Sex for Saints

I know that some of us, both men and women, feel that female-centric sex is selfish. But it absolutely is not! Let's talk about why women may not want to transition to a female-centric approach to sex and why men might not want to as well. But when it comes down to it, a female-centric approach to sex can be a transformative journey for couples, deepening their intimacy, connection, and satisfacti...

At first thought, money and sex may not seem to have a lot in common. But if you think about it, when you improve something about your relationship, it often extends to all of your relationship. That's why I asked Ruth Liebel to join me on the podcast to talk about money. Ruth is an amazing financial coach that will help you see that we often come into our marriages with different ideas of what it...

Sex, intimacy, and personal growth are all tied together. And when your partner doesn't want to grow sexually, but you do, it can cause a lot of conflict. It's not uncommon to find yourself in a situation like this, so in this episode, I'm going to share with you three steps to take to understand the situation completely. I'll even share with you what to say that may help the situation.

I recently was a guest on the Live Your Why podcast with Tammy Hill. I thought the episode was so good, I asked Tammy if I could share it with you as well. She was excited to share what we talked about with you too! So listen in as I share some parts of my story that you may not have heard yet, along with talking about what mature feminine sexuality is. And no, we're not talking about seniors, but...

Wow! Episode 300! I can hardly believe it! I remember nearly six years ago when I started this podcast that I could hardly imagine what 100 episodes would look like, let alone 300. So today's episode is a little different. I asked people to call or write in about an episode that was impactful for them. Join me as I share with you what they had to say. 

Have you ever been on a road trip and heard the words, "Are we there yet?" That person is just focused on the destination, not the journey itself. The same thing happens in our sexual relationships when we just focus on climax. Our world places so much emphasis on instant gratification that it is easy to let that thought into the bedroom. Are we relishing in all of the minute details and interacti...

I have had a lot of questions lately about how to safely have anal sex so I'm going to answer those questions here. Anal sex is often intriguing for many couples, and while there seems to be quite a bit of desire to do it from one or both partners, there's often a reluctance, which is understandable. So whether you're a curious individual or a couple looking to add something new to your repertoire...

I want you to prioritize sex in the new year. I hear from clients all the time that they just don't have time to have sex. That's because you're not making it a priority. Why have more sex? Because it helps you have a healthier and more fulfilling connection with your partner. Here are my practical tips on how to make sex a priority in the new year! You are going to LOVE number 7! We are almost at...

We have often talked about spontaneous desire vs responsive desire on my podcast. But today, I want to go a little deeper into the responsibility you have if you happen to have responsive desire. Often women, and some men, have responsive desire, but that doesn't mean that their partner is always in charge of initiating. You can have a high sex drive and even be the higher desire partner with resp...

Clients will often tell me that they don't need to use lube because there isn't anything wrong with them. This could not be further from the truth! There are many things that will affect your natural lubrication, including stress or dehydration, so having some lube you love at your fingertips will only make sex better. In this episode, we're going to talk about why we use lube, how to choose the r...

This holiday season, can I suggest a new tradition? Giving, and receiving, sexy holiday gifts! When we're thinking about gifts for our spouse, we often think about what they need or want, and while that's great, I think as a couple, it's important to use this time to give each other something that helps turn up the heat and the desire in the bedroom. It doesn't have to be elaborate. It can be as s...

I have a friend who has 7 kids, all born in September. That means that they were all conceived around Christmas. We've often joked about this with her, but it turns out that they aren't the only ones who get especially horny during the holiday season. In fact, more babies are conceived in December than any other month! Why is this? That's what we're talking about in the episode. There are some bio...

I'm speaking with therapist Jeff Lundgren, again, today about internal family systems. It's a therapeutic modality that he uses in his practice that I find fascinating. If you've ever seen the movie Inside Out, you've had an introduction to this type of therapy. So, in this episode, we talk about where the internal family systems came from, and most importantly, how it can help us in our sexual li...

At times in my coaching career, I've been asked by clients about the use of psychedelics in sex therapy. I know that this may be a controversial topic, but I think it's important to be given all of the information so you can make the decision for yourself. I am excited to have Jeff Lundgren on the podcast today to talk about it. This interview is fascinating! We talk about the history of psychedel...

Most of us will say that our marriage is our most important relationship.  Yet we often let things get in the way of making it great and our marriage gets put on the back burner.  Whether that is kids, work, hobbies, or church callings, we don't put enough into our relationship.  And that relationship is barely surviving instead of thriving.  And when our relationship suffers, often so does our se...

I think we all want to have an intimate marriage, but we often miss one important step in achieving that. To have an intimate marriage, we must understand and make room for both partners' wants and desires, without judgment or shame. But what I often see happening is that one partner thinks their wants and desires matter more than the other partner and they expect their partner to accommodate them...

Have you ever thought about how food can affect your sex life? That's what I'm discussing today with my guest and fellow life coach Lisa Salisbury. Thinking about what you put in your body and what you want from your body are important. But, let me be clear, we're not talking about counting calories or macros or anything like that. We're talking about listening to your body and knowing that if you...

Many women tell me that sex is boring for them, which is one of the reasons why they don't have a strong desire for it.  No one craves boredom.  We crave pleasure, excitement, novelty, and fun.  And if sex is boring, you are probably not having any of those things.  But one of the biggest reasons why women are bored is because they often aren't being an active participant. What does it mean to be...

The lack of sex education is a real issue in our country, so often people turn to pornography to learn about sex, which doesn't actually help our understanding of sex nor our relationships. In this episode, we're diving deep into the topic of pornography and its impact on our understanding of sex and relationships. We'll discuss why pornography isn't a great way to learn about sex, the misconcepti...

Orgasms are an amazing experience! For most people, they are the most powerful feeling of pleasure available here on Earth. While men have a recovery period after orgasm, women do not. In fact, having multiple orgasms is something that women can learn how to do. Intrigued? Listen to this podcast to learn 5 ways to overcome any barriers you may have and start experiencing multiple orgasms.

I often get asked by my clients what they can do if their spouse has had other sexual partners. While the reason behind this can vary, it often leaves the spouse who hasn't had any other partners feeling jealous, insecure, or even resentful. First of all, these feelings are totally natural, but let's talk about ways to address them and move forward in a healthy way. Join me as I share 7 ways to wo...

You've heard the old adage, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder," right? While that can be true, being apart from your spouse can really affect your intimacy. So in this episode, I want to give you 11 real life solutions on how to keep your sex life alive even when you're miles apart. No need to put that part of your life on hold while your spouse is away. You're going to especially love #9. 365...

Our overall wellness as women is so important for not just our lives, but also our sexual being. So today I'm talking with Holly Henry all about sexual wellness. She is a nurse practitioner who doesn't just look at the physical symptoms, but the hormonal and beyond to help you live your best life. This podcast is coming out today because we have a very exciting announcement to make! Listen in to f...

When I say "physical intimacy in marriage", what does that bring up? Usually it's sex. But intimacy is so much more than just sex. It's eye contact and hand holding. In this episode, we're going to explore what intimacy is, why it's important, why it sometimes declines, and how you can keep the flame alive. Or reignite it if it's gone dim. What level of intimacy do you and your spouse fall into mo...

I often get asked how to keep the flames of romance burning after you've been married a long time. So, that's what we're going to talk about today. How do you keep those flames burning and not get stuck in a roommate situation. I have 10 areas with specific examples in each of the ways that you can keep that romance alive and rejuvenated. Remember, love is a journey, not a destination. Stay commit...