Self Control

Do you believe you're capable of doing more? Being more productive? Becoming a better person? Do you want to stop procrastinating on everything, big or small? Well then why aren't you doing it!? I asked myself the same question. Honestly- we don't do that stuff because we don't know how. And we don't know how because we aren't even looking at it the right way. In this episode I want to show you ho...

If you're feeling stuck in a rut... Or feeling trapped in your job or in your relationship... The feelings of wasted time and disappointment can become quite painful. The good news, you may not be stuck at all! In this episode I will share with you a simple but powerful technique for reframing our thoughts of being trapped or feeling stuck. When we shift where we are looking, and learn to take con...

Late last year I realized I was barely talking to my partner. I was also struggling to communicate in the workplace. Sound familiar? Not sharing your thoughts, not sure what to say, people talking over you and at you... The truth is, if we don't express what we think and feel, we don't actually know what we think and feel. Our life is just happening to us, passing us by. So, let's talk about it! I...

Do you find yourself wishing you had better self-control? Many of us, myself included, are faced with shame and guilt when we can't do what we BELIEVE we SHOULD do. My life improved once I stopped that negative, abusive way of thinking, and started looking at self-control in a new way. You can try this for yourself today! In this episode I will break down the old way of thinking about self-control...

You can and you will find your purpose! Thanks for stopping by. On today's episode we will discuss a major, major issue that many of us face. How do you find your purpose in life? Of course, no podcast (no matter how great 😉) can tell you your purpose. In fact, despite all the challenges and struggles in my life, I have never struggled with my purpose. So what can I really tell you? If you are fe...

No one can tell you how to live your life! This is a big reason why we fail to quit our bad habits using SOMEONE ELSE'S advice. But of course, you'd still like help with a plan of action, right? Wouldn't it be great if someone could give us a personalized method for curing our anxiety or stopping unhealthy habits like smoking, pornography use or procrastination? This is exactly what this podcast c...

Thanks for checking out the Self-Control podcast! Are you feeling down these days or feeling like you're in a rut? Do you find yourself thinking about the bad things in life? The most empowering part of this podcast is that I will share with you behaviours and tips that you can begin today to feel better sooner than later. So when it comes to "not feeling 100%" or if you're looking to change your...

On today's Mindfulness Minute, we'll continue talking about natural remedies for anxiety, as well as understanding self-doubt and frustration. Ultimately, these are a problem of being distracted. But distraction doesn't happen here or there, it happens ALL OVER our life. It is a way of life. You want improved productivity? You want to feel happy? Proud? Focus! Easier said than done, but practice m...

If self-discipline happens in our mind, what are the actual, physical tasks we can do to strengthen it? One of these behaviours is EXPRESSION. But how do you express? What are you supposed to say? How does it help? All of this will be answered in less than 10 minutes. In this episode, I will explain how expression frees us from a life of "not thinking for our self" and tell you exactly what I had...

I want to let you know that YES, there are natural ways to increase focus and concentration. The fact that you are reading this means you have already started. So let's keep going! If you are aware that you struggle to stay focussed... Or if anxiety is getting worse because you can't achieve your goals... Now is the time to bring mindfulness into your life. These improvements won't come over night...

For years, I was in the grip of both a pornography and marijuana addiction. Many, many days of my youth wasted. Toxic habits like these lower our energy, put us in a bad mood, ruin our self-confidence, and WORST OF ALL, they blind us to who we truly are! They rob us of our potential. Looking back on how I quit these 10 and 15-year-long addictions, I have developed a clear process that I want to sh...

There are too many ways to be distracted these days. So why add to that by distracting yourself? If you find that you're not getting enough done, not staying on task, and struggling to concentrate, you may be asking yourself "how can I focus better?" Then the anxiety starts to creep in... Not getting enough done, falling behind, doubting yourself. This has been a major problem for me, but through...

