Self Control

Are you sick of having no control over your emotions? Has people-pleasing and endlessly criticising yourself left you wondering who you even are? Did something happen in your past that's left you hopelessly stuck? When pain, loss, trauma or misfortune happens to us, our Ego acts to keep us safe as we continue through life, but sometimes that means we don't grow into our true self. We're left with...

Pain, trauma, grief, abuse, misfortune... These things cannot be avoided in life. But something else happens after these experiences. Something we cannot see or control. Behind the scenes, in your mind, your Ego is writing your life story. And it becomes very concerned with these painful and negative experiences you've had. It begins wonder if maybe you're weak and vulnerable. It forces you to pro...

Do you find yourself obsessed with controlling everything around you... and yet you can't seem to control your emotions? Do you obsess over every little thing being perfect, and going YOUR WAY, but freak out if it doesn't? Are you scared to death of failing in front of your peers, yet you love to criticise yourself every night? These are all signs of an unhealthy or wounded Ego. The Ego is the par...

Check Out Patrick's Guest Appearance on the 1% Podcast: https://youtu.be/05_CphncyZY Are you struggling to begin your self-development journey? Or has your progress slowed down? As difficult as it may be, this could be a sign that it's time to change up your eco-system. What exactly does this mean? In life, we are always consuming information and especially the thoughts and words of other people....

Check Out Patrick's Guest Appearance on the 1% Podcast: https://youtu.be/05_CphncyZY Do you struggle to have success over the long-term? Do inconsistency and bad habits lead to poor results in some area of your life? Perhaps you can't stick to a diet... or vices like weed, coffee, alcohol and porn hold you back. You'd like to feel clear-headed and confident, but it's just not there. It can be very...

Are you procrastinating and avoiding change because it's hard or scary? Do you feel powerless or that you can't make a difference in your life? Do you feel like you're spinning your wheels? Are you anxious and weak? Let this podcast be your first "Belief System Checkpoint!" In many cases, it is our own Limiting Beliefs that leave us feeling this way. And those beliefs are hard to forget because th...

Do you find it easy to be present in everyday life? Are you focussed on the task at hand? Or are you thinking about something else while doing what you're doing? And how do you start the day? With your phone and checking emails, or with peace? If you are interested in becoming more present and at-peace, this clip will provide some food for thought. Patrick interviews therapist Mira Taylor, and she...

We all have many voices in our head. Some of them are louder than others. Some of them hurt us, some of them help us. But when hurtful or abusive thoughts take over our mind, we can begin to suffer from low self-esteem and low self-confidence. We begin to live life believing that we are ugly, fat, unworthy, or a screw-up. Let this be your awareness moment... Some of those thoughts are not yours! Y...

Self-improvement or personal development is something we can all do. And while it can be a lonely road, you don't have to be alone all the time. The "1% Man (Secret Self Improvement Group)" is a private Facebook group with over 15,000 members. Men (and women) from all walks of life are encouraged to share their story and ask questions about how to become the best version of themselves, often recei...

Marijuana often starts as a harmless, fun habit that becomes a part of our everyday life. If you feel like your long-term pot use is starting to ruin your quality of life, it can be stressful and challenging to quit. In this episode, Patrick shares with you the advice he would have given his younger self to quit smoking weed much sooner. This is not about lecturing or preaching. This episode offer...

All of us have been given the gift of energy. So what happened to yours? Feeling tired, sluggish, being unable to concentrate, and procrastination are all signs of low energy. And the truth is, we don't admit that there are things we choose to do that SUCK the energy right out of us. What's worse is when our energy is low, and we aren't getting things done, and we aren't showing up as our best sel...

Every single one of us has plenty of reasons to hate the world. And yet, not all of us do. What's the difference? Negative experiences can, over time, make us into cynical and hateful people Painful experiences like being bullied, being cheated on or abused, or being labelled short, ugly, and dumb. When those negative experiences cause us to believe the whole world is hurtful, or scary, or that al...

