Sideways

This week we're discussing the benefits of silence. Martin gets upset about a suggestion that it's OK to laugh at a funeral,  I feel grateful for window cleaners, and there's controversy over the addition of a keyboard player to our dead supergroup. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks ag...

This week, we're discussing the way that dismissing someone's legitimate emotions as a sign of weakness or lack of desirable masculinity is hugely destructive. A coat is mistaken for a leopard, we decide that using someone else's bin without permission is a violation of privacy, and there's a cautionary tale if you happen to be a rock drummer. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.c...

This week we're talking about ways to bolster your confidence so that you can occupy your rightful place in the world with assertiveness and comfort. Someone mistakes a hat for a hedgehog, I impersonate a man of the cloth, and we debate the wisdom of taking a cobra to a party and guzzling its venom for kicks. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can em...

This week we're talking about why we have trouble maintaining focus, what it might say about us and how to manage it better. Martin recalls being waterboarded at the hairdresser and tells us which station he'd choose if he were to name himself after one.  https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks a...

This week we're talking about the things we've forgotten that we think we remember even though what we come up with might be a complete fabrication. A goat is arrested for the theft of a Mazda 323,  some Reading Rock Festival pizza rots Martin's jeans, and I am attacked by malware. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@gra...

This week we’re talking about how we can become experts at looking for evidence in support of beliefs we already hold, and the ways it can be destructive. We also hear about a lady who took her dead hamster on the trip of a lifetime and make a useful addition to our posthumous supergroup. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandi...

This week, I've been in Scotland and so we recorded in a rush without any time to do a proper edit. It's a mark of our "professionalism" that you probably won't tell a difference between this and our other episodes. We're chatting about platitudes and why they are so unhelpful. There's also all the usual guff.  https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grah...

This week we're talking about why people feel the need to embellish the truth and how it often comes from a place of low self-confidence. We wonder what it would be like to wake up at your own funeral, hear about animals travelling in underwear,  and see the insufferable liar, Jay from The Inbetweeners, in a whole new light. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack...

This week we're talking about something simple, the meaning of life. We hear a remarkable excuse for illegal possession of drugs, Martin gets mistaken for a pensioner, we feel grateful for bowel cancer screening, and I recall almost being crushed under a Land Rover. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Th...

This week we're discussing the ways we can harness our inevitable self-talk. Martin does a survey on anchovies, and a pigeon is held captive for eight months on suspicion of espionage. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about why it hurts when someone lets us down, how we can avoid it happening, and what to do if it does. Other than that, we hear about how speedy cashiers can cause mental health crises, whether or not it's important to be able to shuffle a deck of cards,  and I find out what Martin has in his larder. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.su...

This week we're discussing thinking you know everything already and how that expert mindset can often limit your opportunities to grow intellectually and emotionally. Martin has a story about confusing an owl with a mushroom, a drunken man gets arrested for impersonating a ghost, and we ponder on the possibility that all the great philosophers were borne out of a time when there wasn't a...

This week we're talking about the benefits of going into situations without assuming any prior knowledge, and how even if you're a relative expert, keeping an open mind and believing you can always learn something new is the way to sustainable and enjoyable personal growth. Martin tells a harrowing tale about an exploding toilet which puts him in mind of a toilet disaster all of his own....

This week we’re talking about why it’s important to be adaptable in recovery and life generally. To illustrate our ability to adapt to random subjects we find time for Barry White, an art exhibition for dogs, pair Socrates and Einstein in an unlikely midfield three with Oprah Winfrey, and discuss our feelings about ironing. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/...

This week we’re talking about some of the biological and genetic factors that might make problems with addiction more likely. Neither of us claims to be experts in this area so you needn’t worry that we might bog you down in difficult-to-understand science. To lighten the mood we hear about Freddie Mercury appearing in a teaspoon, the perils of solo fishing trips, getting chocolate stuck to bare f...

This week, if you’re wondering why you’d been feeling so stressed and anxious about the festive period that we’ve just hauled our way through, we might have some of the answers for you. Martin has a cold and tries to bring us all down to his level of misery with a particularly unseasonal tale about inappropriate gifting. We express gratitude for being alive with our families, and I catastrophicall...

This week we’re talking about the impact too much alcohol can have on your memory. Martin introduces me to the concept of moon bathing, we hear about a worrying danger of food deliveries, ponder on the merits of being good at giving speeches, and consider writing and sharing eulogies for one another whilst we’re still alive to hear them. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi....

This week, we inadvertently select a topic we covered earlier in the year and then worried that we might have contradicted ourselves within the space of six months.  Intervention is clearly an important topic on which we have a lot to say In addition, we think about the best way to catch a kangaroo,  show gratitude for video calls and reliable cars, discuss the origin of surnames, and try to name...

This week we’re talking about what happens when you don’t or can’t seem to limit the empathy you feel for others. We discuss, where it originates, why it can be a problem and what you can do about it. We share our fond memories of Shane MacGowan, debate the connection between creativity and alcohol, hear about some horrifying places where spiders laid their eggs, and I get a bit worked up about we...

This week we’re talking about why we sometimes find it hard to celebrate other people’s success and how helpful it is to do so. We wonder how God feels about hot drinks in church, discover the names of two Osmond siblings we didn't know existed, reminisce about Martin’s affection for chocolate buttons, and we select our favourite poems. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamla...

This week, after our discussion last time about scarcity mindset, we're balancing things out with some thoughts about why an abundance mindset is far preferable. In addition, we discuss the art of telling jokes, "big up" the value of freezers and leaf blowers, and there's exciting news for anyone saddened by the demise of the "Caramac" bar. https://www.grahamlandiwell...

This week we're talking about the negative impacts of worrying that you won't have enough, regardless of whether you're right or not. Martin waxes lyrical about prescription apps, and I extol the virtues of a squirrel. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really ap...

This week we're talking about the physical, emotional and mental benefits of listening to classical music. Martin tells us about a surprising and inappropriate donation to a charity shop,  and we discuss canoeing,  and growing up in a house without central heating. I then erroneously ascribe "The Young Person's Guide To The Orchestra" before knocking one out of the park in the...

This week, having recently spoken about anxiety, an emotion that lives in the future, we're turning our attention to the ways we become burdened by the past. I can't recall any famous hijacks, we pay tribute to Matthew Perry, who we focused on in one of our very early episodes, and we talk rituals and wet shaving. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/...

This week we're talking about some of the reasons alcohol is treated differently in society from other drugs. I get antsy about technology updates, Martin has news about "Tree Of The Year", we discover we know very little about communion wine, and debate the value of parallel parking. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@...