Table Talks with the Tares

In this episode we talk about a book that has been transformative in how we identify and work through our fight/conflict cycle. We dive deep into the Vacillator love style and how it plays out in our relationship.    Resources Mentioned: How We Love book: https://howwelove.com/shop/how-we-love-book/   How We Love quiz: https://howwelove.com/love-style-quiz/     Leave us a comment and review! Let u...

In this episode we unpack how the postmodern church model is designed to yield the results it is producing: pastors that are burning out, & members that are labeled noncommittal. Our desire is to explore what the original intent of the church was as it was described in Ephesians with the various spiritual giftings (apostles, prophets, evangelists, teachers, shepherds).   We would love to hear from...

In this episode we unpack our thoughts on tithing and where we’re at in the journey of discovering what it means to be generous as a believer. The conversation was sparked by a discussion I had at a bible study where we talked about someone who gave anonymously because it gave them a freedom to know they were supporting a cause without the baggage of being associated with the amount they were givi...

Today’s episode is a special episode where we have invited our dear friends Albert & Yemi Mutesa to our table. In this episode we talk about the unique cultural backgrounds they are bringing into their family, their experience living in the US, and the best parts of their upbringing and culture that they want to carry forward into the future for their family.  We want to hear from you! If you have...

In this episode we’re exploring the dire need for mentorship and the conflicting societal forces that is preventing people from experiencing it more broadly. We also talk about our observations on how society is built up that inform how we want to lead our family. We talk about internal vs external forces that shape our decision-making and much more!   We’d love to hear your thoughts! If you have...

People prioritize emotions differently which predicates the way we process feelings. We talk about the difference between emotions and feelings and have a discussion on whether or not and how to fold feelings/emotions in our everyday conversation. Join us weekly for a conversation at our table! We’d love to hear from you. Let us know if there is a question or comment that you have and email us at...

In this episode we talk about a podcast clip that Ash listened to where a wife complains to her husband about his lack of intuition in meeting needs around the house. We discuss how stating the problem is a good step towards the solution, but isn’t the solution in and of itself.  We want to hear from you! If you have a topic you want us to discuss hit us up! You can reach us at ashley@honestunders...

In this episode we reference a movie: The Farewell as a backdrop to our discussion on truth and love. We talk about how cultural backgrounds play a role in how willing you may be to be more truthful or more loving.   We would love to hear from you! If you have any questions, email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com      

In this episode we kickoff a new series on relationships! We start it off by walking through the distinction of connecting face-to-face or shoulder-to-shoulder and what we mean by those things. Resources mentioned:  Gottman Card Deck (Date night question prompt app): iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/gottman-card-decks/id1292398843 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.cardde...

In this episode we take time to answer one of your listener questions! We mention a study on parenting and happiness and there are several publications that compare families with and without kids with (not surprisingly) mixed results. While we won't point to one specific study, factors like income, geography, availability of parental leave, all play a role in parental satisfaction and happiness. W...

In this episode we build on our Ideal Week series. This includes our efforts in being more conscious about the type of digital presence we are building as part of our legacy. Resources mentioned: https://honestunderscore.com/lessons-from-my-dads-grave/   Let us hear from you! Get in touch at ashley@honestunderscore.com Leave us a review! We appreciate your time and support.

Resources Mentioned:  Quote: Abraham Maslow - "If the only tool you have is a hammer, it is tempting to treat everything as if it were a nail." What are we running after? Why have we invested so much time & energy into creating sustainable rhythms and what's been the outcome?    Questions? Is there something you want us to talk about? We’d love to hear from you! You can reach us at www.honestunder...

In this episode we continue our talk about how we built a rhythm in the middle of the disruption of all rhythms (post-COVID pandemic). We specifically discuss how creating a weekly rhythm has been helpful to us in staying on the same page as a family.   We would love to hear your thoughts as you join us at our table. Let’s connect at honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we talk about how we built a rhythm in the middle of the disruption of all rhythms (post-COVID pandemic). We’ve seen it as an essential building block to anchoring our family’s routines and gives us something to look forward to on a weekly basis.    Resources Mentioned:  Podcast: https://familyteams.com/category/podcast/five-minute-fatherhood/ Table: https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/no...

In this episode we talk about how sometimes we forget life’s disruptions are part of life. We try to set up all these spiritual moments, but forget how the physical and spiritual are intimately intertwined.    We would love to hear your thoughts as you join us at our table. Let’s connect at honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we talk about the power of music and the way it is very formative, just like any other habits that we build. We explore appropriate levels of media exposure for children and how we are having to think about our interaction with technology as a family. Would love to hear from you! You can reach us at https://honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode at our table, we talk about how cultural differences have clashed in our family as we navigate coming forming a new family identity using the best elements of the various cultures we represent.   We want to hear from you! Let us know what you think and you can contact us through honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we have a conversation about how parenthood has changed us. How it has given us a new perspective on life even in our short few years of experience as parents of a toddler and an infant.   Resources Mentioned:  Blog post: https://honestunderscore.com/motherhood-the-same-yet-different/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Simplicity-Parenting-Extraordinary-Calmer-Happier/dp/0345507983/ref=a...

This episode is about the differences between action vs intent. Our execution does not always match what we meant to do so this episode unpacks the implications of having mismatched intent execution   Resources Mentioned:  Blog post: https://honestunderscore.com/the-way-we-judge/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Leader-Habit-Master-Lead-Minutes/dp/0814439349   We’d love to hear from you so please reac...

In this episode we break down the components of conversation, what leads to barriers to communication and a real life example of communication challenges   We’d love to hear from you so please reach out to us on honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we talk about digging deeper into a discussion on mistaking confidence for competence. Just because you know about something, does that translate into knowing how to apply that correctly?   Resources Mentioned:  Blog post: https://honestunderscore.com/confidence-competence/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Leader-Habit-Master-Lead-Minutes/dp/0814439349   We’d love to hear from you! Lea...

In this episode we talk about the experience we had walking through the loss of a loved one. Leave a rating or review! Resources Mentioned:  Blog post: https://honestunderscore.com/10-things-about-grief/   We’d love to hear from you so please reach out to us on honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

On this episode we talk about where we are currently at in our health journeys. We discuss factors like what diet we’ve been on, COVID, pregnancy, and what we are doing today. We’d love to hear from you! Contact us at honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we discuss how we approach goal setting, take a look at 2022 in review, and what we are looking forward to in the upcoming year. Resources Mentioned:  Notion: https://www.notion.so/   We’d love to hear from you so please reach out to us on honestunderscore.com/tabletalks

In this episode we talk about the passage in Genesis 11 with the story about the Tower of Babel and our tendency to make a name for ourselves.   Let’s hear from you! If there is something you would want to hear from us or had a question for us, please contact us at honestunderscore.com/tabletalks