Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Why do some people have a tendency to feel more burnt out than others? Why is it so hard to break cycles of feeling depleted and drained? Why is it so hard for some people to say no, to set boundaries, and to care for their souls?  Today on the podcast, we start our brand new SOUL CARE SERIES to answer all these questions and dig into some of these important topics in anticipation of my new book! ...

We often talk about letting go of the negative labels that people have put on us... but what about the positive ones? What happens when our entire identity is built on the success we achieve in this world... And then we have to lay it all down? Today on the podcast, I have an on-air counseling session with Demi Leigh Tebow, as she opens up about the struggle and depression she felt laying down the...

How do you go from the adult industry to ministry? What are the family dynamics, identity issues, and past trauma that go into someone entering the adult industry- and then how do you find your way out? Today on the podcast, I have a vulnerable on air counseling session with Brittni De La Mora - as we talk about her transition into the adult industry, and then her transition out of it. We talk abo...

Making friends can feel hard, and finding community can feel even harder.... Today on the podcast, I talk to Stephanie who recently moved to a new place and is looking for ways to connect with others and form community. We often talk about the benefits of community, but we don't always discuss how to practically create that type of environment. If this is something you have been wanting to do, tak...

We don't often consider the toll that full time ministry takes on pastors and leaders in the church. The role of leading people spiritually also comes at a cost - and often times that cost can be great! Today on the podcast I process this with Pastor Matt Brown, and specifically what to do when Ministry life is really hard. In our on-air counseling session, we talk about what it feels like to have...

Heartbreak after heartbreak... you might know what it feels like to have your heart broken into a million pieces. You might know what it feels like to have your heart broken by someone you thought you would be with forever. How do you come out the other side of heartbreak? How do you believe that God has good things in store for your life and for your relationships when all you feel is pain, rejec...

Are you struggling with decisions in your dating life? Today on the podcast, I talk with Carolina, and help her navigate some questions she has regarding dating and dating relationships. She specifically wants to know how you make decisions based on your faith and what God wants for your dating life, versus making decisions based on your emotions and how you feel... and is there a difference betwe...

How do you handle rejection? Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust? How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity? This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vu...

What do you do when you feel like you don't fit in? What do you do when you don't even feel like you belong in your own family? How can you take that feeling that you don't belong, and turn it into something good... Something healthy... Something purposeful and meaningful? This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his...

How do you date after the deep loss of a marriage? Is it possible to love again? Today I talk with Diane who is a widow that is trying to heal her heart after the death of her husband. She's having a hard time navigating the dating world now that she's single in her 60s, yet hasn't dated since her 20s!! We talk about her grief, how to heal, and when to know you're ready to date! Talk To Me: The De...

Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people... Dave and Ann Wilson! I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their ma...

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren't. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She's seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs...until it's become problematic. We u...

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history- and how it might be impacting what he does in the pr...

Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She's wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships! Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses.... And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal! When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trau...

Today on the podcast, I am talking to the amazing Katherine Wolf. In her 20s, after the birth of her first child, Katherine experienced a devastating massive stroke that left her paralyzed and turned her life completely upside down. In this on-air counseling session, we talk through this horrific season in her life and what it means to look for hope when there seems to be no hope. We talk about me...

Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia! She's 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life - versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself. Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative? And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating r...

In honor of my good friend - Mandisa, and to honor her life and legacy, I am re-airing this powerful episode on singleness. Do you feel like you're struggling with singleness? Struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human.  If you are struggling with singleness, this episode is for you. Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extr...

Today on the podcast, I talk with Lauryn, who is struggling with navigating friendships in this season of singleness. She's single, but all her friends are married... and she can sometimes feel a bit out of place. She feels as though some of her relationships are becoming unbalanced and she called in looking for some advice. We dug a little deeper into her relationship history, and found out that...

Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Alexis. Her question is, "why do some traumas take longer to heal than others?" Whether you are a trauma survivor, a mental health professional, or someone who is interested in learning more about this important topic, this podcast is for you! Are you ready to talk to me? Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a co...

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, "How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?" After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed... And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation...

Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting. Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She's having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately. She is...

Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce... wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that. We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn't something that you necessarily "find" as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help hi...

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating! She's having a hard time figuring out if the fears she's having are legitimate or not! Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn't the right fit or do I have anxiety because I'm just scared? And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, reco...

Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he's actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He's battling feelings of regret from the decisions he's made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward. In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart...including his person...

Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way! The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!! She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a hug...