STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR SON

Send us Fan Mail An anxious mom is a mom who is likely to start a fight when things don't go her way.   Here are 5 steps that I use for myself when I experience anxiety in the morning.  Congressional School - Explorers Wanted An co-ed independent school in Falls Church, Virginia Support the show

Send us Fan Mail We often identify ourselves as a certain type of person. We are either a person who 'works out' or a person who 'doesn't work out but wants to'. We are either a person who likes sweets or who doesn't. We are either a person who has 'good' relationships or who has 'hard' relationships. Listen here to look at the patterns of people w...

Send us Fan Mail Here are the 3 things i believe that help me deal with guilt. 1. At the core of us we are amazing and that is always the truth. We are good, complete, not broken, not wrong. 2. Life is 50 % amazing and 50 % awful.  That includes feelings and our behaviour.  3. I am human and that means i make mistakes and that goes in the 50% awful bucket.  Give all of these three assumptions i kn...

Send us Fan Mail As parents we can have rules and expectations of our kids but when we feel dependant on them following those expectations that's when we hurt ourselves. The truth is we can't control them so when we depend on them to feel good we ultimately feel out of control of how we feel.   Ask yourself "how can i be good either way?" You can't control what he does but...

Send us Fan Mail Here is a list of fight starter thoughts and it has these things in common: 1. we are not okay with ourselves 2. we are not okay with our son (what he's doing, saying, being) 3. we are not okay with the situation Listen up to all the different examples i make from my life and from what i heard others make. How these thoughts create our feelings and what those feelings create...

Send us Fan Mail Nobody else can do that for you.  This is great news.  You don't have to rely on them to do that!  You can't control what they do anyway! why would you want to put them in charge of how you feel! Your husband, your son, your mom - are not the ones making you happy or sad. The words you are thinking in your head are. That's it.  Filling each other's bucket is a...

Send us Fan Mail My podcast is almost 1 and i'm doing a FUN giveaway!!!  200$ Gift certificate to LULULEMON!   Simply give me a review on my podcast in apple podcasts, screen shot it and share it on your IG account and tag ME with @coaching_natalia ! You'll be entered in the give away to celebrate my podcast turning 1 this may.  The winner will be announced last week of May ! This week i...

Send us Fan Mail If you are struggling in one area of your life and in other areas of your life things come easily to you - try this out.  Listen up to hear some of the examples I use in my life and think about your examples from your life.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail I used to resent having to do all the things i have to do as a mom and it robbed me to enjoying being a mom. I'm not saying i enjoy it all the time but i definitely spend more of my time in the 'i want to do this' than not.  Try these on for you and if you need help tweaking them to you or help addressing some of the arguments you have against these i would love to...

Send us Fan Mail This question can help you gain perspective when you are sad, upset or can help you help your kid when they are stuck in self pity or simply are not seeing the big picture.  Put this in your back pocket, and use it when needed.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail You know you don't have to keep talking if you feel like it's going nowhere.  You can just withdraw from the conversation out of love for the both of you. Not in every case but in this specific situation. Listen on to see exactly when it would apply.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail I talk about how taking a day to take care of myself brought up 2 of my conditions that just make me feel terrible about myself.  Listen to me i'm sure this will help you and help you take off these conditions for yourself and you son! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail A "should" is a "could" with shame on top. I 'should' eat better. - In other words, if i don't then i will feel BAD about me, and when we feel bad about ourselves - that is shame.  Unnecessary. I 'should' earn a lot of money - If i don't then i'm not successful - subtle shame. I 'should' enjoy time with my kids - If...

Send us Fan Mail Without this skill you will become the person you want to be BUT you won't even know it.  Train you brain to do this skill, short and sweet but this is a necessary step to become and enjoy becoming a better mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, making more money or working out.  It only takes as long as 2 sentences. Listen on to find out how i apply it in my life.  And of cour...

Send us Fan Mail This bugs me SO much because I can't bear seeing people label themselves depressed and broken over something that we ALL share as HUMANS.  THERE'S NOTHING wrong with YOU if you are feeling NOT GREAT a lot of the time.  AND you CAN decrease that percentage by simply ALLOWING those unwanted feelings to be there and accepting that YEA life is 50% shitty and 50% amazing, and...

Send us Fan Mail X + Y + Z = R Thoughts + Feelings + Actions = Results.  just the right thoughts combined with just the right feelings and actions will create your results.  To make this equation even more fun consider that your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions.  This is based on what i have learned from Brooke Castillo at the Life Coach School.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Listen up to find out the most important thing i told my son about LOVE and why everybody needs to know it.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail If you are someone who keeps saying yes to something and keeps on complaining about it  - this is for you.  You are either one of two people.  You are either doing it to make others happy - and if that is the case then i would ask yourself if you like that reason and why.  But so often it IS important to us to do this thing, to say yes to this person and to do what we don't l...

Send us Fan Mail When we don't want to admit that we are disappointed or upset or sad - we are turning our back on the child that's inside us.  Would we do that to our actual child? If we were to consciously choose would we leave our crying child? My guess is if we are coming from love then we would acknowledge how we are feeling and comfort that child.  We have to do the same with ourse...

Send us Fan Mail Skiing and a hot tea after.  Time with the kids and time without them. Exercise and sitting at the computer. Long jackets and short jackets. Dark nail polish and light nail polish. Contrast is what helps us know what we want NEXT.  It's not bad or negative -  it is useful to experience THIS to know what you want NEXT. Listen up to hear how you can apply it in your life.  If y...

Send us Fan Mail From 'drama and success' to "All is well" and "this is a bonus!". Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes its useful to study why you think the way you do and why you believe this or the other, why you feel the way you do. And there are times when it is time for you to change your focus on what it is that you want for yourself, regardless of what the other person is doing.  Change the focus from what annoys you to what you want to do.  What the other person is doing is out o...

Send us Fan Mail I think we all could use a little more trust that things will work out and here is how i did it this week. You can do the same for the upcoming 2021 year or for your next date night, weekend or just a workday.   Support the show

Send us Fan Mail A special Christmas treat for all of you and myself included! I am thrilled to introduce you to Rachel Balducci ( http://rachelbalducci.com/ ), the one who was there for me when i have 2 little boys, tired and not knowing what has happened to my life.   We talk about her approach to her boys and how each boy needs a different one.  We talk about how we can tell whether we are acce...

Send us Fan Mail We all want appreciation but we all want for others to give it to us.  Here's how I give myself appreciation and I don't wait for anyone else to give it to me. It is the BEST present you can give yourself. Do it now. Do it for all the small things you do and all the big things. Don't wait. Appreciate you and all you do now.  Support the show