Sex for Saints

Do you find yourself trying to be in control of situations or others? If you stop and question the emotion that is riding along with you. . .it is fear?  For some, having control makes them feel powerful.  This week I hope to teach you different ways you might be exerting control and what emotion it is stemming from.  I will also teach steps to work on overcoming this tendency.  If you are new to...

I think we have covered all the reasons we don't want sex.  But have you ever wondered why people do have the desire for sex? It is more than for physical release, relief of stress or because we love someone.   According to one group of young adults, they noted up to 237 reasons for sex.. . .but there is actually just one main reason.  I will share that secret along with a few more that follow. I...

I am so excited to welcome Anjanette Ludwig to my podcast.  Anjanette is an amazing life coach helping moms and teens connect.  She is the life coach I hired to coach my own kids. . .and she is also my client.   I believe she has the secret many of us are missing in our relationships.   And if you are considering me as your coach, she will tell you more about how that has worked for her. This podc...

Welcome to Sexual Communication Part 2.  Let's get back to where we left off last week.  Today I will share the very first communication skill you need in your marriage. It is a pre-requisite to the other 7 skills I am going to share with you.  It begins with figuring out what you need from your relationship and ends with having gratitude for what you already have.  Join me as we walk through each...

Good sexual communication is an extension of good general communication, so let's start there.   Often times the troubles we experience with our partners when it comes to sex, and just in general, stem from different communication styles. The ability to communicate clearly is an uncommon skill, and yet it's the key to good relationships, including sexual ones. In this episode, find out the 4 most...

You asked for it - you got it.  To all of you women who are the higher desire partner - here you go. This podcast will go over emotional, physical and psychological reasons why your spouse may not have the same level of desire you do. We will discuss some underlying reasons that may be the culprit.  Some conditions may need to be addressed or you may just need to fill the gap between you with some...

Are you convinced your libido is shot? Do you feel like you have nothing left to give at the end of the day?  Stress, illness, medication, hormones or sheer exhaustion are all reasons you may feel like your sexual desire is not where you would like it.  This week on the podcast let's discuss where your libido went and how to get it back. 

One topic I hear often from my clients is that their kids are ruining their sex life.  They are so exhuasted from being a mom, that sex is the last thing they want or have time for.  Today I have good news - it doesn't have to be this way.  I am going to tell you why putting that relationship first is critical. I will teach you how to show your kids that you love them - but also show them that you...

One of my favorite things I get to do is help women discover how they orgasm so they can experience greater pleasure in their sexual encounters and build a better sexual relationship with their spouse.  I will share two main reasons women don't have orgasms and a few suggestions of ways to fix it.  This podcast is not only for those who can't orgasm, but I also share ways to understand your body a...

Your brain probably tells you your husband just wants sex - and that it has very little to do with you.  What if you were wrong?  What if it actually does?  Today in the podcast, I am going to explain the difference between men and women in the way they express love and closeness.  Today is about cleaning up the thoughts around this. You might just feel a closer connection than ever before.

I am so excited to have Licensed Marriage  and Family Therapist and Author, Laura Brotherson join me on the podcast this week.  So much of what I have learned has been from Laura.  We will be answering the question of what exactly auditory arousal is and ways to access it.  Most importantly, we will discuss the benefits that take place with verbal communication during sex. Simple words or phrases...

Most of us consider ourselves to be honest people, to have integrity. It may surprise you that this isn't always the case. Can you speak truthfully to your partner when it comes to your sexual relationship. . .or do you let some things slide to save hurting your partner? It's also possible the person you are deceiving the most, is yourself. But why? Today I will answer this question as well as sha...

We know we don't. . . we aren't sure why. . . but we just don't. So many of us do not feel comfortable talking about sex - even to our spouse. Our parents didn't talk to us much about intimacy and so we aren't sure how to talk to our children. Today on the podcast I will bring a few ideas to the table. I will share some tips to help you open up and talk more openly with your spouse. I have some th...

This week I had the privilege of interviewing Valerie Schwalbe from Well Being Physical Therapy in Murray Utah, specializing in the pelvic floor. If you have pain during sex, pelvic pain, leaking of any type, pelvic floor strain, feeling the effects of childbirth (episiotomy, scar tissue, prolapse, discomfort) or help with athletic performance - this podcast is for you. I think this covers just ab...

Bonus Episode!!!! I recently did a LIVE event on Creating Desire and decided that I wanted to share it with my entire audience because it was just too good not to share! For more information on what I share go to http://amandalouder.com/groups

Let's talk about fantasy. When it comes to sex, what is an appropriate fantasy and what is not? What benefits the marriage and what destroys it? Today I will teach you the difference - as well as how to incorporate sexual fantasies into your relationship to benefit both parties.

Every magazine seems to have different tips for a great sex life.  But Hollywood doesn't have the corner market on YOUR sex life. It's time to look inside ourselves and our spouse to see what creates a beautiful intimate relationship for us.  One that works for both of us. Today I will share the need for body, mind, and spirit connectivity in creating the pleasure you are seeking.  I will teach yo...

Today's podcast is packed with fun and valuable information. If you have children you already know there is a distinct difference in the way little boys and little girls perceive their bodies. Those differences tend to remain stuck in our brains into adulthood. I will share insight as to why that is and how you may be missing some of the greatest pleasures in your life - sexual arousal. You might...

Get ready. . .because the title of today's podcast may already have you squirming. But understanding and getting help with anal sex is only one topic I will be discussing. You will learn about emotional pressure - what it is - and when it's not OK. I have some awesome tips for communicating openly and honestly with your spouse concerning your desires. . .and theirs. How can you come to a clear agr...

Today I am tackling the topic of mindfulness during sex. Mindfulness is all about being present and aware of what is going on around you. If you are able to create a grocery list while you are having sex, this episode is for you. I will share tips on how to curb your racing brain and focus on what emotions are happening inside of you. I will also address slowing down or calming your anxieties befo...

Today I am going to take you on a journey from one end of the spectrum to the other when it comes to our bodies. On one end we find shaming, repressing and abusing the gift of our body and on the other end we find sexual indulgence. I will teach you where the middle ground for sexuality is and how it can be achieved.   Review the Podcast !

With a title like this, Higher Desires and Lower Desires, you're probably thinking that I'm talking about your desire for sex and what category you fall into . . .right? That is not what this podcast is all about; but it will relate to sex, as well as other aspects of your life. What desires do you have and what is keeping you from achieving them? I will give you steps to help lean into those high...

What is anxiety? What does it look like? How is it affecting your life - your partners life? In Podcast #108 I will take a look at anxiety and the possible side affects on your sex life. I share three main reasons anxiety may be interfering with your best life. Anxiety is an emotion that can take a physical as well as an emotional toll on you and your relationships. For some, there is a need for m...

I am stepping out of my sexuality niche for just a minute on today's podcast. Episode #107 is all about your thoughts. I will discuss your higher and lower brain, and describe characteristics of each level and help determine where you are functioning. Are you suffering, surviving, or thriving during this unique time? Do you want to switch it up? I am also sharing tips on how to give positive thoug...

How do you know what kinds of foods you like? You try them - right? The same goes for your sexual experiences. This week on the podcast I may challenge your thoughts surrounding what you view as right or wrong, good or bad. Podcast #106, Expanding You Sexual Palette is all about considering some new approaches to your bedroom play. What would you like to try? What about your spouse? Is the topic e...