Table Talks with the Tares

In this episode we talk about why we have a family word for the year and how ironic the word of the year for us has been as we’ve experienced it so far. We also introduce the seemingly similar ideas of togetherness and closeness and how they are actually not the same. The move away from Lynchburg to Charlotte has made that so evident.   Thank you for supporting our podcast! Please leave us a comme...

In this episode, we fill you in on the one week hiatus we took off and what happened in the mean time. It includes flooding, power outages, help of friends & neighbors, and the importance of cultivating community.    If you missed us last week, here’s a good episode to catch up on the things you’ve missed. Our table was partly under water, so we apologize and appreciate your patience!   Much l...

In this episode we contrast our leadership styles and how they clashed in our home buying process. We compare the differences between someone who is more visionary versus someone who is more strategic. We also emphasize the importance of having complementary leadership styles in your team. Give us a rating and review! We’d love to hear from you, so please email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com  ...

In this episode we unpack the multigenerational family living approach that we have taken on as a family. We talk about its pros and cons and why we decided to live together with multiple generations under one roof.  Resources that have helped us: Anything written by Jeremy Pryor Blog post referencing the morning meetings:  https://honestunderscore.com/morning-meeting/ Movie mentioned: Avalon by B...

In this episode we have a big life update! We’re talking about things to come and a recent loss in the family. We also wrestle through the concept of God’s favor, our faithfulness, and suffering. We’re excited for this next chapter in our life and are grateful to have you taking part in our journey!   We’d love to hear from you! Email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com     Leave us a rating and rev...

In this brief episode we take a quick break from regular programming to thank you for your continued support. We also want to let you know we have a couple of updates as a family we want to let you know about. Thanks for being part of our journey.   We’d love to hear from you! Let us know what your questions/thoughts are and email at ashley@honestunderscore.com     Leave us a rating and a review o...

In this episode we finish out our little mini series discussion on the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Having taken the time to discuss the breakdown of a vacillator in a relationship with an avoider, we explore the lessons we’ve learned being married to each other with our love styles for over 7 years. Resources mentioned:  How We Love Our Kids book: https://howwelove.com/shop/how-we...

In this episode we explore how a vacillator and avoider love style collides with each other. It is one of the most common love styles that end up in counseling. We take time to break down how we as a Avoider/Vacillator couple argue and work through conflict.   Thank you for joining us at our table! We would love to hear from you! Email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com   Leave us a 5 star rating a...

In this episode we continue our conversation on the book that has been transformative in how we identify and work through our relationship conflict cycle. We dive into the Avoider love style and we also explore what I would tell my younger self if I could.

In this episode we talk about a book that has been transformative in how we identify and work through our fight/conflict cycle. We dive deep into the Vacillator love style and how it plays out in our relationship.    Resources Mentioned: How We Love book: https://howwelove.com/shop/how-we-love-book/   How We Love quiz: https://howwelove.com/love-style-quiz/     Leave us a comment and review! Let u...

In this episode we unpack how the postmodern church model is designed to yield the results it is producing: pastors that are burning out, & members that are labeled noncommittal. Our desire is to explore what the original intent of the church was as it was described in Ephesians with the various spiritual giftings (apostles, prophets, evangelists, teachers, shepherds).   We would love to hear from...

In this episode we unpack our thoughts on tithing and where we’re at in the journey of discovering what it means to be generous as a believer. The conversation was sparked by a discussion I had at a bible study where we talked about someone who gave anonymously because it gave them a freedom to know they were supporting a cause without the baggage of being associated with the amount they were givi...

Today’s episode is a special episode where we have invited our dear friends Albert & Yemi Mutesa to our table. In this episode we talk about the unique cultural backgrounds they are bringing into their family, their experience living in the US, and the best parts of their upbringing and culture that they want to carry forward into the future for their family.  We want to hear from you! If you have...

In this episode we’re exploring the dire need for mentorship and the conflicting societal forces that is preventing people from experiencing it more broadly. We also talk about our observations on how society is built up that inform how we want to lead our family. We talk about internal vs external forces that shape our decision-making and much more!   We’d love to hear your thoughts! If you have...

People prioritize emotions differently which predicates the way we process feelings. We talk about the difference between emotions and feelings and have a discussion on whether or not and how to fold feelings/emotions in our everyday conversation. Join us weekly for a conversation at our table! We’d love to hear from you. Let us know if there is a question or comment that you have and email us at...

In this episode we talk about a podcast clip that Ash listened to where a wife complains to her husband about his lack of intuition in meeting needs around the house. We discuss how stating the problem is a good step towards the solution, but isn’t the solution in and of itself.  We want to hear from you! If you have a topic you want us to discuss hit us up! You can reach us at ashley@honestunders...

In this episode we reference a movie: The Farewell as a backdrop to our discussion on truth and love. We talk about how cultural backgrounds play a role in how willing you may be to be more truthful or more loving.   We would love to hear from you! If you have any questions, email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com      

In this episode we kickoff a new series on relationships! We start it off by walking through the distinction of connecting face-to-face or shoulder-to-shoulder and what we mean by those things. Resources mentioned:  Gottman Card Deck (Date night question prompt app): iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/gottman-card-decks/id1292398843 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.cardde...

In this episode we take time to answer one of your listener questions! We mention a study on parenting and happiness and there are several publications that compare families with and without kids with (not surprisingly) mixed results. While we won't point to one specific study, factors like income, geography, availability of parental leave, all play a role in parental satisfaction and happiness. W...

In this episode we build on our Ideal Week series. This includes our efforts in being more conscious about the type of digital presence we are building as part of our legacy. Resources mentioned: https://honestunderscore.com/lessons-from-my-dads-grave/   Let us hear from you! Get in touch at ashley@honestunderscore.com Leave us a review! We appreciate your time and support.

Resources Mentioned:  Quote: Abraham Maslow - "If the only tool you have is a hammer, it is tempting to treat everything as if it were a nail." What are we running after? Why have we invested so much time & energy into creating sustainable rhythms and what's been the outcome?    Questions? Is there something you want us to talk about? We’d love to hear from you! You can reach us at www.honestunder...

In this episode we continue our talk about how we built a rhythm in the middle of the disruption of all rhythms (post-COVID pandemic). We specifically discuss how creating a weekly rhythm has been helpful to us in staying on the same page as a family.   We would love to hear your thoughts as you join us at our table. Let’s connect at honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we talk about how we built a rhythm in the middle of the disruption of all rhythms (post-COVID pandemic). We’ve seen it as an essential building block to anchoring our family’s routines and gives us something to look forward to on a weekly basis.    Resources Mentioned:  Podcast: https://familyteams.com/category/podcast/five-minute-fatherhood/ Table: https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/no...

In this episode we talk about how sometimes we forget life’s disruptions are part of life. We try to set up all these spiritual moments, but forget how the physical and spiritual are intimately intertwined.    We would love to hear your thoughts as you join us at our table. Let’s connect at honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we talk about the power of music and the way it is very formative, just like any other habits that we build. We explore appropriate levels of media exposure for children and how we are having to think about our interaction with technology as a family. Would love to hear from you! You can reach us at https://honestunderscore.com/tabletalks