SHIFT Talking™

In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during conflicts. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and resilience in navigating emotional cha...

In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina explores the nuances of assertive communication, emphasizing its importance in preventing and addressing conflicts. She reflects on her previous episode's shortcomings and introduces a structured approach to initiating difficult conversations. The discussion covers various communication styles, the significance of nonverbal cues, and practical strategies fo...

In this episode, Davina discusses the importance of preventing conflicts and managing anger through self-awareness and emotional regulation. She introduces the SHIFT framework, which emphasizes self-awareness, healing, innovation, fortitude, and transformation. The conversation covers recognizing triggers, understanding emotional responses, and the significance of communication in preventing confl...

In Part 3 of their enlightening conversation, Dolly and Davina explore the multifaceted journey of self-love and healing. They discuss the importance of self-empowerment, the depth of self-care, and the logical approach to emotional work. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of accepting one's shortcomings, the role of anger as a messenger, and the transformative power of writing. They also to...

In Part 2 of this three-part series, Davina and The Holistic Dolly explore the profound journey of self-love, emphasizing the importance of self-attunement, self-compassion, self-forgiveness, and self-parenting. They discuss how these elements contribute to emotional healing and personal growth, while also addressing the challenges of resistance and the need to reconnect with one's body and emotio...

In the first episode of SHIFT Talking in 2025, Davina kicks off the year with an inspiring and thought-provoking conversation with The Holistic Dolly—an experienced Trauma Recovery Registered Nurse, licensed in California, and Holistic Mental Health Life Coach. Specializing in childhood trauma recovery and codependency healing, Dolly shares her unique, holistic approach to rebuilding self-love and...

In the final episode of 2024, Davina reflects on the journey of 'SHIFT Talking' and her business, A Steady Space, highlighting personal and professional milestones, challenges, and growth. After expressing gratitude to supporters, Davina recounts overcoming fears, imposter syndrome, and launching new programs like Shift Me, Shift Us, and Keep Anger. She celebrates the transformative impact of the...

In this episode of Shift Talking, Davina delves into the nuanced topic of cancel culture, exploring its impact on individuals and society. The discussion covers the positive aspects such as social accountability and community empowerment while highlighting the negative consequences including psychological harm, social ostracism, and empathy erosion. By sharing a personal story and applying the SHI...

In this episode of Shift Talking, the Davina delves into the pervasive topic of New Year's resolutions and their true impact on personal growth. Debunking the myth of overnight transformation, Davina discusses the societal pressures that lead to setting unrealistic goals, and why such resolutions often result in disappointment. Highlighting research that shows only 8% of people achieve their resol...

In episode 13 of Shift Talking, the Davina dives deep into the crucial but underrated topic of expectation management and its significant impact on personal relationships, parenting, and self-perception. The episode delineates how unrealistic expectations, when unmet, lead to conflict, disappointment, and emotional distress. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Davina illustrates...

Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of Shift Talking , host Davina Hehn explores the fascinating concept of emotional age and how it shapes our behaviors and responses in ways that might not align with our chronological age. Davina dives deep into why many of us feel “stuck” emotionally, the impact of trauma on emotional development, and how to recognize the signs of being emotionally out...

Have you ever felt like your role in relationships is naturally wired in a certain way? Maybe you find yourself stepping up as the caregiver, protector, or the one keeping things steady. Or perhaps your instincts lean toward partnership, connection, and equal collaboration. In this thought-provoking episode of SHIFT Talking , Davina Hehn introduces her "Born to Be Parent vs. Born to Be Partner" th...

In the follow-up to our deep dive on anger, we’re taking a scientific turn to explore the neurochemistry behind this fiery emotion. What happens in your brain when you feel triggered? Why does anger sometimes feel uncontrollable, and what can we do about it? In this episode of SHIFT Talking , Davina Hehn unpacks the fascinating interplay between brain regions, hormones, and neurotransmitters that...

In this powerful episode of SHIFT Talking, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood human emotions: anger. Why do we villainize an emotion that's actually trying to protect us? Discover why anger isn't your enemy, but rather your internal armor - a signal that something needs your attention. Learn why your "anger management" might be missing the point entirely, and why the goal isn't to sto...

In this episode of Shift Talking , Davina Hehn dives deep into the powerful concept of self-transformation. She explores what it truly means to transform, not just on the surface, but in our core values, behaviors, and mindset. Transformation isn’t about becoming someone new but aligning with our most authentic selves. Davina outlines actionable steps to embrace change, set realistic goals, and na...

Trigger Warning: This episode includes detailed descriptions of death, the dying process, and imagery regarding a body nearing death. Listener discretion is advised. Episode Overview: In this heartfelt episode, host Davina Hehn shares her recent experience with the passing of her grandmother. Davina opens up about how she guided her children through the process of understanding and witnessing deat...

In Episode 5 of SHIFT 1Talking, Davina Hehn explores the “F” in SHIFT—Fortitude. This episode centers on building and maintaining mental strength, resilience, and the ability to face life’s challenges with courage and determination. Davina discusses how fortitude plays a crucial role in personal growth and behavior change, providing actionable strategies for listeners to cultivate this powerful tr...

In Episode 4 of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn explores the “I” in SHIFT—Innovation in Communication. This episode delves into how we can revolutionize the way we connect with others, whether in personal relationships, professional settings, or within our communities. Davina shares actionable strategies for breaking old communication patterns and embracing new, more effective ways to interact and...

In Episode 3 of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn dives into the “H” in SHIFT—Healing. This episode is all about the journey of healing from past wounds, whether they’re emotional, mental, or even physical. Davina shares insights into how healing is an ongoing process that requires time, self-compassion, and the right tools. Whether you’re recovering from trauma, dealing with loss, or simply looking...

The holiday season can be a joyful time, but it can also bring unique challenges that test our emotional resilience. In this episode of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn delves into practical strategies for navigating holiday stress using the SHIFT framework. Whether it’s dealing with family dynamics, managing expectations, or simply trying to keep your cool amid the chaos, this episode provides act...

In this episode of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn delves into the concept of self-awareness and its crucial role in personal transformation. Davina explores how understanding our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can serve as a powerful catalyst for change. She breaks down the importance of differentiating between our core values and our behavior, shedding light on how aligning the two can lead t...

In this inaugural episode of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn introduces herself and the concept behind SHIFT Talking. Get to know Davina’s journey from traditional therapy to becoming a mental health coach, and discover what inspired her to create A Steady Space and this podcast. Davina outlines the vision for SHIFT Talking, sharing how it aims to provide actionable insights, inspiring stories, an...