Sexvangelicals

"In purity culture, both men and women are hypersexualized and then also supposed to be asexual at the same time," explains Dr. Laura Anderson, cofounder of the Religious Trauma Institute. In short, the expectation is that men are expected to say yes to all things sexual, and women are expected to say and embody the word, no. The sixth deadly sexual sin captures the practice of rigid gender roles....

Last week , we talked with Cayte Castrillon about her research on the pornography consumption of teenage girls impacts the ways they view their bodies, relationships, and perceptions of men. We continue our conversation with Cayte this week about how we can talk about pornography in our sexual and non-sexual relationships, and ways we can remove shame, comparison, and judgment from these interacti...

Welcome back to the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church). We continue with Deadly Sexual Sin #5, especially geared toward men: Don't Watch Porn. After all, we know that women don't watch porn. Or do they? We invite Cayte Castrillon , sex therapist and PhD student, to share her research about how women consume porn, what porn teaches women about their own bodies and sexuality, and the...

Happy New Year! The beginning of the year encourages a myriad of ways to set goals for yourself. What are your New Years resolutions? What are your goals for the New Year? What word encapsulates what you want to accomplish in 2023? Answering those questions, be they at the start of the year, midway through a project, or at the conclusion of an event, requires an effective self-reflection process....

Christmas is a strange season for folks who are in the process of exploring and healing from the ways that the church has negatively impacted them. Especially when Christmas falls on a Sunday, as it did this year. The soundtrack of Christmas is a mixture of Whitney Houston's All I Want for Christmas is You, Paul McCartney's Wonderful Christmastime, and dozens of religious carols that integrate mes...

Happy holidays from Jeremiah and Julia! We are taking a break from our Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church) series and talking about how to navigate the challenges of the holiday season. In this episode, Jeremiah and Julia discuss two ways that sexuality can be hard during the holidays: 1) Privacy (5:30) . Jeremiah reflects, "You may be surrounded by more people than usual. Or perhap...

Happy Holidays, from Jeremiah and Julia! Thank you for all of the support that you've given us in 2022! We're excited to share two holiday episodes with you to wrap up December, and launch 2023 with new pictures, new episodes, and a lot of fun!

We continue our series on the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church), with a relational process that's condemned inside and outside the church: Infidelity . Julia summarizes (6:30) : "We have a cultural norm that shames and stigmatizes affairs. If we actually want to have relationships in which breaking commitments happen less often, then we have to move beyond the shame, because what...

We are halfway through our series on the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church). As a refresher, the first three "sins" are: Don't have sex before you get married. Don't be gay. Don't lust. Which sets up sin #4: Don't have an affair. Some quick background. The marital relationship (between a man and woman, duh) is the most foundational relationship in the Evangelical community. It's a...

The first two Deadly Sexual Sins According to the Church—don't have sex before you get married, and don't be gay—are commonly linked to the church's sexual ethic. The third of the sins is the psychological engine for the church's position on sexuality: Don't lust. And to be fair, don't lust has important implications, especially in a world where over half of adult women (and nearly a third of adul...

Jeremiah and Julia continue their series The Seven Deadly Sexual Sins, According to the Church, with the deadliest of the "sins", as we were reminded over the weekend in Colorado Springs: Don't be gay. Jeremiah and Julia discuss the different ways that the combination of "Don't be gay" and "Don't have sex before you get married" negatively impacted their development. For Jeremiah, he struggled to...

The murders at Club Q on November 20 in Colorado Springs are horrific, as are all acts of violence against the queer community. Julia and Jeremiah bypass the impulse to dissect how church rhetoric impacted the murders, especially given that they happened in the mecca of the Evangelical Church, and land on the following position: "The church's anti-queer propaganda absolutely has and continues to s...

Welcome back to Church, and Julia and Jeremiah's Wednesday night mid-week class called the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins. Today, we talk about the first of the sins, which is also the apex of Purity Culture: Don't have sex before you get married. And as Jeremiah and Julia discuss, the Evangelical Church has collaborated with policy makers to ensure that abstinence only sex education is infused througho...

Sexvangelicals is a podcast about the sex education that the church didn't want you to have. What's the sex education that the church did want you to have? So glad that you asked! Julia and Jeremiah talk about the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church): Don't have sex before you get married. Don't be gay. Don't have an affair. Don't lust. Don't watch porn. (This is for men, because obv...