Sex With Emily

It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in paren...

Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5...

What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we c...

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves se...

Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together? On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks aro...

Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you t...

Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection. In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepenin...

We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving cou...

Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it.  Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or yo...

Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner.  But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and wh...

First comes love, then comes anal. Isn’t that how the song goes? On today’s best of show, we’re talking your sexual firsts: your first dating app, oral sex experience, anal play, and so much more. I help you face your fears so you can radically expand your pleasure potential.  Up first: she’s 32 weeks pregnant and wants to keep her partner satisfied – but she’s never given him oral. Where to begin...

Sexual fantasies are not only normal, they’re a key component of your sexual health. But why are we attracted to certain fantasies? And is it normal to have certain fantasies, or no fantasies at all? On this episode, I reveal your top sex fantasies and why you have them. I also divulge your fantasy success stories and questions, from CNC to cuckolding. I give you tips for expanding your erotic ima...

So what’s the hardest part about dating? Meeting people? Making conversation? Figuring out if there’s enough chemistry? How do you have dates that leave you happy, aligned and energized, rather than defeated and hopeless? On today’s best-of show, I’m here for your dating dilemmas. He’s new to dating, and nervous to talk to women – I give some talking points. She wants to have sex, but also wants i...

We’re all looking for better ways to have sex. But what if I told you the thing holding you back is your own beliefs around sex and sexuality? My guest today knows a thing or two about how to realize our own sexual well-being. Author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz is a sexual wellness connoisseur. In her new book Sex, Health & Consciousness, Liz explains how to build a sexual conscious...

Got relationship drama? Don’t we all. On today’s Best of show, I’m helping you navigate choppy relationship waters, to get to the other side safely. First up: he just divorced, and jumped right into an ultra-serious relationship. Too soon? Next: when you’ve got a massive crush on your coworker, should you divorce your spouse and pursue your colleague instead? And if you’re not so into your partner...

If you know me, you know that my dream is to have a bottle of lube on every nightstand. But why? Enhanced pleasure is one reason. And on this episode, I’ll give you several more.  Think of this as your consumer reports on lube: I’m answering all of your lube inquiries, giving you the low-down on key ingredients, and helping you reach for the right lube at the right time. I’m also breaking down the...

When it comes to penis parts, do you know which ones are rich with nerve endings? Which areas need a gentle touch? And which can handle more force? On today’s Best of show, I’ll give you tips for penile pleasure from head to shaft, perineum to prostate. We also take your listener questions: when you’re in a long term relationship, who should initiate sex? If you’re not turned on by your partner of...

It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions -...

So you want to try a new kink? Well, you’ve come to the right podcast. On today’s Best Of show, I answer your questions and help open your mind (and body) to all things kink and BDSM - from squirting to nipple-gasms.  Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone can lead to enhanced intimacy and heightened pleasure. All you need are the right tools, compassionate communication, patience and plenty o...

Quiet quitting: the act of leaving without leaving. At a job, it’s refusing to stay late, not seeking out extra projects, and only doing exactly what your role requires. Critics call it lack of inspiration or hustle – but proponents say it’s simply setting boundaries. But can quiet quitting apply to our relationships? I’ll explain the signs to look out for and how to initiate the hard conversation...

Let’s train our orgasm muscle: the pelvic floor. We all have one. And like our other muscles, strengthening it can yield physical benefits. In this case, a more explosive orgasm.  On today’s show I put the spotlight on edging – a sex technique for more intense orgasms – and give you a slew of additional tips for maximizing your pleasure. Penis owners, do you use toys yet? Because I’ve got killer r...

How do you know if you’re bisexual? In honor of Bisexuality Visibility Day, author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused. Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants t...

Let’s manifest our dream partners and our best sex. Because listen: if our romantic lives aren’t aligned with the people we actually are, we have an opportunity to change that.  Today, I’ll tell you how I manifested my own partner, the specific steps used to get there, and why the science behind this practice works. I’ll also answer your questions about finding the one and how manifestation can ap...

Do you fake orgasms? Be honest. Whether we feel pressured to end the sexual experience, or simply don’t know how to orgasm with a partner, faking it is common for every gender and orientation.  So on today’s episode, we discuss how to hold out for the real thing while also restoring your sex life. What do you do when it’s not just your orgasm that’s gone missing, but your entire sex life? Or how a...

What’s your sex language? We all have one. And once we’re fluent in the four types, we can expand our repertoire to more effectively please our partner – and advocate for what we want. In today’s episode, we will explore just that with psychologist and astrologer Jen Freed. Her forthcoming book “A Map to Your Soul: Using the Astrology of Fire, Earth, Air, and Water to Live Deeply and Fully” explai...