Sex Ed The Musical

Are you in an "alternative" relationship? No, you are not, because there's no such thing as an "alternative" relationship. Who's to say what is alternative and what is mainstream? I'm guessing someone who's in a so-called mainstream relationship. But to other folks, your mainstream relationship may actually look like an alternative relationship. Jesus, I'm writing like an Escher drawing. Let's loo...

Welcome Back! This week I proudly present my most popular episode of all time, My Happy Ending Massage . As you're about to hear, this night was actually part of an amazing, three-day smutstravaganza I went on in Las Vegas. Don't judge. I was away from home for weeks. I was facing a big birthday. I was dehydrated. Whatever the reason may be, I did engage in some very questionable behavior and you'...

For the third of this month's Listener Favorite episodes, I present Under Covers "Nadia" These Under Covers episodes came from a desire to share with women all sorts of amazing and true stories of women of all ages, economic, social and religious backgrounds. What I started to realize is that even though we're all so different, in many ways we are the same. If you want to take a deep dive into the...

For the second of this month's Listener Favorite Episodes, here are EXPERT BLOWJOB TIPS FROM A GAY MAN As you're about to hear, there is a very funny backstory to this episode and how it all came to fruition. Basically, it was a last minute Hail Mary that turned into a total blockbuster with my listeners. Which, of course, makes total sense. Now as we all know, Michele Bachmann once said, "No one...

For the first of this month's Listener Favorite Episodes, we're going to focus on the top sexual fantasy for couples - a THREESOME. So many couples fantasize about having a third join them in bed but… HOW DO YOU FIND THAT PERSON? HOW DO YOU BOTH AGREE TO THAT PERSON?? HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH POTENTIAL JEALOUSY ISSUES??? These are all common questions and there's a lot to consider before you both deci...

I'm not the most adventurous eater. In fact, you can say I'm downright picky. There are some foods I flat out refuse to try. Brussels sprouts, lima beans, potato salad — even though I'd never tasted them, I was certain I hated them. Then one day my husband made brussels sprouts and I tried them. And I liked them! Hey Mikey! Now, whenever I'm in the mood, I eat brussels sprouts. Believe it or not,...

You're sitting down with your 10-year-old for a dinner of mac and cheese, chicken nuggets and grapes. All on separate plates, of course. On the table there's a box of spilled apple juice, a few Snoopy stickers and several dried-out markers. Soccer gear is strewn on the floor alongside a few of this morning's Cheerios and a naked Barbie missing half of her hair. It's just another day. Until your ki...

Boundaries. The word itself can be as intimidating as barbed wire. Scary to set. Scary to express. Scary to defend. But you know what's scarier than setting or defending boundaries? Having no boundaries at all. There's a good reason you might be afraid to establish boundaries. Perhaps you were socialized never to make waves, or told to be obedient at all times otherwise you might upset someone. Or...

We already know that due to the COVID pandemic, it's not currently safe to attend a crowded restaurant. It's not safe to attend a busy gym. It's not safe to attend large religious gatherings. So…it's almost certainly not safe to attend an orgy. What's a sexually adventurous person to do? Attend one online? That's right, thanks to the pandemic, some folks are now opting for video platforms such as...

When you think of swinging, what's the first image that comes to your mind? Some key party in the 1970s? Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman in masks? A suburban couple revealing their lifestyle on The Oprah Show ? I'm going to assume all of those images in your mind have one thing in common. Everybody is white. If you've been paying attention you know it's already dangerous to be driving while Black. Ou...

It seems to be one of the last bastions of unchecked racism. "I'm looking for someone special to spend the rest of my life with. Someone kind, loving and adventurous. Together we'll create a perfect life where we'll explore the world, always be there for each other and bring out the best in each other. No Black men." Whaaaaaa? Sure, is it well within your rights to be completely honest about what...

In a world that routinely shuts down, dominates, gaslights, harasses, and demeans people of color, you'd think Black folks would not be interested in power play. Well, you would be wrong. "But I never see any Black folks in the kink world!" Maybe that's because when we see representations of kink in movies, online, on the "adults only" magazine rack behind the slushee machine at a gas station, we...

