Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

BPD Relationship Rollercoaster Causes Codependent Rumination Need For Closure Blocking Recovery BPD relationship rollercoaster causes Codependent rumination and need for closure to be so strong that this becomes a major block to breaking the fantasy bond with a Borderline Ex and people healing from the relationship and from Codependency. Each and every Borderline episode that leads to splitting to...

Borderline Projection Through an Eternal Victim Lens Borderline Projection onto friends, partners, Ex's, etc comes from his or her eternal victim lens and persona. The false self exists to protect the victimized borderline lose self. There is no excuse for BPD abuse because a high percentage of them were SA's in childhood, not given love, not taught any coping skills. These childhoods are often tr...

Two Codependents in Relationship After Previous Cluster B Relationships & Counter-Dependency This is Epidsode 9 From my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast Can two people both be Codependent in a relationship years after each had a BPD or NPD relationship with an Ex? A commenter asked if two people can be Codependent in a relationship with each other and can both manifest co...

Borderline Mixed Signals & Codependent Fantasy Bond Cycles Borderline’s mixed signals and Codependent fantasy bonds. Borderlines in relationships give endless mixed signals like telling you how much they love after traumatizing behaviour or while still ghosting you, or after having ghosted or even for years discarded you. Saying in Hoovers, they love you, they need to figure out how to let you...

Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings - Why pw/BPD Get  More Than Average Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings - why people with BPD get more tattoos and/or piercings than non-Borderlines.  A commenter (on Youtube) asked if a woman has an excessive amount of tattoos, could this be a dating red flag that she has BPD. I answer this question about Borderlines and tattoos and explain why people with BPD do,...

BPD Relationship Ruptures Are All Relationships Just Hard Work? BPD relational ruptures and an answer to a Codependent commentor's question are BPD and all relationships just hard work wherein I explain the differences between BPD relationships and healthy relationships. I also answer the question, "How can you tell if it's the person with BPD or yourself as a Codependent?" In other words, is it m...

10 Ways To Help A Borderline - Fact or Myth 10 ways to help a Borderline are they fact or myth? I created a list of 10 ways to help a Borderline based on several different professional sources. As to whether these ways to help a person with BPD are helpful or harmful for you - fact or myth, I explain in this podcast why any loved one, Codependent person, loving a Borderline, will only make everyth...

Borderlines Having Children - The Heartbreak of BPD Ex Loss or Co-Parenting Borderlines having children wound them (more often than not) and the heartbreak of BPD Ex's loss or Co-Parenting. Whether the Borderline Parent is the mother or the father, each will wound his or her children. A commenter lost his child to a borderline's lack of care. Co-parenting with a male or female with BPD is for most...

Borderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice Yourself Borderlines (or a BPD/NPD person) doesn't make you sacrfice yourselves as Codependents. A.J. Mahari adds in her experience on breaking free from her BPD/NPD Ex. Do you blame your BPD or BPD/NPD Ex for everything? What you need to know about your own personal responsibility that is necessary for healing change. You are not to blame for what a BPD or BPD...

BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making BPD triggers are explained and why they are so crazy-making. What you really need to know about BPD triggers that so many don't realize. What is the core of impossibility with BPD triggers? Why are BPD triggers central to endless lack of taking personal responsibility or accountability that is so crazy-making? BPD triggers are affecting you...

What Is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation? What is Borderline Transient Paranoid Ideation? What does it mean? How can does it manifest for people with BPD and how can you recognize it and understand its scope and effect on you? Why does this trait (number 9) along with how it drives BPD splits to devaluation cause so many BPD Breakups and so much heartbreak for people who loves someone with Borderli...

Borderlines Just Aren't That In To You & The Emptiness of BPD Idealization Borderlines just aren't that in to you, Codependents. The incredible emptiness of BPD idealization takes a long time to understand because it felt so great and felt and was too good to be true. BPD idealization just as BPD devaluation isn't about YOU. It's about who you represent unconsciously to un-treated person with...

