Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

What happens when mental health struggles impact your relationship? On this final of couples therapy, I'm joined by Amanda and Tim. Tim has found himself struggling with trust issues, because of the difficult journey they have been on over the past few years. Amanda has struggled with infidelity in their relationship, but underneath the surface of it all she had been battling bipolar disorder. The...

On today's episode of couples therapy, I talk with Tim and Kathy Bush! This couple has been through so many hard things yet has come out the other side.... From addiction to affairs to control and trauma, and everything in between, it's truly a miracle that they are together today and have a message to share. It's amazing how little we often know about marriage going into it. But like I always say...

Today we continue our MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.  The conversations are raw,...

Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.  The...

Today I have an on air session with Faith Eury Cho.  Faith and I talk about a difficult season she went through when everything was falling apart and it seemed like she had no one to blame but herself. We talk through the concept of self-blame, where it comes from, and how we can begin to take ownership of what's ours to own vs. what's not!  In this one-air counseling session we talk through the d...

Today I have an on air session with Havilah Cunnington. Havilah and I talk through the crisis that happens when people of faith go through a significant mental illness! Having come from a church background where mental illness was denied or simply seen as an attack from the enemy - the solutions that were given to her were to pray more and confess more. But what happens when those solutions don't...

Today I have an on-air session with Anh Lin (@girlandtheworld). Anh opens up about her dysfunctional relationship with her mother, navigating through the hardships of enmeshment and codependency. What do you do when you feel like you are the only one who can care for your family, but you come from a dysfunctional family? How do you navigate the toxicity in a culture where boundaries and limits are...

Today on Talk To Me, I'm having an on-air counseling session with Joshua Broome, a former male porn star. We talk about the struggles of life working the adult industry, and the road that led him there for many years. Josh opens up about his absent relationship with his father, and how that impacted him in ways he didn't even realize. we talk about the forming of identity and value, and the many t...

I'm so excited to kick off the New Year with this episode of Talk To Me with Madison Prewett Troutt. In this on-air counseling session, Madison talks to me about the massive amount of pressure she faced being on national TV show called The Bachelor, but we also trace that feeling of pressure back to old feelings and experiences that have followed her the majority of her life. We talk through how t...

I am excited to start 2024 with a bang! Thanks to your love and support, the podcast has grown into something that I never could have imagined and together we've been able to reach millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Thank you so much for being a part of our journey! On January 1st, The Love + Relationships Podcast is getting a little makeover to reach even more people wi...

When today's question came in on the Love + Relationships Hotline asking about tips and tricks to managing the early years of marriage, I had to get my friends Ryan and Selena Frederick to join me in tag-teaming this one. Ryan and Selena run an amazing ministry called Fierce Marriage, and they are passionate about honoring God through the ministry of marriage. Today we talk through what it looks l...

We're continuing our Marriage series with the bad relationship advice that says, "A happy wife makes a happy life".  I can't even tell you how many times I've heard this bad relationship advice. It's advice that has been used as one of the most common approaches in relationships. But why is this bad relationship advice, and what advice is actually BETTER when it comes to how we approach marriage? ...

"You need to go on a weekly date night outside of the house every single week to keep your marriage strong...." I remember the first time I ever heard that phrase. My husband and I were married with an infant and a toddler at the time, born only 20 short months apart, trying to survive the madness of parenting young children.  I was staying at home with the kids 6 out of the 7 days a week and also...

Marriage should make you happy. That's the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true? How much weight do we need to put on our happiness? What is the secret ingredient to creating happiness in marriage? Does happiness create a good marriage, or does a good marriage create happiness? And what happens when you're not happy? Is it even realistic to say we're going to be happy all...

Time is everything. In fact, it's one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you...because it's the only thing you can never get back. The past two episodes, we've been talking about how we protect our marriage. We started with talking about our emotions in episode 264, our interactions in episode 265, and today we're talking about our time. Time is your most valuable co...

Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we're comfortable talking about, but it's a necessary conversation. It's easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don't actually sit down to do. A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries...

How do you protect your marriage?  What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What's your secret sauce to marriage? Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage?  Today on the podcast, we're starting a new Marriage Series by discussing a topic that's close to our hearts: How to PROTECT your marriage. PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE Specifically, we're talking about the three...

Q: In today's episode, we're addressing a question that was sent in by one of our listeners. The listener is seeking advice on how to maintain a positive perspective despite the difficulties they're experiencing. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Bewindi Jackson, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series....

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a listener who acknowledges that they have negative beliefs about themselves that come from childhood and is asking where to go from that. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Larinda is a licensed profess...

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a couple who is struggling with constant conflict and seeking guidance on how to navigate this season in their relationship. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Allison Fisher is a licensed professional c...

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a listener who wants to establish healthy boundaries around unhealthy people in their life. We are excited to welcome Danielle Day, MSSW, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master's of Scienc...

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks if there is really one person out there for you to marry. In this episode, we are talking about The Myth of The One. We are thrilled to welcome John Perez, LMFT, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. John has been providing counseling for...

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks how they can do a better job decluttering their home so that they can best take care of their mental health. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Julie Lundy, EdS, NCC, LPC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today's episode of our podcast series, "Ask a Counselor". Julie encourages her clients to...

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up another wonderful question! Our caller today is interested in learning more about The Imposter Syndrome. She's curious to know what it is, what it means for her, and how to define it. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today's e...

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up a great question! What on earth is attachment style? What is it, why does it matter, and how does it affect our lives? We are being joined by Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Melissa has worked for eleven years...