Did you know that interracial marriage was illegal in 16 states until June 12, 1967? 1967! On this episode, I reveal why I've been hiding behind my privilege for the past two weeks and why the anniversary of this landmark ruling finally inspired me to step forward to do what I can to help support the cause. The Loving v. Virginia ruling personally affects my own life. Why? Great question, thanks f...

Necessity is the mother of invention. According to the interwebs, this proverb was first said by Plato. Or Frank Zappa. Or a cartoon, crime-fighting squirrel. Okay, it doesn't really matter who said it originally, cause I'm not paying any royalties to anyone. The fact remains, it's true. Because right now, as millions of us remain sheltered in place, confused and overwhelmed, we've needed to reinv...

Well, if there's one thing we've learned in the past few months it's that pandemics are great for sex toy sales. Sure, movie theaters, malls and hair salons are shuttered, but sex toy sales are buzzing ! I have friends who have actually worn out vibrators as they're shelter in place. But, what if you don't have $120 for a new vibrator? Or you don't feel comfortable ordering sex toys online? Worry...

There's that voice in your head. That voice that can be very critical of you at the worst moments possible. We do all sorts of work to try to control that voice. Silence it. Take control of that voice and shut it down. Well, according to acclaimed Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt, that strategy is completely backwards. In this episode, Allana Pratt reveals that we need not to silence or to kill that v...

NEWS FLASH! It's not just disinfecting wipes, toilet paper and all-purpose baking flour flying off of the shelves right now. Retailers all over the world are reporting that sales of sex toys have spiked over the past two months as people are looking for new ways to find comfort and stress relief during their self-quarantine. Some countries are seeing sex toy sales buzzing with increases over 200%....

We're all socially distancing. Sheltered in place. Huddled braless in front of Netflix, confused, foraging for snacks and wondering if we might have to turn old socks into toilet paper. IT'S A MADHOUSE!!! A MADHOUSE!!! How are we to survive? I know! Let's laugh at other peoples' misfortune. That always works for me. Since, this is a show about sex, we'll laugh at their sexual misfortune. Win/win!...

I started doing these interviews with women I'd never met because I wanted to paint a picture for my listeners who fear that perhaps, when it comes to sex, there's something wrong with them or that they're not normal. The first thing I'd like to point out is that there's no such thing as normal. The concept of "normal" was invented by someone with a big, fat, throbbing agenda who was trying to dic...

One of the best parts of my ridiculous job as head of programming at Playboy TV, was being able to learn from all of the amazing experts I worked with. Highly qualified educators, experts and authors who were truly concerned about the state of sex education in this world and how to inspire us to pursue lives of healthy passion, sexual adventure and pleasure. At the top of that list is my friend, D...

This Under Covers social experiment has been really mind-blowing for me and the answers, however small the sampling is, tell a very interesting story. First of all, I started doing these interviews because I wanted you to know that YOU ARE NORMAL. This idea that we're strange or, dirty or unworthy of sexual pleasure all stems back to us being stigmatized during sex education. I spoke to one woman...

You get your teeth cleaned. You get your oil changed. You replace the batteries in your smoke detectors. It's a fact that certain things in life require regular maintenance. Your sex life is one of those things. In this episode, I speak with licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Shannon Chavez. A nationally recognized expert, public speaker and prolific writer , Dr. Chavez specializes in "all things...

I know a lot of amazing single women. Highly accomplished. Attractive. Stable. Confident. Driven. Smart women. They have careers. They have homes. They have their shit together. Mathematically, you'd think there are at least a similar amount of men out there who share those attributes. Apparently…not so much. So where are all of these eligible men? In this episode I interview acclaimed author, sex...

What a GIGANTIC week! Season two is happening, yo! We're about to reach 30,000 downloads!!! My writing on Medium has garnered over 100,000 views. I'm enjoying a very fun, remote-controlled vibrator ( affiliate link ) that you and your boo need right now. Plus, I decided that enough is enough and I'm going to stop coloring my damn hair. It's a gradual process so as to avoid a skunk line, (not judgi...

About once a week, someone asks me how to have a threesome. We're talking friends of mine, people I know through work, women I've met at yoga. Okay, I don't go to yoga once a week, I probably go once a month but it's so horrible it feels like once a week. Regardless, I am asked this question over and over again. This is a fact: Having a threesome is the number one sexual fantasy of heterosexual co...