I have spent years trying to understand why I fell into toxic habits like pornography, marijuana, and overeating. I tried and failed to quit those habits more times than I can count. Today, I consider myself free and clear of both porn and weed. Now I am working on healthy eating. (I've lost 30lbs, but the battle continues!) It wasn't until I regularly did these 3 things that I began to understand...

We humans are gifted with many great powers. In this episode I will remind you of two of them: the ability to see the past, present and future, and the ability to talk to our self. But as the late Uncle Ben said, "with great power comes great responsibility." Are you worried about your future? Guilty about your past? Do you talk to yourself like an enemy or a friend? Do you see and express the lif...

Is there a so-called "bad habit" in your life that you're trying to quit? How's that going? Have you considered that maybe it has something to teach you before it leaves your life? My biggest and longest addictions took years to break, but over that time I learned so much about myself. So hopefully, using what I learned, you can get past those unhealthy habits much quicker and still get the benefi...

Everywhere you look, someone is trying to sell you a miracle cure or a product that will change your life. I'm no different. However- I believe the cure and the product exist within you already. I'm just encouraging you to look and listen hard enough to find them. So, if you're working on improving some unhealthy habits... If you have mental health issues, and you're feeling: -Guilt and shame abou...

In our last few episodes we've been talking about Binary Entrapment. What the hell does that mean and how can it help you? It is THE fundamental understanding I needed to quit my addictions and improve my mental health. This is something you CAN control if you're looking to stop feeling guilty, be less distracted and quit self-abuse and end self-sabotage. So in the interests of communicating it to...

This is part 2 of the previous episode. Start there if you haven't already. Frankly, I lived in a very childish way for a long time. Now that I've begun to really grow up, I'm reflecting on how I grew out of my addictions and limiting beliefs. It is childish, and small, and immature to sit there and hate the present moment. It is stupid to wish things were different. It doesn't do me any good to l...

All of us, myself included, have said "I need to change!" And then we say tomorrow, or next time, or next month. But I have discovered that that very mindset--that way of thinking-- is TOXIC! So whether it comes to quitting bad habits, or working on slowing down an addiction, we have all made the mistake of distracting ourself with the future. Substance abuse, behavioural addictions like gambling...

If we spend 2 hours a day eating, then in 70 years, that's over 50, 000 hours! Doesn't that seem like something we should pay close attention to? And yet, because it is so routine and habitual, eating becomes automatic. We eat whatever, whenever, and do other things at the same time. Now, it's not my place to judge how you live your life, but... If you're like I was, and you are dissatisfied with...

Self-improvement is a scam. Many, many people (myself included) try to gain recognition, or make money, selling YOU the idea that you need to improve. No more. At least not for me. It's time for me to be more honest with you, the listener. If you're crawling around the internet, looking at YouTube videos, and dreaming that you could be like those social media influencers... If you're burning and b...

I've been away for awhile talking to the voices in my head. Now, I'm not making fun of those with real mental illness, but ask yourself this: Aren't there voices in your mind too? Anxious thoughts, self-doubt, fear of failure? What if we could use those voices for good? To actually get where we want in life? There are two things you can start today that will do exactly that for you. In this exclus...

"How can I develop unshakeable discipline like Cristiano Ronaldo?" A good question, but it starts us off on the wrong foot. In this episode I will share with you my process for developing discipline FOR our self and BY our self. The most empowering thing is that you can start RIGHT NOW and see changes immediately. So if you're looking to feel better, get more out of life, and be more productive--i...

Recently a listener reached out to me and asked how I learned what I know. This episode is my answer to that. So much of my insight into mental health has been through my own struggles with addiction and bad habits. I was able to learn so much by understanding and overcoming pornography, marijuana, and overeating. That is all I can offer you: the courage to observe and understand yourself is your...

Some listeners have been curious about my personal story. So today I want to share a little bit of my journey. This is the tale of how I went from anxious, introverted, and afraid to feeling strong and empowered. I believe that if you are willing to try mindfulness, and to reflect upon your past actions, you can begin this journey too. The most empowering part of this process is that we can start...