Table Talks with the Tares

In this episode we talk about where we’re at in our marriage and checking in with each other on how to continue investing in our relationship when placed in a new environment and raising young kids. We unpack how we’ve noticed that becoming vulnerable with others creates intimacy in relationship, where you can be fully known and still loved. Finally, Ash talks about in this season of our marriage...

After recording our last episode (Ep 48), we realized we may be better off clarifying a few things. In this episode we take it fireside and talk more about where we’re at in how we believe we should be involved in the church as a young family. We take some time to further unpack the conversation we had last episode and clarifying that we do see it as essential to be part of the local body, but how...

In this episode we parse out where we’re at in the journey of identifying and practicing ministry as a family. We look out how it tends to be defined in the church and point out the importance of not limiting “ministry” to what is within the predetermined confines of the church. Thank you so much for listening! Let us know your thoughts by reaching out to us at ashley@honestunderscore.com   Leave...

In this episode we share our experience of participating in a wedding through the lens of being a new parent of young kids. How it hits different as a mother/father of a boy and a mother/father of a girl. We look back at memories of our own wedding and try to predict how we would feel marrying off our children some time in the future. Finally, Ash asks what I would tell my younger self prior to ge...

In this episode we breakdown a breakdown in conversation where we had different expectations for what we were talking about. In one hand it was to vent and externalization so as to be reassured that it is okay, on the other hand it was a hyper-pragmatic view on communication that minimizes interaction based on needs. We’re extremely different so it makes for very lively conversations. Hope you enj...

In this episode we talk more about some of the additional thoughts we had as to why there was such a fascination with the Roman Empire. We also breakdown our thoughts and Ashley’s curiosity about the afterlife and a trailer of a movie that depicts people’s experiences with dying and coming back to life.   Please leave us a rating and review! We’re so thankful to have you at our table. For any ques...

In this episode we talk about the TikTok trend going around where men are being asked how often they think about the Roman Empire. We share an insight in one of the responses by an episode MJ listened to on Adam Ragusea’s podcast (We’ve watched several of his cooking videos before and happened to stumble upon his podcast). We also talk about the prevalence of purposelessness which we hypothesize i...

In this episode we talk about the stark difference between Ash and MJ in how they care for others or themselves especially in times when the emotional budget is low. As the family is dealing with illness, we wrestle through the concept of how communicating intent in how we care is equally important to the care itself. Oh - and we also review the new gadget in the home - the Bedjet. Game changer, w...

In this episode we unpack leading small group discussions, things to look out for an avoid, as well as having a conversation about a real stern discussion we had literally right before pressing record. Hope this is helpful and arms you well to have good conversations in a group, as a leader or a participant, and in one on one conversations with others. Let us know if there’s anything you’d like to...

In this episode we give an update on how it has been like finding community in Charlotte. We also discuss the importance for us as a family to find and define a weekly rhythm and give you an update on the lawn care project that we’re trying to tackle this fall (shoutout Jacob for all your help).    Would love to hear from you! If there is anything you want us to talk about, please reach out to us...

In this episode we listen and respond to Andrew Huberman’s take on prayer. He is a neuroscientist and I don’t really know where he stands on his faith and religion, but his view on prayer was a very refreshing reminder of what we should think of the positional power of prayer. We also update you on finding community here in a new city. To watch Andrew Huberman’s take on prayer you can check it out...

In this episode we talk about Pastor James guest speaking at convocation! We then morph the conversation to church accountability and serving at the church. We also give guidance on how to serve when it feels hard to serve at the church.    Leave us a comment and review! Please let us know if there is anything specifically you’d like us to talk about. Email your comments to ashley@honestunderscore...

This episode is more casual conversation about your health journey and where we’re at, along with a conversation about our experience renting a Tesla for a day.    Resources mentioned:  Mind Pump Media: https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/ Current Program I’m using: https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/maps-anabolic   Faster Way: https://www.fasterwaytofatloss.com     Please leave us a rating and review! We’d...

In this episode we discuss Ash’s journey from full time Chief Talent Development Officer to full time at home raising children. She describes the steps she took to get there and why she chose to raise her kids instead of returning back to work full time.   Please leave us a rating and review! We love hearing from you! For any comments or questions, email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com  

In this episode we unpack Ash’s journey of how she’s dealing with the impact of a recent prayer she’s prayed asking God to remove fear in her life. We discuss the threat of a mysterious and inexplicable cancer cluster in the surrounding area and the importance of anchoring ourselves to the truth of Scripture. Fear is actually a grab at control and so we talk about the benefits of taking every thou...

In this episode we dig into the differences between closeness and togetherness. By this we mean the difference between proximity and intimacy. Just because you’re close to someone because you see them all the time or hang out with them all the time, it does not mean that you necessarily are also close to them. Resources mentioned: Blog post: https://honestunderscore.com/practice/   Please leave us...

In this episode we talk about why we have a family word for the year and how ironic the word of the year for us has been as we’ve experienced it so far. We also introduce the seemingly similar ideas of togetherness and closeness and how they are actually not the same. The move away from Lynchburg to Charlotte has made that so evident.   Thank you for supporting our podcast! Please leave us a comme...

In this episode, we fill you in on the one week hiatus we took off and what happened in the mean time. It includes flooding, power outages, help of friends & neighbors, and the importance of cultivating community.    If you missed us last week, here’s a good episode to catch up on the things you’ve missed. Our table was partly under water, so we apologize and appreciate your patience!   Much l...

In this episode we contrast our leadership styles and how they clashed in our home buying process. We compare the differences between someone who is more visionary versus someone who is more strategic. We also emphasize the importance of having complementary leadership styles in your team. Give us a rating and review! We’d love to hear from you, so please email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com  ...

In this episode we unpack the multigenerational family living approach that we have taken on as a family. We talk about its pros and cons and why we decided to live together with multiple generations under one roof.  Resources that have helped us: Anything written by Jeremy Pryor Blog post referencing the morning meetings:  https://honestunderscore.com/morning-meeting/ Movie mentioned: Avalon by B...

In this episode we have a big life update! We’re talking about things to come and a recent loss in the family. We also wrestle through the concept of God’s favor, our faithfulness, and suffering. We’re excited for this next chapter in our life and are grateful to have you taking part in our journey!   We’d love to hear from you! Email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com     Leave us a rating and rev...

In this brief episode we take a quick break from regular programming to thank you for your continued support. We also want to let you know we have a couple of updates as a family we want to let you know about. Thanks for being part of our journey.   We’d love to hear from you! Let us know what your questions/thoughts are and email at ashley@honestunderscore.com     Leave us a rating and a review o...

In this episode we finish out our little mini series discussion on the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Having taken the time to discuss the breakdown of a vacillator in a relationship with an avoider, we explore the lessons we’ve learned being married to each other with our love styles for over 7 years. Resources mentioned:  How We Love Our Kids book: https://howwelove.com/shop/how-we...

In this episode we explore how a vacillator and avoider love style collides with each other. It is one of the most common love styles that end up in counseling. We take time to break down how we as a Avoider/Vacillator couple argue and work through conflict.   Thank you for joining us at our table! We would love to hear from you! Email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com   Leave us a 5 star rating a...

In this episode we continue our conversation on the book that has been transformative in how we identify and work through our relationship conflict cycle. We dive into the Avoider love style and we also explore what I would tell my younger self if I could.