Do you often worry about what other people think of you? It's something we humans are programmed to do. In order to find love and acceptance and success we need to fit in socially. But when this worry leads us away from being who we truly are, we can find a lot of sadness and shameful behaviour. And yet, we can never fully escape the judgments of others. What if there was a way to take the thought...

Is anxiety making your life worse? Worry, restlessness, poor sleep, racing thoughts, always cranky, trouble focussing... Don't you deserve better? Anxiety is our nervous system's stress response to things which may or may not be threatening. But if you find that it's starting to get out of hand and impact your life there are a number of things you can do. In this episode, Patrick loads you up on p...

Are you feeling unhappy lately? Do you also tell yourself that your happiness "will come when I finally..."? What is your happiness waiting on? So often we apply conditions to our happiness and drive ourselves away from it, believing we don't deserve to be happy now. Doesn't happiness come in the moment? Surely we can't experience tomorrow's happiness today. So why always wait till tomorrow? In th...

Do you often find yourself thinking about who you want to be? What you need to get done? Or how you're going to keep up with your friends and family? It's human nature to think about the future, to plan for it, and to question it. But when those thoughts about the future turn fearful and negative we can begin to lose our grip on the present. The truth is, we need to keep our eye on the future and...

It is very easy to fall into despair. Into hopelessness. With TV and social media, we have access to an endless stream of bad news. In our personal life there is heartbreak, disappointment, loneliness and exhaustion. But if we choose to believe that pain is all the world has to offer us, we can begin to lose hope. In fact, if you internalize that pain for too long it affects every possible aspect...

Creating a daily routine on paper is the easiest productivity hack and mental health boost you're overlooking. Life is unpredictable. We all know that. So why not inject some predictability where you can? There is so much to do, and so often, we are unsure where to start. Why not start by listing and scheduling these all tasks instead of imagining them or guessing? If you are someone who others de...

Ask yourself this question: How much of your unhappiness or dissatisfaction comes from having expectations about the way things "should be"? Or could have been? Or need to be? What if things unfolded exactly as they would, regardless of your actions? This way of thinking, this acceptance, does not mean giving up self-control, or surrendering, and letting your god of choice take over. Letting go, l...

Pornography is one of the most powerful drugs in the world today. But many, many men don't realize just how much damage they are doing to themselves by watching it and masturbating themselves while doing so. Both of those acts, especially when done together, can be the root cause of emotional instability, mood swings, depression, anxiety, lack of ambition, lack of aspiration and weakness in an all...

Weightlifting or any form of resistance training does wonders for our mind, body and spirit. If you are looking to improve in nearly any aspect of your life, resistance training or strength training is a step in that direction. It doesn't have to be complicated, it doesn't have to be expensive. And putting time and effort into yourself and your goals will lead to increased self-confidence. If you'...

Are you looking for some advice on how to quit that unhealthy habit? Are you sick and tired of being stuck in the same old loop, when you know you deserve better? There is a way toward a better life for you, and it is not out of reach. You can start today. Even right now if you want to. This podcast will not tell you to change, this podcast will not lecture you. Instead, let us reveal to you the f...

Are people in your life telling you: you need to quit or you need to change? Is there a behaviour in your life causing you shame, wasting your time, or wasting your money? This episode is NOT going to tell you to change. This episode is NOT going to tell you to quit. This episode is going to give you one very easy-to-follow piece of advice that will help you become your best self. The truth is, yo...

Becoming self-aware allows us to better understand ourselves and our problems. But how do we become aware? Can we force it? Can we speed up the process? In this episode, Patrick breaks down his story of awareness of his eating habits. He reveals some hard truths and some optimism about what it means to become aware. If you are looking to improve your eating habits, or any other regular behaviour,...

Do you ever have the feeling that life is happening to you and that you're not actually living it? Have you become a passive observer of your own life story? Unfortunately, many of our bad habits and negative thought patterns arise because we are not actively in control of our lives. We are living on Autopilot. But if you have the courage to break free from that way of living, that is enough to ge...