SHIFT Talking™

Let’s cut the bullshit: you don’t need another sleep tracker. You need to stop setting tomorrow-you up to fail because tonight-you is avoiding her feelings. This is a spicy, straight-up voice note to the part of you that knows better but still stays up late watching Bravo and housing Sour Patch Kids (hi, same). This isn’t about shame. It’s about regulation, rhythm, and remembering who you are when...

aka: The Identity Crisis Hiding in Your Sleep Schedule You’re not bad at routines. You’re starving for yourself. This episode is a raw, real-time reflection on why we trade sleep for slivers of freedom—and what it costs us as parents, partners, and people trying to feel like ourselves again. We’re talking sleep sabotage, revenge bedtime procrastination, and the emotional tug-of-war between being r...

This one’s a mic-drop moment from start to finish. In this soul-stretching conversation, I sit down with Leslie Lindsey Davis —a truth-teller, author, and certified breaker of generational patterns. Together, we talk perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, addiction, emotional literacy, parenting, marriage, and why self-forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s necessary. We go deep into the prac...

You don’t have to suffer to prove you’ve changed. This week’s SHIFT Rx tackles the emotional toll of self-punishment —and why withholding forgiveness doesn’t make you strong, it just keeps you stuck. We’re flipping the script on what it really means to move forward after a mistake, especially if you’ve been conditioned to believe that grace has to be earned through shame, regret, and emotional iso...

You aren’t broken. You’re on autopilot. Up to 97% of your day is driven by subconscious patterns. And guess what? Those patterns didn’t start with you—but they’re absolutely affecting how you parent, how you speak to yourself, and how you show up under pressure. In this episode, we’re naming what’s actually behind your spirals, shutdowns, and snap moments—and why it’s not a lack of love, but a bra...

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Bev Mitelman, M.A. , a therapist who doesn’t just teach attachment theory— she lived it, rewired it, and now helps others do the same . Together, we crack open how our earliest emotional environments shape the way we love, fight, flinch, chase, ghost, people-please, overfunction, or run like hell. We’re talking deep nervous system programming that runs 97%...

SHIFT Rx: You’re Not Stuck with Your Attachment Style Think your attachment style defines your relationships forever? Think again. In this week’s SHIFT Rx, I'm breaking down the truth about attachment styles —and how they’re not life sentences, they’re survival strategies. You’ll learn why these patterns formed, how they show up in relationships, and most importantly, how to shift them through ner...

You aren't broken. You've been wired—long before you had a choice in the matter. And now? You’re likely parenting from that same wiring, wondering why it feels so damn hard to stay steady. This episode is about naming what actually drives our reactions as parents—and why it’s not a lack of love, but unhealed attachment wounds. If you’ve ever wondered why you spiral, shut down, smother, or second-g...

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with therapist Kayce Hodos—an expert in perinatal mental health and someone who’s deeply unafraid to tell the truth about motherhood. Together, we dismantle the myths that keep parents isolated: the pressure to feel instant love, the shame of postpartum identity loss, the fantasy that becoming a parent will heal your wounds instead of exposing them. Kayce opens...

This SHIFT Rx is for the parents, especially the moms, feeling like they're drowning in roles they thought would save them. We were sold the story that motherhood would give us purpose. Completion. Healing. But here's the truth: Motherhood doesn’t fix you. It exposes you. It doesn’t patch up your wounds—it peels back the layers and shows you exactly where the work is. This one’s not about judgment...

You can love your kids fiercely and still fantasize about disappearing . You can be obsessed with their little faces and still feel like motherhood robbed you of your own. You can be the soft place they land— and still grieve the you who existed before the role took over. This episode isn’t about bashing motherhood. It’s about naming the parts of it no one talks about—so you can stop thinking you’...

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Dr. Bruce Chalmer—a seasoned couples therapist with decades of insight. We get into the real stuff: the 'oh shit' moments that wake people up in therapy, the messiness of faith and forgiveness, and why labeling someone a narcissist might be doing more harm than good. Bruce shares how vulnerability, curiosity, and a little discomfort are actually the point...

In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Paoli —licensed therapist (x2 incoming), coach, and founder of the Rewire Mastermind—for a convo about the real differences between therapy and coaching, and how to get help without getting screwed. We unpack everything from licensing and insurance BS to the dangers of toxic positivity and performative wellness. If you’ve ever wondered whether you need a th...

This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people don’t want to admit: Healing doesn’t always feel good. In fact, real healing often feels worse before it feels better. Yup. That discomfort you’re feeling? That loneliness? That questioning of everything you thought you knew? That’s not failure. That’s proof you're actually growing. This episode will shift the way you think about personal growth—fr...

This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people never get taught: Knowing whether you need a coach or a therapist can change your entire path. Yup. That uncertainty you’re feeling? That’s your intuition telling you: "I’m ready to grow. I just need the right guide." This episode will shift the way you think about getting help—from something shameful to something strategic. We’re not gatekeeping h...

Owning your healing journey isn’t about chasing a perfect version of yourself—it’s about getting honest, messy, and radically real about what growth actually feels like. In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hard truths we rarely talk about: how easy it is to fake progress, perform healing, and unintentionally gaslight ourselves out of real change. If you’ve ever wondered “am I r...

Owning your path isn’t about waiting for a permission slip—it’s about choosing yourself loudly and on purpose. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own real, raw journey from disillusioned therapist-to-be to proud mental health coach. If you’ve ever felt trapped by other people’s expectations, fear of judgment, or your own self-doubt, this episode will show you how to finally reclaim your direction—...

Hey friend—here’s your reminder that boundaries aren’t about keeping people out… they’re about keeping you from disappearing. This SHIFT Rx hits you with the boldest truth most people don’t want to admit: People pleasing is manipulation. Yup. That uncomfortable squirm in your gut? That’s your nervous system realizing that playing nice was never the same as being kind. This episode will shift the w...

Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled. SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send—the one that reminds you you’re not crazy, you’re just growing. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat an...

Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled. SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send that you didn’t know you needed. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and the self-help fluff. Each epi...

We’ve all been there: confidently repeating something we thought was true… only to find out later it’s not. This episode? That’s me. Owning it. Because I got got—and it matters. So why not just stay quiet and move on? Because accountability matters—and I’m modeling the SHIFT. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: 🔥 The real reason it’s so hard to admit we’re wrong (and what it does to our nervo...

Parenting advice is everywhere , but most of it skips the biggest factor— you . In this episode, we’re flipping the script on traditional parenting strategies and focusing on what really changes the game: your emotional state, your regulation, your healing . If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering why no tactic seems to work, this is for you. I’ll break down: 🔥 Why parenting isn’t about c...

Welcome back to Shift Talking ! In Part 2 of my conversation with Carl Dietz , we dive into how microdosing healing through small, daily actions can create real, lasting change —without the overwhelm. Carl shares the science behind behavioral microshifts , the power of shallow healing , and how Nubellum’s app is designed to help you find what works for you in under two minutes a day . If you’ve ev...

Can you really heal your mind and body without medication? In this episode of Shift Talking , I sit down with Carl Dietz , co-founder of Nubellum , to dive into the placebo effect, brain chemistry, and how our minds can trigger real physiological healing —without pharmaceuticals. Carl shares fascinating insights into how the brain naturally produces neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, w...

In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during conflicts. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and resilience in navigating emotional cha...