Silent Grief Podcast

Christians often are attacked for grieving. We are told that our faith is weak, that we are bitter, or that God had some marvelous plan for our child and somehow we are supposed to be excited about the fact that our child is no longer with us. Here's an important point: It's okay to grieve!  We will shout it from the rooftop: "It's okay to grieve." It's absurd to expect people to not grieve just b...

The thought of not having our baby with us anymore on Earth is devastating. However, many people find comfort in the thought of the afterlife when we can meet again. People who aren't believers of God can find comfort in different ways too.  We believe that we're all walking this Earth together in this fragile thing we call life. We are here to support one another, encourage each other, and help o...

Finding hope in the midst of grief can seem like an impossibility. When our child dies, our world comes crashing down on us. Accomplishing routine tasks feels mundane at best. Life loses its spark.  Finding hope takes time and commitment to move forward little-by-little. The good news is that it IS possible. We can learn to live in that delicate balance between deep loss and hope for what lies ahe...

Is there anything that will help my grief? We've all be there. In fact, you might be there now. Things seem like they will never get better. Grief does that to us. Those of us who are no strangers to it know that it takes a LONG (very long!) time to rebuild our lives and start pulling ourselves out of the funk.  The good news is that there is a lot we can be doing to help restore our weary souls....

The elephant in the room is that we are not the same after losing a child. NOTHING is the same, nor will it ever be. But there is a point in which we equalize a little bit and we find a place in life when we can breathe again. We call this the "new normal." It's a sort of baseline that we are familiar with.  So what is your "new normal?" Maybe it's simply the ability to function day-to-day. Maybe...

Do you ever wonder why you family seems to fall apart after the loss of a child? It turns out that you are not alone. When communication breaks down, so can the family. Grief is messy. We all grieve differently, and that can lead to a lot of confusion and hurt feelings within a family. Husbands and wives grieve differntly, and this can lend itself to miscommunication and hurt feelings.  In this ep...

The hardest part about grief is reaching the moment of KNOWING that it is real. For some of us, getting to the point where we know that our child is no longer coming home can take a long time. There is a very clear connection that has to happen between what our heart knows and what our brain denies.  But once we walk through the hardes part of grief, something begins to slowly change. The days beg...

When grief feels overwhelming, we feel like we just can't go on doing the things that still need done. The reality is that we need to go on. Ideally, someone will come alongside you and say, "You don't need to do this right now because I've got your back."  However, many of us don't have a prince charming to come into our lives and do our laundry, cook our meals, and do homework with our kids or g...

Even years after losing a child, life spins out of control. You feel alone. You might be angry. Empty. Tired. Like there's no relief in sight. Inevitably, we ask ourselves, "Am I going crazy?"  I've asked myself this same question a hundred times. There were days when I felt like people were staring at me as if I were an alien with three heads. The reality is that you're not crazy. . . you just ha...

We all are desperate for the pain and hurt to go away after losing a child. For the longest time we feel "numb," barely able to get by. We desperately want to know when we will turn the corner and start feeling more normal again.  What we leaned is that there is no specific time frame. Each of us is different. We think differently, process giref differently, and our child was wildly unique. Grief...

When we lose a child, we often fall into "the foggy abyss," the place where our mind is in a constant fog and emotions are all over the place. I believe this serves to protect our minds, even though it can be unsettling. How long does it last? That depends.  We can slip in and out of the fog over the course of years, but that's not all bad news. Once we learn to recognize it, we can navagate and m...

Grief is never a linear path, but when the loss of a child is met with the absence of a spouse—whether through death or divorce—the mental and emotional strain on the remaining parent can feel insurmountable. Jimmy and Clara break down the unique "trauma triggers" that accompany these major life changes and offer a roadmap for those feeling the heavy pull of isolation. Inside the Episode: The Comp...

Grief doesn't just happen to individuals; it happens to relationships. On today's Silent Grief , we uncover why so many marriages and family ties fail in the wake of tragedy. Discover how your pain impacts those around you and learn the "7-7-7 Rule"—a powerful strategy for reconnecting with your partner through dates, getaways, and romantic holidays. Don't let grief isolate you; learn how to safeg...

There are many lies that we repeat to ourselves when we are suffering with survivor's guilt: "If I had done somehting different my child would still be alive. . . I should have been more present. . . If only I would have called more my child would still be here. . ." and on they go.  The reality is that, in most cases, there is very little that we could have done to prevent our child from leaving...

Survivor's guilt is something parents face on the daily after losing a child. Why didn't God take me instead? Why am I still here? These are questions we ask as we are left in the wake of tragedy. We'll walk you through the reasons why we feel this guilt. It is not uncommon. This is part of processing our grief. We'll gently walk you through the journey of processing survivor's guilt.  Find us on...

Many of us wait in anticipation for the New Year. Goals are set. Maybe we can get a fresh start. Perhaps we can put grief to rest for a minute and learn to live life again. But then the clock strikes midnight and there is still a sadness. What happened? It turns out that grief follows us into the new year.  In this episode, we talk about what to expect so that we don't feel like aliens with three...

Are you dreading the holiday season because of the gaping hole left by loss? This is the essential second part of our series, specifically designed for those navigating child loss and profound sorrow during what should be a joyful time. If grief consumes you—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—you are not alone, and this episode is your lifeline. Grief is a restless state of being, but you ha...

Greif must be controlled or it will control us. But how do we control our grief? There are steps that we can take to control our grief so it doesn't take us captive.  In this part 1, we talk about the importance of identifying indicators that grief is getting too difficult for us to handle. A lot of us try to supress grief, but that only masks what we know is already making life difficult. Rather...

Every parent who has lost a child knows the struggle of facing the holidays. With Thanksgiving coming up, we want to share a checklist to ensure that you are not out on a limb by yourself. You will make it through this holiday season, but there has to be some kind of a plan to face the holiday. We hope this will help walk you through the holiday season.  Find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.c...

Navigating the Holidays After Child LossWhen the world glows with festive lights, the heart of a grieving parent feels only darkness. This holiday season, you might be struggling to find joy, and that is okay. In this tender and honest episode of the  Silent Grief Podcast , we acknowledge the stark reality of facing the holidays after the loss of a child. We dive deep into four key truths that can...

Facing the holidays without your child is devastating. As the expression goes--"I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy." It's true. The greif of losing a child is one of the hardest things humans can endure this side of eternity. Yet very little is written or said about the holiday season. We are here to change that. The holidays just plain stink without our child by our side. We will shout that f...

The holidays are extremely hard for parents who've lost children. The holidays, typically filled with joy and laughter, can be a complete source of depression and anxiety for those of us who have lost children. We'll be talking about this over the next few expisodes, but first we want to establish a few helpful pointers from someone who's "been there."  We can absolutely make it through the holida...

If you experience fear after child loss, you are not alone. In fact, most people experience high levels of fear after losing a child. We fear things like losing another child, the fear of something else really bad happening, the fear of being happy again, and even the fear of moving forward in life.  In this episode, we break down those fears and talk about ways that we can overcome some of life's...

Trauma--it's a word that is hard to say, let alone admit that we have experienced. Yet millions of people are living in the aftermath of traumatic experiences. Losing a child is a trauma that runs deep. Trauma affects so many aspects of our lives, from health to mental stability, and even how we respond to depression and life challenges.  In this episode, we talk about how trauma changes us. But w...

Brain fog is something that we can go through when we experience grief and it can last a LONG time. There are things that we can and should do to manage it. In this episode, we talk about what brain fog looks like and how we can take steps to care for ourselves because we believe we weren't created to live in a fog all the time.  Join us as we talk about self-care and how we can manage that annoyi...