Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Is this your intuition… or is your anxious attachment getting activated? In this episode of Speak Honest , I answer a listener question that so many self-aware women struggle with. You’ve done the work. You usually feel secure. And yet, in a new connection, something feels unsettled. Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Just off. Together, we break down the difference between intuition and anxious attachmen...

Do you ever feel like being easygoing somehow turns into being overlooked, dismissed, or taken advantage of? In this episode, I sit down with Cordelia for our second coaching session and we unpack a pattern so many people live inside of without realizing it. When you’re flexible, capable, and willing to help, those traits can quietly become the reason you end up carrying more than your share, ques...

Ever wonder how something meaningful actually gets built when you don’t rush it? In this special New Year’s Eve episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the backstory of the Speak Honest Podcast and how it grew into 100 honest conversations about attachment, relationships, nervous system healing, and real change. From an accidental name in a college group project to a steady space for women who ar...

Do you ever walk away from a conversation feeling exhausted because you said way more than you meant to? In this episode of Speak Honest , we unpack the real reason you talk too much when you’re nervous. This isn’t about learning to “say less” or fixing your communication. It’s about understanding the story underneath your urge to overexplain, the fear of being misunderstood, and the quiet self ju...

What happens after you lose control as a parent… and why that moment matters more than you think? In this episode, I sit down with parenting expert and ICF-Certified coach Devon Kuntzman for an honest conversation about rupture, repair, and how secure attachment is actually built. We explore why losing control doesn’t damage attachment, how repair calms the nervous system, and what children truly...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking… why did I say all of that? In this episode we talk about why trauma dumping happens, why insecure attachment makes us overshare too fast, and what you can do to slow it down so you feel more grounded, confident, and connected in your relationships. You might want to listen if:  • You overshare when you feel anxious or want someone to like you...

  Have you ever wondered why the tiniest thing can send your whole body into a spiral even when nothing big is actually happening? In this coaching call with Cordelia, we dig into what is really happening underneath those overwhelming somatic responses and why your nervous system reacts long before your logical mind can catch up. I walk Cordelia through understanding the deeper roots of activation...

Ever find yourself replaying an argument and wishing you’d handled it differently?  In this episode, I’m walking you through two of the most powerful steps in my communication framework, validation and collaboration, so you can turn conflict into connection this holiday season. We’ll talk about what validation actually means (hint: it’s not agreeing with someone), how to create repair after a rupt...

Ever walk into a holiday gathering already bracing for impact?  You know that moment when your stomach tightens, your jaw clenches, and you can feel yourself spiraling before the turkey’s even carved? In this episode, I’m walking you through my 5 step RAISE Method, the same one I teach in my Dance of Attachment book, to help you regulate your nervous system before you react. Think of it as your pr...

Have you ever felt like your body is working against you no matter how hard you try to heal? In this episode, I’m diving deep into what it really means to live with chronic pain. We’ll talk about what’s going on in your nervous system when your body refuses to relax, why the pain isn’t your fault, and how to start creating a sense of safety from the inside out. You’ll hear how radical acceptance c...

Ever feel like you’re doing everything right but still running on empty?   In this episode, I sit down with transformational coach and author Dr. Deonne Johnson to talk about what happens when you’ve hit emotional burnout and how to find your spark again. We dig into her powerful “Bloomprint” framework, what it really means to take off the Wonder Woman cape, and how to reconnect with yourself (and...

What if the only thing standing between you and your most authentic work is the pressure to sound perfect? In this heartfelt conversation with award-winning author and book coach Ellie Laliberté, we dive into what it really means to create from your truth. We talk about witness consciousness, dropping self-doubt, and letting your writing (or your healing) be messy, human, and alive. Ellie shares h...

Have you ever felt like there’s a story inside you that’s meant to change lives but you just don’t know where to start? In this episode, I sit down with my publisher, Samantha Moonsammy , co-founder of Lucky Book Publishing, to talk about what happens when you finally decide to own your story. We dive into how sharing your truth can create ripple effects far beyond what you can imagine, why so man...

What if your pain became your purpose? In this episode, I’m sharing the behind-the-scenes story of how Dance of Attachment came to life. From standing on the TEDx stage in 2024, heart pounding as I told the truth about love, to watching that same message turn into a #1 bestselling book, this is the journey that changed everything. I talk about the heartbreak that sparked it all, the healing that f...

What if the thing you’re chasing finally shows up the moment you stop trying to control it? In this week’s episode, I sit down with bestselling author and coach Julee Sung , whose book Thrive and Shine tells the story of rebuilding your life and self-worth after burnout. We talk about what happens when you finally let go of the timeline, stop leading with ego, and start trusting that the universe...

Have you ever wished your heart could put words to the things you’ve never been able to say out loud? In this conversation with bestselling author Navreet Pabla, we explore her book If My Heart Could Talk —a stunning collection of poems that speaks to the places in us that long for healing, honesty, and coming home. From mother and father wounds to inner child repair, we talk about how poetry can...

Are you trying to heal your attachment style all on your own? In this episode, I’m breaking down why community is the missing piece so many women overlook when it comes to growing, healing, and building healthier relationships. I’ll share the three biggest reasons community matters, plus give you a peek into how our Speak Honest Membership helps women feel safe, supported, and seen every single we...

  Think secure attachment means you're calm, confident, and unbothered all the time? Think again. In this powerful coaching call, I sit down with Steph (one of our Relationship Reboot members) to unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of the healing journey: what secure attachment actually feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always comfortable. In fact, sometimes it means saying no when y...

Ever wondered why love feels so hard even though you’re smart, successful, and doing all the “right” things? In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Coach Cass to unpack the hidden patterns that keep women stuck in cycles of heartbreak, situationships, and almost-relationships. We talk chemistry vs. compatibility, why “casual equals casualties,” and how to create space for the love you act...

Have you ever felt like grief should have an expiration date? In this heartfelt conversation with grief educator and TEDx coach Teri Kingston, we explore the messy, tender, and very human journey of loss. From anticipatory grief to sudden loss, Teri opens up about her own story and shares practical insights on how to support yourself and others without falling into the trap of “shoulding.” Togethe...

Have you ever wondered if your chronic pain could actually be your body trying to tell you something? In this episode, I sit down with licensed therapist Nyle Biondi to explore the powerful connection between trauma, attachment wounds, and chronic pain. We talk about how the nervous system stores stress, why pain isn’t always “just physical,” and what emotional release has to do with finding real...

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you talk, he just doesn’t hear you? In this episode of Speak Honest , I coach Christine through a struggle so many of us know too well: needing to feel heard in a relationship but ending up frustrated, blowing up, and then hating ourselves for it. Together, we unpack where those reactions really come from, why boundaries feel so hard to set in the moment, a...

Why do boundaries always seem to come after the meltdown? In this episode, we’re diving into what it really means to set boundaries before you're running on empty. We’ll explore the difference between reactive and proactive boundary-setting, how to recognize the early signs that you’re stretched too thin, and how to speak up without over-explaining or shutting people out. If you've ever...

Ever feel like no matter how calm you stay, certain people still push every button you have? In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant co-authors of Beyond Difficult , Dr. Jessie Stern and Rachel Samson. Together, we unpack why some people feel so hard to deal with and what’s actually going on under the surface of their behavior. From the science of attachment and temperament to the misundersto...

Ever opened up to someone… and then immediately regretted it? You’re lying in bed, replaying everything you said, wondering if you were too much, said too much, or scared them off. That shame spiral? It’s not just in your head. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why we feel so gross after being vulnerable—and how to stop letting that shame run the show. We’ll talk nervous system reactions,...