STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR SON

Send us Fan Mail In part 3 of the series I explore all the Thoughts that would fuel you fighting with your boy.  You must listen to this episode to see how your thinking cycle has you showing up and fighting with your son.  I share the 4 categories I have for all our thoughts.  Seeing your thoughts through this lens will help you see which area you are judging in and help you OWN your feelings.  O...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I share the second concept that is crucial to understand in order to stop fighting with your son.  I give an example from my own life and walk you through exactly HOW you can stop fighting with your son WITHOUT changing HIM or what he is doing.  This is a must listen if you are ready to get to Zero fights and feel so good about your boy, regardless of what he is do...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I share the one concept that will transform all your relationships and give you a way to change your relationship with your son if you choose to. I also suggest the 1st step you must take in order to stop fighting with your son.  Listen to this episode to find out what it is and how i go about doing it. If you need any help with this I would be more than happy to h...

Send us Fan Mail Speaking to your inner child or your inner being, comforting it and paying attention to it. I give an example of my client and my personal example of how others or outside things couldn't fulfill our needs and we had a chance to fill out own need and comfort ourselves/ our inner child.  I would love to coach you on this if you are struggling with meeting your own needs, you c...

Send us Fan Mail Listen as i share the recent events in my household and the thought that was ACTUALLY stressing me out.  If you do this too, you can stop, just like i did in this situation. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail My episode today is about this very powerful question.  IF answered honestly it can bring great relief to how you are currently feeling.  This can be used on the smallest things in life which take seconds to figure out and on the biggest things in life like relationships.  While answering that question, you may have to answer these ones first: How do I feel right now? How would i...

Send us Fan Mail Loving your PMS can simply mean expecting it to be there and not judging it.  Listen here as i give examples and explain how i make it work for me.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail It's true if you believe it.  And if you believe it then you will see lots of answers come to you, lots of solutions presented to you via other people. All you have to do is ask a question or want a solution to your problem and be OPEN to seeing the answers or solutions. Have fun with this one! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Listen to the advice i gave my son on feeling sad before bed.  This helps me and hope it helps you too! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail It's true.   Believe me.  Everyone has this in their head and it's just not true.  If you have a brain then you are facing the same challenges everyone else is.  So don't torture yourself by compounding those challenges by also adding shame as one of them. They are not better than you, they don't have it figured out.   Support the show

Send us Fan Mail I got the BEST news for you! pst: (whisper): they really, really DON'T! they don't think about what you are doing or what you have done or that stupid thing you have said - at all. They are mostly concerned with THEMselves, THEIR problems, their plans, their children, what OTHERS think of them, etc.  Listen here to find out why this matters.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail YES, even that thing that you right now think is IMPOSSIBLE.  all you have to do is to allow .00001% possibility that MAY BE it is possible for you, one day. That is all. you don't have to do anything about it now, you have to allow that possibility into your life. Like a seed.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail When we make decisions BEFORE the event that is one way we are taking care of how we feel in the future.  When we meal plan we are deciding ahead of time what we will cook and eat so that when the day comes we feel relieved, taken care of and prepared.   The last thing we want to do on a tuesday after work is make yet ANOTHER decision about what to feed our family.  You already ha...

Send us Fan Mail If you are dreading doing the work to get what you want - it's okay. You don't have to want to do it, you don't have to enjoy doing it, you can simply choose to be WILLING to do it.  Use this feeling to get to put the work in if you don't feel like doing it. The result will come if you are just WILLING to do it.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Did you know you can decide ahead of time how YOU will feel when your son is frustrated?    You can decide what you will think about him and you ahead of time.  Those thoughts will either be useful and make you feel good or suck your energy and have you react and not be kind.  You get to decide now, BEFORE it happens.  Decide what you want to feel and then what you have to think t...

Send us Fan Mail Your car is your brain and your oil is your thoughts. The quality of your oil will determine how well your car engine runs. The quality of your thoughts will determine much you enjoy your life. Change the oil in your car and clean and change the thoughts in your brain regularly. Here is how you will feel if your oil needs to be changed: - reactive - life is happening TO you - rush...

Send us Fan Mail Do NOT a perfect job, do B - work.  Better done than perfect.  SO is with mothering - don't do a perfect job - and when you do less than perfect work - don't beat yourself up for it. You are human. You did an amazing job for MOST part - SEE that, NOT the .2% of non perfect work : yelling.  So drop the guilt because you still get a GOOD mark on your parenting for that day...

Send us Fan Mail Transform your relationship with this 1 simple exercise. I explain how you can do it in this episode. It is simply but not easy, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and wrong,  are you up for it? Let's do it.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Every problem is a THOUGHT problem so every solution is a THOUGHT solution.  But hear me out on the podcast on how exactly that works.    I give an example between a mom and a teen son, must listen. Here are the 5 categories that we can breakdown the our life into: Circumstances - people and things we can't control Thoughts (we have about circumstances) - we can control, choo...

Send us Fan Mail Being tired is a skill. not eating or drinking or distracting yourself from being tired. JUST feeling tired and BEING with it. It is an important skill because if we can be really good at feeling tired/ feeling not our best then we can allow others to behave the way they behave and no react to it.  We can stay true to what we want in our life, which is to not eat to feel better, t...

Send us Fan Mail An anxious mom is a mom who is likely to start a fight when things don't go her way.   Here are 5 steps that I use for myself when I experience anxiety in the morning.  Congressional School - Explorers Wanted An co-ed independent school in Falls Church, Virginia Support the show

Send us Fan Mail We often identify ourselves as a certain type of person. We are either a person who 'works out' or a person who 'doesn't work out but wants to'. We are either a person who likes sweets or who doesn't. We are either a person who has 'good' relationships or who has 'hard' relationships. Listen here to look at the patterns of people w...

Send us Fan Mail Here are the 3 things i believe that help me deal with guilt. 1. At the core of us we are amazing and that is always the truth. We are good, complete, not broken, not wrong. 2. Life is 50 % amazing and 50 % awful.  That includes feelings and our behaviour.  3. I am human and that means i make mistakes and that goes in the 50% awful bucket.  Give all of these three assumptions i kn...

Send us Fan Mail As parents we can have rules and expectations of our kids but when we feel dependant on them following those expectations that's when we hurt ourselves. The truth is we can't control them so when we depend on them to feel good we ultimately feel out of control of how we feel.   Ask yourself "how can i be good either way?" You can't control what he does but...

Send us Fan Mail Here is a list of fight starter thoughts and it has these things in common: 1. we are not okay with ourselves 2. we are not okay with our son (what he's doing, saying, being) 3. we are not okay with the situation Listen up to all the different examples i make from my life and from what i heard others make. How these thoughts create our feelings and what those feelings create...