Sex With Emily

Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a he...

I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from th...

While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax....

What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer ti...

Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal with...

Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques...

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I...

Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Ne...

A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t...

Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to...

Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her...

We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances...

Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury...

Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low s...

Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishe...

Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship w...

Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and...

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedro...

As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favor...

Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but...

Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning...

Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this a...

Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to commun...

We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind workin...

As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season...