SEX ED FOR YOU: Where Research Meets Reality

In this episode, Lauren and I tackle the age old question, how should you flirt? What even is flirting? What’s the purpose of flirting? Pulling on our favorite resources, Pleasure Activism, Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, and my personal life (lol), we create a toolkit for you to use when flirting out in the wild. ;) Love always, H RESOURCES Pleasure Activism Sexual Values Worksheet (CODE: FL...

This episode was recorded to help those of you who are currently in a relationship and considering long-term commitment: is this the relationship for you? DOWNLOAD THE PARTNERHSIP CONSIDERATION JOURNAL PROMPTS HERE FOR FREE -- CODE: NUANCE Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please liste...

This episode tackles topics like age gap romance real-life applications and what conversations we think should preempt relationship attempts. Lauren and I discuss the importance of individuation, developmental age markers, and aligning your longings with potential partners. We give light to the fun aspects of fantasy that enrapt many people fascinated with a person who’s much older or younger than...

TW: PET LOSS If you follow us on socials, you probably already know that my (Holland’s) dog, Ollie, passed away recently. This episode was filmed a couple days after we held his funeral. We talk about the funeral, grief, and how we’re all adapting to a new life without our little best friend. We also touch on having funerals/goodbye rituals for past situationships and how that can be really benefi...

Y’all, Lauren and I ran to the podcast chairs as soon as Bridgerton Season 3 came out. No S3 spoilers here, but if you haven’t seen S1 & S2 then you should probably watch those first. ;) This conversation was all about the erotic themes of the Bridgerton love stories we’ve seen so far: Daphne + Simon, Anthony + Kate, and the long awaited Pen + Colin. Lauren and I talk through our own favorite...

Our very elaborate & nuanced answer to the question: should you date long term, monogamously, or should you casually date in your 20s? RESOURCES Polysecure Ethical Slut Sex At Dawn Dr. Caroline Leaf Pleasure Activism, Adrienne Maree Brown Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please li...

This episode starts off with our quick anecdote to one of our listeners who said they don’t like our new intro: WE SEE YOU, truly! & say, pls feel free to skip it! This sets up the most amazing conversation about consent. I (Holland) found a Reddit post the other day written by a father about his daughter disclosing her discomfort around an adult in her life . This conversation is nuanced in s...

This episode is about the importance of learning the art of choice. We sat down for this episode with no particular topic in mind and out came this conversation about how the lack of autonomy and choice making skills in adolescence deeply affect your ability to choose later in life. We empower listeners (and ourselves) to make cognizant decisions about who we surround ourselves with and to critica...

In this episode, we draw parallels between the iconic One Tree Hill marriage and the intricacies of harmful sexual behaviors, shedding light on hidden misogyny within anti-porn rhetoric. We confront the phenomenon of women pitted against women and the all-too-common expectation of male "failure" when it comes to porn, while honoring the harm that trust and deceit play in this conversatio...

TW: Sexual Assault To start this episode I gave a much-anticipated recap of my weekend to Lauren, so y’all could see her very hilarious reactions to my antics and analyses of a chaotic party that I attended. Then, you get to hear the story of how my upbringing in Reformed Presbyterianism is quite different from Lauren’s. I talk about how it affected my values and my approach to early life and why...

Lauren's story with religion, her personal journey with Christianity, and Sex Ed For You's stance on faith. Resources: Circles of Sexuality : Use code EP24 to download for free "Good Sex" and religion: a feminist overview Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please liste...

This episode is truly all over the place. We start off with a bang, talking about my most recent experience with my queerness and exploring what it means to me, and why labels feel relatively daunting. Then, we talk about Jennifer Aniston’s scene from “He’s Just Not That Into You,” where the person she’s been partnered with for years refuses to marry her, and we dive into all the facets of life th...

This episode is all about transitioning seasons and periodically checking in with self. What does it mean to gently move from one season to the next and how does one do that without losing all sense of self? What does it look like to end friendships as we outgrow them? We discuss how good intentions don’t negate harm done and how we each have learned to take accountability in hard situations. List...

This episode was inspired by an Instagram Reel that very beautifully and cinematically showed the breakup process. Lauren and I tackled this topic full speed ahead– what does it mean to communicate your desires within a relationship for more expansive partnership? What does it look like to be the villain in someone else’s story? How do we become okay with being the main character in our own story?...

This conversation shows you, dear audience, the side of working in sex education that many don’t see– the high expectations placed on self and the feeling of being in the spotlight (especially in regards to dating and sexual practices). Lauren and I talk about the values policy we’re starting to build out and how that affects employee dating practices; a conversation sparked after a difficult dinn...

Lauren and I talk a little bit about what bisexuality looks like on a deeper level than is typically spoken about in day to day conversations. I give my own perspectives and lived experiences of bisexuality, coming out, and the lifelong journey of learning that I’ve come to appreciate. We bring up a few really interesting topics; like the fact that the LGBTQIA+ community is, at its core, a system...

This episode covers the question we hear MOST often: "I want to want to have more sex." What does it mean to want to want more sex? Do you really just not want the sex you're having right now? What kind of sex do you really want to have? Lauren and I talk about the motivations behind this statement and what we, as sex educators, think could be better questions to ask yourself before...

In this episode, Lauren and I talk through all the amazing experiences we had in New York. We had a beautiful gathering our first night there; toured the Met, the Museum of Sex, and Stonewall, saw a show off Broadway, and enjoyed stand-up at the Comedy Cellar. Lauren spoke on a panel about sex and relationship during menopause, then we rounded up the trip with a day in Brooklyn, visiting fun store...

In this episode, Lauren and I talk about aligning your sexual preferences and longings with partners; both early in relationship, and in long-term relationships. We discuss what it can look like when a person wants to explore their fantasies in a relationship and the risks and rewards of that vulnerability. We bring up some fun memories – The Rice Purity test and the BDSM test , which we see as fu...

This episode dives into the intricacies that come with the internet and its inevitable connections with sexuality. From nudes and snapchat to porn and butt play– this episode has it all! Resources: Amaze.org HELP MY KID WATCHED PORN WEBINAR ($30) Worksheets! Butt plugs: ⁠Cone small⁠ ⁠ Cone medium (vibrating + larger) Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a &q...

Lauren and I talk about the 2023 Holiday Season, and all the chaos that ensued as a result of sickness, family, and circumstance. We dive into traditional gender roles, those that Lauren and I feel are enforced by the church and the construct of the "American Dream." We talk about what egalitarianism is to us and what it looks like for me to fight for true equity in familial contexts. Bu...

This episode we talk about what sex can look like during the holidays! Mutual masturbation, self-pleasure at homes of origin, and reconnecting with past flames. We also briefly touch on what it looks like to be a learner of love.. aka, what does it mean to be a good lover? How can you tell if someone is a good lover? Then, we talk about what it can look like to reconnect with past flames and how t...

Enjoy this short Holiday Episode!! <3 Happy Holidays! Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Hol...

In this episode, I open up about my journey with STIs and how being tested after a sexual assault encounter was a crucial turning point for me. I share my experience with testing and treatment, highlighting the importance of sexual health. This topic is difficult, but so so important for anyone who is sexually active. I hope you see a new perspective on STIs after listening along to this episode....

This is a tender episode that Lauren and I made in response to an anonymous question we received the week prior. This brave person reached out to us asking for advice about their decision to have first intercourse within their current relationship. The original anonymous question is read aloud for the audience, but the additional context provided by our brave friend is kept out of the episode. We...