Table Talks with the Tares

In this episode we finally get around to watching After Death the documentary recounting several individual’s near death experiences. We follow up on our initial conversation about what we think about the trailer and compare it to how the full movie turned out.  If you enjoyed Table Talks with the Tare’s, please leave us 5 star rating and review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify! Let us know if you ha...

In this episode we talk about Ashley’s career path into professional coaching, which is something she is passionate about. We also talk about our interests and hobbies in coffee and dancing. Thanks for joining us in this more casual episode talking about things we enjoy doing today. For any questions and comments, please email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com   Leave us a 5 star rating and review...

In this episode we talk about what dating looks like for us now living in a new city and having to establish new relationships with babysitters for us to be able to go on dates. We reflect on the recent date we were able to go on and the differences between what they looked like in the past versus where they’re at today.  We’d love to hear from you! If you have any questions or comments, please re...

In this episode we reflect back on 2023 and how we’ve used a word of the year to bring focus to our family. We talk about why we focus on one word for our year and how we implement that word in our family. This past year’s word was “planted”, and our year was anything but. We also talk about the books, music, movies, and tv shows we’ve watched, listened, and read this past year. If you’ve enjoyed...

In this episode we share our experiences and perspectives as parents and the differences we bring to the table in raising our children. We also talk about how the children differ from each other even though they are raised by the same parents.   Hope you enjoy this episode. If you’d like to hear more from us, or have a specific topic you’d like us to talk about, please email us at ashley@honestund...

In this episode we talk about how we’ve approached home improvement and home decoration in specifically how our personalities influence how we approach each thing. As people living together with completely different ways of approaching projects, we discuss how this comes together when trying to tackle home improvement projects together.  We hoped this has helped you gain insight about how you migh...

This episode is an honest conversation about the holiday tradition of Santa. Although we adults know that an overweight bearded stalker who sneaks down your chimney does not bring all the gifts you open on Christmas Day, we ask ourselves how to have that conversation with our children as they catch on to the wonder of Christmas. We ultimately ask ourselves if we should do Santa for Christmas. Than...

In this episode we reflect back on one full year of podcasting and the lessons we’ve learned along the way. We share about our favorite episodes, stats about where you are listening from and our hope for the future with the podcast. We are so grateful to have you joining us at our table and we hope you enjoy this little insight we share on lessons we’ve learned after one year of practicing this ha...

In this episode we unpack the recent episode Dave Ramsey had on his radio show where he claimed that you can safely draw 8% of your retirement portfolio annually (I would argue this is way too aggressive). But if you can momentarily set aside the factual error with extremely consequential repercussions on people’s retirement outlook, we take time to address the way in which he corrected an employe...

In this episode we talk about where we’re at in our marriage and checking in with each other on how to continue investing in our relationship when placed in a new environment and raising young kids. We unpack how we’ve noticed that becoming vulnerable with others creates intimacy in relationship, where you can be fully known and still loved. Finally, Ash talks about in this season of our marriage...

After recording our last episode (Ep 48), we realized we may be better off clarifying a few things. In this episode we take it fireside and talk more about where we’re at in how we believe we should be involved in the church as a young family. We take some time to further unpack the conversation we had last episode and clarifying that we do see it as essential to be part of the local body, but how...

In this episode we parse out where we’re at in the journey of identifying and practicing ministry as a family. We look out how it tends to be defined in the church and point out the importance of not limiting “ministry” to what is within the predetermined confines of the church. Thank you so much for listening! Let us know your thoughts by reaching out to us at ashley@honestunderscore.com   Leave...

In this episode we share our experience of participating in a wedding through the lens of being a new parent of young kids. How it hits different as a mother/father of a boy and a mother/father of a girl. We look back at memories of our own wedding and try to predict how we would feel marrying off our children some time in the future. Finally, Ash asks what I would tell my younger self prior to ge...

In this episode we breakdown a breakdown in conversation where we had different expectations for what we were talking about. In one hand it was to vent and externalization so as to be reassured that it is okay, on the other hand it was a hyper-pragmatic view on communication that minimizes interaction based on needs. We’re extremely different so it makes for very lively conversations. Hope you enj...

In this episode we talk more about some of the additional thoughts we had as to why there was such a fascination with the Roman Empire. We also breakdown our thoughts and Ashley’s curiosity about the afterlife and a trailer of a movie that depicts people’s experiences with dying and coming back to life.   Please leave us a rating and review! We’re so thankful to have you at our table. For any ques...

In this episode we talk about the TikTok trend going around where men are being asked how often they think about the Roman Empire. We share an insight in one of the responses by an episode MJ listened to on Adam Ragusea’s podcast (We’ve watched several of his cooking videos before and happened to stumble upon his podcast). We also talk about the prevalence of purposelessness which we hypothesize i...

In this episode we talk about the stark difference between Ash and MJ in how they care for others or themselves especially in times when the emotional budget is low. As the family is dealing with illness, we wrestle through the concept of how communicating intent in how we care is equally important to the care itself. Oh - and we also review the new gadget in the home - the Bedjet. Game changer, w...

In this episode we unpack leading small group discussions, things to look out for an avoid, as well as having a conversation about a real stern discussion we had literally right before pressing record. Hope this is helpful and arms you well to have good conversations in a group, as a leader or a participant, and in one on one conversations with others. Let us know if there’s anything you’d like to...

In this episode we give an update on how it has been like finding community in Charlotte. We also discuss the importance for us as a family to find and define a weekly rhythm and give you an update on the lawn care project that we’re trying to tackle this fall (shoutout Jacob for all your help).    Would love to hear from you! If there is anything you want us to talk about, please reach out to us...

In this episode we listen and respond to Andrew Huberman’s take on prayer. He is a neuroscientist and I don’t really know where he stands on his faith and religion, but his view on prayer was a very refreshing reminder of what we should think of the positional power of prayer. We also update you on finding community here in a new city. To watch Andrew Huberman’s take on prayer you can check it out...

In this episode we talk about Pastor James guest speaking at convocation! We then morph the conversation to church accountability and serving at the church. We also give guidance on how to serve when it feels hard to serve at the church.    Leave us a comment and review! Please let us know if there is anything specifically you’d like us to talk about. Email your comments to ashley@honestunderscore...

This episode is more casual conversation about your health journey and where we’re at, along with a conversation about our experience renting a Tesla for a day.    Resources mentioned:  Mind Pump Media: https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/ Current Program I’m using: https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/maps-anabolic   Faster Way: https://www.fasterwaytofatloss.com     Please leave us a rating and review! We’d...

In this episode we discuss Ash’s journey from full time Chief Talent Development Officer to full time at home raising children. She describes the steps she took to get there and why she chose to raise her kids instead of returning back to work full time.   Please leave us a rating and review! We love hearing from you! For any comments or questions, email us at ashley@honestunderscore.com  

In this episode we unpack Ash’s journey of how she’s dealing with the impact of a recent prayer she’s prayed asking God to remove fear in her life. We discuss the threat of a mysterious and inexplicable cancer cluster in the surrounding area and the importance of anchoring ourselves to the truth of Scripture. Fear is actually a grab at control and so we talk about the benefits of taking every thou...

In this episode we dig into the differences between closeness and togetherness. By this we mean the difference between proximity and intimacy. Just because you’re close to someone because you see them all the time or hang out with them all the time, it does not mean that you necessarily are also close to them. Resources mentioned: Blog post: https://honestunderscore.com/practice/   Please leave us...