The 4 O'Clock Pour

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we're getting into what healing actually looks like after the breakup -- the quiet moments, the triggers, the missing them and still knowing you made the right decision. Because moving on isn't just about time passing... it's about doing the internal work. Then there is healing while dating... but when i...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Some breakups don’t come from cheating, betrayal, or obvious toxicity… sometimes, it’s much harder than that. Sometimes, there’s still love. In this episode of The Four O’Clock Pour, we’re getting into the uncomfortable truth that nobody really prepares you for—when love isn’t enough to sustain a relationship. What happens when you care deeply for someone, but the...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Sometimes forgiveness matters most, and accountability gives us the feels and matters where it hurts, and then there are the moments where we are forgiving ourselves for the lack of accountability we allowed in our spaces. If you have experienced one or more of those moments, then this EP is for you. Join Chanel and Ki as they continue to unpack their past spaces a...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. We know yall love a good story time, but this one isn't broken up into parts! Join Chanel and Ki as they give you a tell all on their past relationship experiences.  Everyone talks about how great love is, but no one discusses the real deal breakers, infidelity, finances and knowing when you have broken yourself for the one you love and finally deciding to WAL...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we're getting real about the power of vulnerability in relationships. So many people want deep love and emotional intimacy, but struggle with actually opening up. Why? Because for some, vulnerability feels like weakness instead of strength. We're unpacking what it really means to be vulnerable with a partner...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Just because you’ve healed doesn’t mean your relationships are immune to conflict. In this episode, we dive into why even the most self-aware, emotionally healed people still find themselves arguing in relationships. From communication habits to lingering triggers, we unpack the dynamics that challenge couples and explore how growth doesn’t mean perfection. Tune in...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Social media will have you thinking everybody is in a fairytale relationship... whole time it's filters, angles and good lighting.  In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we're talking: - Soft Launches - Couple Goals Culture - Posting vs Protecting -Privacy vs Secrecy -And whether some people are in love with the performance more than the person....

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we're talking about boundaries in relationships- what they are, when to set them, and why they're essential for healthy love. We break down what boundaries actually are, the difference between boundaries and putting up walls, and some of our non-negotiable boundaries. If you've struggled with people plea...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. This week we're asking a real question: Is this a safe space? We're breaking down what emotional safety really looks like in dating and relationships- not the Instagram version, not the therapy buzzwords- but the real-life version. The kind where you can speak honestly without being punished for it. The kind where vulnerability doesn't turn into ammu...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. On this episode of The Four O'clock Pour, we get real about how we actually feel about Valentine's Day- do we love it, like it, or secretly hate the expectations that come with it? We're sharing our best "Valentine" moments, our worst Valentine's memories, and breaking down what really matters: extravagant gifts or thoughtful, budget-f...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. On this episode of The Four O'clock Pour, we're getting into the way we love, react, and protect ourselves in relationships- attachment styles. From secure to anxious, avoidant, and everything in between, we break down what these styles really look like in real life, not just psychology textbooks.  We share our own attachment style quiz results (yes, we t...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. They say every relationship teaches you something - even the ones that didn't last.  On this episode of the Four O'Clock Pour, we're pouring into lessons our past relationships left behind. From red flags we ignored, boundaries we had to learn the hard way, and how the difference between chemistry and compatibility plays apart, to understanding our o...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Dating will have you asking: do I want butterflies or do I want peace?  In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we dive into chemistry vs compatibility - the difference between feeling that instant spark and actually being able to build something real. We talk about why chemistry can be intoxicating, why compatibility feels "boring" until you heal,...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Situationships: the space between "what are we?" and "I guess we're something." In this episode, we're diving headfirst into the gray area. We're talking about what a situationship really is, why some people love them, why they can feel so safe and exciting, and the very real reasons they usually fall apart. We're sharing our...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Dating is not what it used to be - In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we're breaking down all things dating and how it's evolved over the years. From meeting people "outside" to sliding in DMs, dating apps, and social media doing the absolute most, we're unpacking what modern dating really looks like.  We get into the unspoken r...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. As the year comes to a close, we're pouring one last glass for 2025. In this episode of The Four O'Clock Pour, we reflect on the highs, the lessons, the unexpected plot twists, and the growth that shaped our year. From love and friendship to motherhood, work, and everything in between, we're talking honestly about what 2025 taught us - the good, the...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Is it really Christmas if you are not trying to convince yourself you won't overspend? This week on The Four O'Clock Pour Podcast, we're unpacking the holiday delusions we all fall into in honor of Christmas. From swearing we'll stick to a budget (and immediately breaking it), to navigating gift-giving expectations, traditions old and new, and t...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Holiday gatherings: where the food is good (supposedly), the vibes are questionable, and somebody always has questions they shouldn't be asking. In this episode, we're pouring into all the holiday chaos- from family drama that starts before dessert, to that one person who won't stop asking about your relationship status, kids, or "what's ne...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Tune in as we discuss the time we had at Classic Weekend in Orlando, Florida! From the car ride, to the events, to the drinks, to Ki being trampled, to Chanel being drugged (for fake) in the club! Classic Weekend: 1, The Four O' Clock Pour: 0.

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. In this pour, we're talking about representatives- you know, that version of yourself you present when dating someone new.  But is showing up as your representative a red flag.. or just human? We're breaking down whether it's better to lay everything on the table from day one or whether some things should be revealed only when they're earned.  W...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. Let's be real- a lot of us have been there- Staying in situations that no longer serve us because we're scared of starting over, too deep in to walk away, or holding on to potential that never quite shows up.  In this pour, we're getting into why women settle- from the fear of being alone, to the time we've invested, to believing someone's...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. This week's episode is giving uncorked and unfiltered! We're pouring on whatever's been sitting on our minds - from love to friendship to motherhood and work life. Think of it as a true happy hour vent session - no outline, no filter, just two friends catching up over a drink and talking about life. Grab your glass and join us - because sometimes, yo...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. This week, we're pouring into the power of saying no -- and how it's become our love language. From friends to family to work, we're learning that "no" is a full sentence, not an apology. We're talking about how setting boundaries has changed our peace, the areas where we still struggle, and what it really looks like to grow into your...

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. This pour got a little too honest! Chanel's coming-out story had us crying laughing, while Ki said, "come out? I never went in!" We're talking about Ki's gaydar accuracy or lack thereof, what our experiences looked like, and how we'd break down our lifestyles to our kids.  It's giving laughs, love, and a whole lot of truth. 

Hey Sis! Tell us what you think. The Perfect Match? Love is Blind? Love Island?  Join Chanel and Ki as they describe the perfect partner for each other from personality must-haves to dealbreakers that send us running the opposite way! But that's not all we dropped a surprise! The ladies are officially open to dating and also doing it blindly! Tune in for the laughs, the confessions, and maybe...