Sex For Couples with Heather Shannon

The topic of today’s episode is low libido or sex drive. It’s one of the most common issues that sex therapists see in their practice. Usually, it’s either the partner who doesn't have much of a libido and you miss feeling connected to it, or you're totally fine not being connected to your sex drive, but your partner is not. If you find yourself under the dry spell or in a sexless marriage and you...

What's your most fucked up idea about sex?  This week, I'll talk about the myths, lies, and fucked up ideas about sex, people's sex lives, choices and preferences. I invite you to join me on a quest to rip off the negative labels our culture loves to cling to sex. I share my views on the health benefits of being sexually active, gender identity, BDSM and kink, sex work, and much more.  W...

How much do you know about the clitoris? Do you even know how to find it? Today's episode is dedicated to the clitoris. I'll cut right through the noise and misinformation about this organ with only one biological function: pleasure. I explain how to find the clitoris, how it works, what it looks like, and what sensations it produces in the body.  What You'll Learn: Why we need to know as muc...

Do you see your partner as a good co-parent, a long time friend, a roommate, or anything but an attractive, sexual being?  This week, I talk about what happens when the spark starts fading within a relationship. I invite you to rethink how attraction is built, to avoid falling into that kind of rut that says attraction is only physical, and explore new ways of feeling attracted and connected...

How aware are you of your emotions around sex?  This week, I talk about the emotional rollercoaster that relationships, dating, and sexual situations can provoke on us. I'll approach this issue from the Internal Family Systems model, which will help you better understand why you feel the way you feel about sex, intimacy, and personal relationships in general.  What You'll Learn: How mana...

Why is it that even when it could potentially be a deal-breaker for your partner, you avoid talking about sex? This week, I reveal why you find talking about sex so hard, how it affects yours and your partner's sex life, and how you can bring those barriers down. I also share tips on discussing sex with your partner, dealing with the natural awkwardness of discussing it, and caring for yours and t...

Let's start with the basics - what turns YOU on? Not what society, culture or religion says should turn you on, but what makes you feel vibrant and alive? In this episode, I approach this question from four different layers. I invite you to think about and debunk the social scripts around sex, redefine foreplay, and broaden the definition of sex beyond intercourse or penetrative sex.  &n...

Welcome to the Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast! This podcast will help you change how you look at sex.  I'm Heather Shannon, a Certified Sex Therapist, Holistic Health Coach, and a Shambala meditation guide. I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling, but most of my knowledge and expertise comes from my lived experience, personal exploration, and constant seeking of knowledge.  On this show, you...