Spilt: A Podcast with Charlene and Tonya

This episode of Spilt examines the concept of closure following the theme of forgiveness. Attaining closure varies from person to person and is indicative of one's healing journey. Growth is exponential when one embraces the past as it occurred, accepts it can't be changed, and moves forward without constantly glancing back. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Building on the previous discussion about resentment, Charlene and Tonya explore the process of attaining genuine forgiveness. The truth about forgiveness is that it doesn't always come with an apology for wrongdoings. For those who find themselves hindered by painful memories or situations in their mental health progress, embracing acceptance and overcoming those emotions is a significant per...

In this episode, the discussion centers on resentment. Being consumed by irritation due to perceived unfair treatment breeds negativity. Recognizing the harmful impact of this emotion allows us to concentrate on recovery and release. We cannot control the actions of others, but we can manage our own responses. It is within our power to sever the bonds of resentment that tether us to the past. Emai...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya delve into the meaning of living life to its fullest. They tackle the issues of regret and unfulfillment in relation to depression. Everyone is entitled to a life brimming with happiness and meaning. Regardless of your circumstances, consider how embracing the notion of living as if you were dying can positively transform your life. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya discuss their personal experiences with trauma responses and their ongoing journey of healing from past traumas. Tonya delves into the traumas associated with grief and adoption, while Charlene highlights a valuable resource that explains how trauma is retained by the body. PTSD, impacting millions from diverse backgrounds, can stem from illness, abuse, trauma,...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya delve back into the concept of 'spilling,' a phenomenon that occurs when suppressed issues eventually overflow. They discuss cognitive behavioral therapy techniques that have been instrumental in interrupting their negative thought cycles. The hosts share an informal conversation filled with personal anecdotes and insights gained from ten years of naviga...

Tune in with hosts Charlene and Tonya as they explore the realm of resilience in this captivating podcast episode. Sharing from their personal struggles with depression, they impart essential coping skills and strategies. They highlight the often-overlooked signs of unhealthy coping methods such as avoidance and numbing behaviors. In conclusion, they emphasize the importance of self-care and self-...

In this episode, Tonya and Charlene delve into the trials of two distinct childhood adversities. Tonya shares her journey of adoption and eventual reunification, while Charlene discusses the struggles of growing up in a fragmented home. These topics, laden with emotion, occasionally resurface. Their aim is to inspire and support listeners who may also have intricate family dynamics. Although our p...

Charlene and Tonya dedicate time to ponder the initial two months of the year. They decide to revisit topics from season two, such as intentions, grief, stress, anxiety, joy, fear, and the reconstruction of faith. Maintaining transparency and honesty is crucial for the hosts throughout this podcast. Like many others, their journey through mental health will experience highs and lows. It's esse...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya delve into the complex topic of church hurt. They acknowledge that no church or religion is flawless, and even though faith is crucial to many individuals, it's essential to set realistic expectations when dealing with fellow church members or leaders. Unfortunately, there have been instances where feelings were hurt within religious contexts, and devastatin...

In this episode Charlene and Tonya discuss recognizing fear in one's life. They collectively agree that fear is not inherently bad. We all should better understand our fears to help balance caution with courage. Ignoring fear can lead to the development of wildly irrational fears and phobias, which can harm your mental wellbeing. The opposite result can occur when you determine how to harness...

This episode of Spilt delves into the concept of happiness, emphasizing the choice to pursue it even in the midst of life's imperfections. The hosts explore the nuanced relationship between joy and happiness, shedding light on their unique similarities. They acknowledge the challenges of discussing mental health beyond depression, recognizing the effort required but also the profound rewards o...

True self-acceptance is the state of complete acceptance of oneself, embracing who you are without any qualifications, conditions, or exceptions. It means recognizing both your positive and negative traits without attaching negative emotions or judgment to who you are. In other words, it’s about being objective about your strengths and weaknesses and not compromising on your self-worth. Self-accep...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya discuss the pitfalls of comparing yourself to others. Comparison is everywhere and we all are guilty of it. Surprisingly, there isn't just conscious comparisons, most people are committing unconscious comparisons as well. So how do you halt this destructive behavior? Tune in for some insights and methods that will help you gain satisfaction in life no matter...

In today's episode, your hosts confront the pervasive force of anxiety, exploring its causes, symptoms, and most importantly, tangible solutions to break free from its stronghold on people's lives. Join Charlene and Tonya as they share personal stories and insights, as wells as actionable steps to overcome anxious feelings and the crippling emotions that surround anxiety. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Charlene and Tonya present to you another thought-provoking episode of Spilt, where they dive deep into the tangled web of stress. Is stress an inevitable part of life, or do we have a hand in its creation? Join them as they unravel the complexities of being overwhelmed by stress. Your hosts each share insights and personal experiences as well as ever evolving methods of coping with unwanted stres...

Join Charlene and Tonya in a heartfelt conversation as they navigate the complexities and nuances of caring for aging parents. Facing the reality that our parents need help is one thing, but answering that call is an entirely different journey. Drawing from their personal experiences, Charlene and Tonya candidly share the intricate dance of managing the care of aging parents. From assisting with e...

In this retrospective episode, Charlene and Tonya reflect on their own advice from Episode 15, Holiday Blues. They give an informal grade on how well they each handled holiday stressors and if they were able to stay mindful. This is an honest and informal chat with your hosts on the importance of taking personal stock in one's actions and giving grace where it's needed to avoid perfectioni...

**Trigger warning** This episode deals with death, dying, and serious medical diagnosis. In this raw and real episode, Charlene and Tonya share their most personal grief experiences. There are many types of grief and several stages of grief. One thing for certain is that no two people experience grief the same way. You will understand that the grieving process is never linear and often one of the...

Charlene and Tonya discuss approaching the new year with intentions.
Rather than setting negative resolutions, this episode will encourage you to set intentions for the new year, which will promote self-affirming thoughts and foster abundance and positivity in your life. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya delve into valuable strategies and practical solutions to help listeners navigate the heightened pressures that often accompany the holiday season. As the hustle and bustle of this joyful time ensues, finding balance can be a challenge for many. Some may encounter the holiday blues, while others might grapple with the weight of 'SAD' (Seasonal Affective...

Join Charlene and Tonya in a heartfelt conversation as they openly share their personal journeys of grappling with poor body image. Reflecting on specific criticisms received at a young age, both hosts delve into the lasting impact these early experiences had on shaping their perceptions of imperfection. In this episode, they navigate the intricate relationship between dysfunctional thought proces...

Charlene and Tonya dive headfirst into a topic many people attempt to avoid. Listen as they unpack the complexities surrounding triggers. From personal experiences to the broader landscape of mental health, join the conversation as they candidly share their own moments of "spilling" because of unresolved hurts and stuffed feelings. When left unchecked, triggers have the power to rule our...

Join Charlene and Tonya as they delve into the complexities of setting healthy boundaries. In this episode, they tackle some pressing questions related to boundaries, such as: what are the fundamental principles of healthy boundaries? How do we distinguish between establishing boundaries and putting up walls? It's crucial to maintain the boundaries we set to safeguard our mental health and mai...

In this episode, Charlene and Tonya reflect on past topics of the podcast. They discuss the ups and downs of sharing their personal journeys with mental health struggles. This episode is a throwback to "coffee talks" where this idea of creating a podcast originated. Please listen to an honest and enriching discussion they hope will be relatable and encouraging. Email us at ⁠⁠mailto:spilt...