You Can't Give Borderlines What They Need They Don't Want It From You Anyway Codependents can't give your Borderline what he or she needs. People with BPD really don't want what they need from you anyway. It's a lose-lose situationship. People with Codependency can't help a partner, or any loved one with BPD, you lost yourself trying, you don't get your needs met. And you can't satiate a person wi...

BPD Devaluation Introjected Codependent Responsibility Stop Internal Re-wounding BPD devaluation and damage is introjected by Codependents. People with Codependency have a responsibility to stop internally re-wounding themselves internally. People with BPD damage people with Codependency who try to love them. Once you know what is happening, or what happened it is your responsibility to get into t...

BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance BPD discards (final or not when unknown) fuel codependent fantasy and leave people with Codependency essentially pissing into the wind - as if that would be any reality of "taking a shower". These relationships ruptures often ending over and over again, also can be likened to the title of Judge Judy's book, "Don't Pee on...

BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing? So many people who have been in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD with Co-Morbid Narcissistic Personality Disorder are caught in a trauma bond ruminating and trying to figure out who is the person behind the idealization and love bombing when there isn't a "real person" inside at all, only a...

BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal BPD Breakup or discard is so painful and so confusing for so many people who have, but may not realize it, Codependency. Getting into therapy and  going no contact is the way to identify your codependent part in the dynamic and to heal. Choose to no longer stay stuck in excessive obsessive focus on the Borderline and what...

Quiet Borderline Inner Persecution and Codependent Reactionary Projection People who are Quiet Borderlines, the Discouraged sub-type of BPD, when triggered  have a fawn/freeze response. They withdraw. You can't pull words out of them. They don't hear you. They may take space, or ghost you in a patterned way, and you don't get it. You are trying to understand what the quiet borderline is doing. Man...

Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition & Codependent Fantasy  Borderline Groundhog Day repetition compulsions are pretty much every day (untreated) and people with Codependency are still trying to change the Fantasy Bond. People with Codependency end up in the fantasy while (untreated) people with BPD live each day or most days as yet another groundhog day of their own unconscious repetition comp...

BPD Relationship or Breakup - Are you a Codependent or Do You Just Care Too Much? An inauthentic Youtuber who prior to  March 2024 had 63,000 subscribers and now has bought her way up to 150+ subscribers, and counting, did one of her usual fluff so called "deep dive" into this silly title, "Are you a Codependent or Do You Just Care Too Much?" In my alternative for those who find it and will benefi...

Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup? Am I a Codependent, are you a Codependent in a heartbreaking cycle of a BPD relationship and Breakup - ghosted, discarded, had to end it yourself?  In a BPD Relationship, recycling a BPD Relationship, or have you been ghosted or discarded - are you new to or still suffering from a BPD Breakup? Are you still unsure how to...

BPD Relationship Dynamics Codependents Staying But Not Taking It and Fighting Back BPD relationships dynamics with codependents who are staying in the relationship "not taking it" and are fighting back thinking that this isn't codependent and that somehow it means you are not still getting very hurt and negatively impacted by all that people with BPD do that wounds those closest to them. What does...

Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber I keep it real to help you heal! An inauthentic subscriber purchasing Youtuber misinforms in the worst way possible by blaming people with Codependency as if you need to be "perfect" before you try to have all those  "conversations" with someone in your life with BPD or else the borderline will just blame you. Pe...

Break The Betrayal Bond BPD or NPD Ex or Adult Child & Codependency People who have been in a relationship with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and those who may also have a BPD or NPD parent need to recognize their woundedness from childhood to be able to heal Codependency. You cannot break a betrayal or fantasy bond with a BPD Ex, NPD Ex and/or BPD...

Stop The Cycle of Bpd's Using You As An Atm and a Vending Machine In Relationship Recycling Are you someone still in a relationship or in the on/off BPD Breakup relationship recycling with a person with (especially untreated) BPD? You are likely someone with Codependency. Codependents - BPD Ex's or partners and Ex-on/off partners of Borderlines are BPD ATM & vending machines on empty as each c...