Table Talks with the Tares

In this sensitive episode, we explore the stark contrasts between living with grief and supporting someone through it. Ashley shares her journey of losing a loved one, while the MJ offers a perspective of how someone without firsthand experience feels about suffering.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life. ‌ Visit our website...

This is part two about our conversation around navigating life’s ebbs and flows as a vacillator/avoider couple especially when one is experiencing a high, but the other is not.    Episodes mentioned: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-25-how-we-love-argue-the-vacillator-how-it-affects/id1661247515?i=1000613984775   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-26-how-mj-loves-the-avoider-what-i-w...

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of relationships between Avoider and Vacillator partners, exploring how these dynamics play into how we go through the highs and lows of life. We also discuss the thankless but crucial role of motherhood, discussing the unique challenges and rewards that come with it. We learn something new about each other in this discussion so it is worth tuning in...

In this episode, we share our experiences and lessons learned from past flights with our two toddlers. We'll discuss the mistakes we've made and how we're applying those lessons to ensure a smoother journey this time. Tune in for practical tips and strategies we're using to prepare for success on our upcoming flight. ‌ Resources mentioned: ‌ Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/...

In this heartfelt episode, I talk to Ash about where I’m at with my dad's declining health. We talk through the beauty, hope, and complexity of coping with family illness and the fears that come with it. Join us for an intimate conversation about love, support, and facing life's toughest moments together as a family. Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leaders...

In this episode, we explore Ashley's journey to uncover the root cause of her sleepless nights. After consulting with three different medical professionals, she finally discovered the root cause. And it surprised us both. Join us as we dive into her story and share insights on managing restful sleep.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sp...

In this episode, we wrap up our series on marriage preparation advice by sharing insights on meeting "the one" and the journey that follows. We'll discuss our personal experiences and the valuable lessons we've learned along the way. Plus, we'll talk about the important things we hope to teach our kids about love and relationships.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal...

In this episode we dive deeper into the "preparing for marriage" advice and focus on what you can do during your single years. We’ll share our own experiences before tying the knot and insights into making the most of your singleness. Join us at the table!   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life. Visit our website:  www.honestu...

In this episode, we’re taking a hard look at why "preparing for marriage" might actually be bad advice. We’ll chat about how it can make you think you’re not married just because you weren’t prepared enough. Join us as we dive into our experience in singleness.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth in leadership in every sphere of life. Visit our website:  www.ho...

In this special episode, we unveil the purpose behind the podcast and announce the launch of our new website. Discover why we're passionate about encouraging you to reflect on the effectiveness of your leadership. Sign up for our newsletter to receive monthly emails on leadership effectiveness and be the first to know about any updates from our podcast and website!   Table Talks with the Tares: co...

In this episode we discuss and review a podcast on the dangers of parenting philosophies becoming too protective of our kids. We review a thought provoking podcast challenging parents to basically stop coddling their children and we discuss the  challenges in transitioning a child from being completely dependent on their mother to a fully functioning independent individual. Join in in our journey...

In this episode, buckle up as we share our journey of prioritizing practicality over prestige in our car purchase. From weighing the pros and cons of different types of cars to different price points, MJ lays out the factors that guided our decision-making process. Join us as we drive down the road to finding a reliable and economical vehicle that aligns with we value the most. Resources mentioned...

Join us as we dive into managing finances as a married couple of 8 years. In this episode, we share how we prioritize experiences over things and why being aligned on spending decisions is crucial in our relationship. From budgeting for travel adventures to embracing the joy of shared experiences, discover how we make decisions on money in our marriage.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations...

In this episode, join us as we celebrate 8 years of marriage by delving into the wisdom of Reddit. From heartfelt anecdotes to practical tips, we explore the internet's most valued advice that has resonated most with us over the years. Tune in for an insightful and heartwarming discussion on our relationship and the journey of building an 8 year marriage.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversation...

In this episode, we delve into the delicate balance of confronting others when they're wrong, offering a roadmap for delivering effective feedback in criticism. We also talk about the "behavior-impact-outcome" approach, which is one strategy to navigate challenging conversations with empathy and clarity. Tune in as we discuss the tools to foster growth through constructive criticism.   Table Talks...

In this episode, we explore the delicate balance between optimism and disillusionment, and the pivotal role of seeking feedback from those we trust and love. Discover how to navigate through moments of uncertainty and maintain a healthy perspective, by learning from the insights of others.   Table Talks with the Tares: conversations that inspire personal growth and resilience in an ever-changing w...

In this episode we talk about failure and how the possibility of failure is needed on the path to growth. We argue effective leaders leverage failure as a springboard for development. Additionally, we examine the crucial role of feedback in leadership, highlighting how growth oriented leaders gather and utilize feedback to continuously refine their skills and strategies. We would love to hear from...

In this episode I shoot Ash some thought provoking questions on what what she would say in response to the duality of motherhood and a woman’s career. I also dive further into perspectives for a family trying to be involved in ministry together rather than being sectioned off into our age groups as is the norm in society.   We’re so thankful that you’re joining us in our journey at the table! If y...

In this episode, we discuss a popular idea of self care and whether or not we are personally doing this well. We talk about some barriers that prevent us from feeling like we are receiving adequate rest, neglecting the regular rhythms of rest we actually need which is why we end up thinking we need to focus on our self care. We also include how we think social media is preventing us from receiving...

In this episode we take a look at the concept of toxic positivity and its impact on your ability to grow. We argue that without being willing to go into the areas of life that may be uncomfortable, we hinder our potential to assess and improve on what is really going on. We also talk about the difference between feelings and emotion and how that expresses itself in day to day life.   Podcast menti...

In this episode, Ash shares the framework she’s developed for identifying and overcoming idolatry in life. We discuss how while we often see ourselves as sinners, it is less frequent for us to acknowledge being sinful. If you’re interested in using the free resource we developed to identify and overcome the idols in your life, please visit www.honestunderscore.com/tabletalks to download our free r...

In this episode Ash explains what made her curious about listening to the Andrew Huberman podcast on pain. We talk about the challenges she facing with the changes she’s experiencing with postpartum sleep deficiency and how the mind and the body are so intimately connected. Finally we talk about how to optimize routines in the mornings and evenings to be more conducive to a restful daily rhythm.  ...

In this episode, we have a discussion on idolatry. And some of the core desires we have is to feel loved, to feel like we belong, to be affirmed. MJ shares his recent experience and journey of identifying an idol at work, and shares ways to confront and fight back the idol of affirmation.   We would love to hear from you! If you have any comments, questions, or would like us to talk about somethin...

In this episode we talk about a question that a listener asked us about how we’ve been able to continue on with the podcast every week. We talk about how at the end of the day, it is much more about rhythm than motivation. “You don’t rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems” - James Clear.   Thanks for giving this a listen! We really appreciate it if you could leave u...