 Things I would NOT Do Anymore as the Secure, Best Version of Myself (bye bye Anxious Attachment - HELLO Secure Attachment)   FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ (join 4K others) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   In this episode of The Anxious to Secure Podcast, I’m sharing the TOP 10 things I used to do when I was stuck in anxious atta...

FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ (join 4K others) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   Do you constantly need reassurance in your relationship? Are you always seeking validation from your partner and feeling anxious when they don't respond? I get it - I used to be the same way. In this episode of the Anxious to Secure PODCAST, I'll show you how to stop needing constant reassu...

How to Feel Chosen, Seen & Valued in Your Relationship (Without Chasing or Overgiving) 🖤✨ PART 5 of the "Meet Your Relationship Needs" Series ✨🖤 If you’ve ever felt like… 🔸 You're always giving more than you receive 🔸 You're tired of feeling invisible or not good enough 🔸 You're constantly second-guessing texts, convos, and even your place in the relationship...   This episode is your p...

🎙️ How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Trap | Anxious to Secure in Love 🧠💬   If you feel stuck in a confusing hot-and-cold relationship dynamic, this episode is your lifeline. We’re breaking down how to break the anxious-avoidant trap—even if your avoidant partner isn’t doing the work (yet). You'll learn the exact steps to go from anxious to secure, without begging for closeness or obsessing over...

🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How to Know If an Avoidant Likes You | Anxious Attachment Relationship Advice Is your partner emotionally distant... or just not that into you? 😳 If you're anxiously attached, this question can spiral you FAST. 💭 “Are they avoidant and scared of intimacy—or are they just not interested?” In this episode, I'm breaking down the 4 CLEAR SIGNS so you can finally sto...

📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   Stop Mothering Your Man: How Anxious Attachment Kills Attraction & How to Break Free In this episode, we dive deep into the d...

🤍 ON SALE: STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🔄 Feel like the more you reach for connection, the more your partner pulls away? Girl, same! I've been there too! In this How to Connect with Your Avoidant Partner - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle guide, I'm sharing everything that worked for me! I'm sp...

Are you tired of constantly seeking approval and validation from your partner? Yes?? Then THIS episode is for you. 10 powerful micro habits that help you detach from your need for approval and transform your anxious attachment into secure confidence. Learn practical ways to detach yourself from someone without compromising your relationship. These simple two-minute practices will help you stop see...