Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

How many exceptional couples do you know that have been together for more than a year? Couples that really seem to be in love, still get excited when their partner walks into a room, and have that sexual spark between them? Chances are, there aren’t a ton of people coming to mind right now.  The harsh truth is, exceptional couples are pretty rare. In my practice as a psychologist and sex therapist...

If you find yourself laying in bed at night next to your snoring sweetheart wondering “Where has the Passion gone?” you are not alone. The good news? Once you know the Three Keys to Passion you can recapture the magic and put the pep back into your sex life. Because great relationships are not an accident.  So, if you find yourself looking at other couples with envy and longing for something diffe...

Why is it so much easier to become happy than to stay happy? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a set of teachings, specifically designed to apply to our own lives in times of pain and suffering? Some rules to live by that could guide us to a happier, more fulfilled, less troubled life? If these questions feel like opening a giant can of worms—that’s the point!  Today, I talk about Buddhism’s F...

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We MEAN to be more romantic, caring, sexy, or fun...but then we forget.  Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s...

Ever been told, “You need to calm down”? One of the most complicated parts of an anxiety disorder is having a sweetheart, best friend, or boss that just does not get it.  We’re all painfully aware of the physical toll the COVID-19 pandemic has taken on us over the last 15 months, but we also have to acknowledge the mental toll we’ve suffered. There are actually two pandemics working in tandem: one...

Have you ever felt like your mind has two modes? On the surface, there’s a tendency for a lot of us to be neurotic and impulsive and a little erratic. But if we dig deep down, it’s possible to find stability, contentment, and gratitude. If this all sounds familiar, then congratulations-- you’ve already met your monkey and your elephant.  The bad news? You’re giving your monkey way too much attenti...

We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this in our intelligent adult brains, are we still waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet and keep us Happy Ever After?  Are you in love with falling in love? If you’re perpetually seeking “the one”, you’re looking for your fictional soulmate, not a real...

So, you’re in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn’t keep your tongues out of each other’s mouths and your hands off of each other’s bodies, right? These days, do you ever find yourself laying in bed next to your snoring spouse and wondering “Where did the passion go?”  Today, we’re going to bust two major myths abo...

Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow?  Someone who seemed content, open hearted, and like they’ve figured out something you haven’t? Imagine walking up to that person and asking “What’s your secret?” and they reply “My Elephant!”  Hmm...you’d want to know more, right?   Think about what you’ve always believed would make you...